Asking in-laws to change diaper...

[Anonymous]

No way. I'd hand baby back to FIL and say "nice try, she's in your direct bloodline, not mine." Why would you not call him out on that? My FIL is sexist and old school but I'm working on him.

[Anonymous]

Lol, I don't think direct bloodline matters unless you are the parent!

[Anonymous]

Just unbelievable how people lack boundaries! Personally I would be too embarrassed to ask my brother's wife to change diaper even if I was in the middle of something. To some degree I would consider it disrespectful... But that is just me.

[Anonymous]

What did you do, OP?

[Anonymous]

Did you call the men sexist ? If not, why didn't you ? It's time they are put in their places and know we do NOT accept that kind of behavior.

You need to be loud and make an ass of yourself so they NEVER EVER EVER make that mistake again !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No way. I'd hand baby back to FIL and say "nice try, she's in your direct bloodline, not mine." Why would you not call him out on that? My FIL is sexist and old school but I'm working on him.

It's awesome (and I'm not being sarcastic) that you have a relationship like that with your FIL, but not everyone does. I certainly don't. I posted above that I would hand the baby to the BIL who was sitting right there or change the baby if no one else were around. Then again, my FIL also has mobility issues that would make it much easier for me to stand up to change a diaper than it would for him to do so (not that he couldn't do it if needed, though). But absent those issues I still wouldn't call him out. My father on the other hand...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did you do, OP?

Im the OP, my sister is the one who was asked to change the diaper (second time now) and she went ahead cos she felt bad for the baby but she was very offended.

It has barely been an year since she got married. What a way to welcome her!

Personally I wouldn't, I would most likely ignore the request but if the baby is "forcefully" put on my laps, I would hand her to the parent.

[Anonymous]

I've had several relatives (including my FIL) offer to change diapers and feed her and I rarely turn that down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you were to go visiting to in-laws and your FIL was holding your BIL's newborn baby but passed the baby to you (a newly married woman with no kids) to change a diaper full of diahorrea, then ask you to feed afterwards, would you find it sexist? Would you do it esp. If one of the parents (BIL) was there just playing with his phone? [/quote

Yes, it is sexist and yoh should have said not only no but HELL NO!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've had several relatives (including my FIL) offer to change diapers and feed her and I rarely turn that down.

Someone offering to do it is totally different from you "asking"

[Anonymous]

I would find this incredibly sexist...BUT! I am surprised at all these responses indicating that you don't want to change a family baby's diaper. In the first weeks after my second kid arrived, I didn't change a single diaper thanks to family (mostly my mom) helping out. I probably would have been sexist (against men) and insisted BIL change the diaper under my supervision. I am a feminist, but also accept reality which is that older men don't do things like change diapers and younger men sometimes need a kick in the rear to do it.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if it's sexist or lazy, but either way I'd say "no thanks" and not reach out for the baby.

[Anonymous]

Btw, OP, that's just what newborn diapers are like...

[Anonymous]

So OP is this your kid? Why didn't you change her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So OP is this your kid? Why didn't you change her?

Nope, it's niece to my sister's DH.