How often do you talk to your spouse?

[Anonymous]

A few minutes in the morning.
FB/email/text during day most days.
While exercising / making & eating dinner.
Before bed.

On weekends we might spend the whole day together talking.

We don't use the phone often--very rarely for <5 min. just to check something, unless one of us is out of town, when we might do 20 min. before bed.

[Anonymous]

I talk to him in the mornings in person before he goes to work. I talk to him at home when he gets home from work.

He texts me when he leaves work so I can get dinner ready for him.

If there's a question one of us needs to ask the other or important news to share, we might text or email. Yesterday we sent a few emails because I needed a password to book a hotel, then I texted about a doctor visit DD had. That happens maybe weekly or biweekly.

I can't remember the last time we spoke on the phone.

[Anonymous]

Unless there is some logistical thing like kids' sports practices or something has come up in school, not at all. We talk in the mornings and evenings at home. We may be outliers - we both travel for work and don't call each other frequently although we both check in with the kids daily.

[Anonymous]

We usually text or send a brief email a few times a day. Talking to him on your way to and from work? Yeah that's weird.

[Anonymous]

i mean, we live together, so we talk a lot

but during the work day, we usually gchat a fair amount

if one of us is out of town we'll usually text more than usual, talk on the phone a bit - but neither of us is a phone person, so even then we aren't on the phone together a whole lot

[Anonymous]

There's a lot of variation in how much people talk talk to their spouses, and it's all within normal for a relationship. If you spend too much time on personal communications during work hours, that's what she's commenting on.

[Anonymous]

We almost never talk on the phone (or text) unless we need to coordinate pickup/dropoff, dinner, dr.s appt, one of us running late, etc. We talk in person in the mornings, evenings and weekends at home. WTH is there to talk about constantly, even while one of you is at the grocery store? How do you get anything done?! Yes, I think it's excessive, OP.

[Anonymous]

I'm mostly like you OP. We chat on the phone on the way to work (we drop kids off at different schools) and then we'll probably call once during the day just to say hi, I call on my way home and he'll call on his way home also. We also usually leave the video connection open in the evening if one of is travelling.

[Anonymous]

If we're not together, we generally are focused on what we're doing and not talking at that time. When we're in the house together, we talk.

It's nice that you enjoy each other's company so much.

[Anonymous]

Chat for about 10 mins in the mornings (in person)
Maybe 1 or 2 emails or texts a day at work - usually logistical stuff
During dinner and after the kids go to bed

We generally don't talk on the phone unless one of us is traveling. We never use gchat or anything like that - but then again neither of us use those programs much at all.

[Anonymous]

Not much. Our marriage is on the rocks though and DH is not a talker.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's excessive if you both enjoy it.

For me and my relationship, that wouldn't work. I'm not a phone talker and I enjoy my car ride of silence or listening to the radio. I don't want to be talking to someone else (even my DH) in every free moment.

I would never video chat with my husband while one of us is out of town. After a long day, we would probably have a 5 minute conversation and then I want to read my book or watch some bad TV to unwind.

Just different hard-wiring. I think my husband feels the same as I do, so it works for us.

When we are physically together, we of course talk. But sometimes we just relax in the same room and each do our own thing.

We also have kids. You don't mention if you have kids. I also have 2 kids talking to me constantly when we're together. Sometimes I just need a minute (or 120) to myself!!

[Anonymous]

Talk a little bit (less than five minutes in the morning). That is because he is not a morning person and I am usually heading out with the kids just as he is getting up.

Usually a phone call around lunch that is about 15 minutes, checking in with each other.

If we don't make that phone call, usually a text or email checking in.

Sometimes he will call on the way home, but I don't count on it.

We usually chat a bunch at night, both at dinner and after the kids are in bed.

[Anonymous]

My husband would probably do this if I was into it. He is always talking to somebody on the phone in the car.

I don't enjoy talking on the phone. I actually really value just having time to let my mind wander. No music, no talking, no internet, no TV...just being. I genuinely think this is a dying art.

Remember when we couldn't constantly walk and drive around and talk on our phones literally every place we went? I sometimes think about that. What did we do with ourselves???? We just had our brain with us. I also used to listen to a lot more music pre-cell phone and I miss that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband would probably do this if I was into it. He is always talking to somebody on the phone in the car.

I don't enjoy talking on the phone. I actually really value just having time to let my mind wander. No music, no talking, no internet, no TV...just being. I genuinely think this is a dying art.

Remember when we couldn't constantly walk and drive around and talk on our phones literally every place we went? I sometimes think about that. What did we do with ourselves???? We just had our brain with us. I also used to listen to a lot more music pre-cell phone and I miss that.

And yes, I am old before anyone asks. I'm 41. I didn't have a cell phone until my late 20s.