please help! single-parent family teenager can't accept dad dating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,
If you are not already doing so, please see a therapist.
It sounds like you have serioiusly lost perspective here.
You want one thing, this situation is not going to give it to you, but you refuse to break things off despite risks to you and your son
Plus, this man's parenting is lamentable. Call the police?
I'm not impressed with his partnering potential.
He's asking you to stay in a dangerous situation.
Why? Many fathers would encourage a break, to focus on their daughter.
She should be the priority now, not you. She's disturbed.
Many partners would accept a woman's request for a break.
He's pressuring you to stay for selfish reasons.
How could you see a future with this man?
Be strong! Get out of this mess.

Seriously good advice.

I gotta agree...spot-on.

I know it's very difficult when you love someone OP, but I couldn't agree more with these posters. She's 14. She sounds like she needs serious help, and while the death threats are inexcusable and should be taken very seriously by you and her father, she is still a kid! Can you imagine the further damage that would be caused if he chose you over her? He needs to focus on her right now, not his love life.

[Anonymous]

I too agree with these posters. I know this must be very difficult, but I can't see how good will come of this. His daughter needs him - if he does not tend to her I'd question him as a father and in other ways. Protect your son and yourself - why would you want to subject HIM to such potential drama. Not worth it, but I really feel for you. Good luck.