Ugh -- didn't get into private

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After being turned down repeatedly for an IEP and having a pretty awful year in public school, finally decided to apply to a couple of privates that have been recommended as great for kids with ADHD. Rejected from both, so it'll be another year of struggling at public school. I do wonder if part of the rejection was because I'm sure his current teacher recommendation was not good (given how bad a year it has been), and his weird MCPS report card is spotty with I's and N's, despite his really high IQ and super high MAP scores. I tried to explain all that in the application and interview process, but maybe it all came off as too defensive.

Really regretting all the days off work to tour, interview, do the testing, etc., etc. I feel like I spend so much time just spinning my wheels chasing non-existent solutions.

Going to go buy myself a whole friggin' cake for lunch now.

So sorry... Have two cakes!

Uh no. That's disordered eating, and it's gross.

Go to yoga.

Did you really think OP was going to eat two cakes? Lol

For those who wanted an update, I settled on a really big burger. But may hit the ice cream after dinner tonight! Better disordered eating than disordered drinking....

my prescription for you: yoga followed by a giant burger and beer. works every time!

[Anonymous]

I also got a "rejection call" this morning for my DS (incoming first grader next school year) for two reasons: "1) He can't seem to focus on the work that was assigned to him (my answer: DUH! He is 2e). 2) He ran outside of the classroom at one point. This was a private school, and when I toured last January, there were kids with special seats, medicine balls as seats all over the place -- so that tells me they accommodate fidgety kids. I started to think that if a school thinks the two problems my DS showed during his shadow visit are huge problems, I am curious as to what they can tolerate.

I don't know what to do anymore.

[Anonymous]

Take your tuition money and use it for tutoring to supplement what the public provides. Can be better than private. it is 1:1 and you have full control.

This is true but the problem I have with it (not OP) is that right now I have my kids sitting through school for 6 hours and then having tutoring on top of that. One thing I've heard about private schools is they generally will allow you to have your child tutored during the school day (at your expense) so at least it doesn't add to the school day and take away from the limited free time/play time our ES kids already get.

OP, I'm sorry for your situation. I hope you find a well suited school for your child.

[Anonymous]

Was it Commonwealth Academy? I've been thinking about it for a 2e student.

[Anonymous]

Depending on your son's needs, i wonder if you might consider Oakwood (VA) and McLean (MD). I didnt get my son's struggle until March of his 6th grade year (MS) somapplied to those two schools in April. One was a great fit though incredibly inconvenient but he spent 2 amazing years there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After being turned down repeatedly for an IEP and having a pretty awful year in public school, finally decided to apply to a couple of privates that have been recommended as great for kids with ADHD. Rejected from both, so it'll be another year of struggling at public school. I do wonder if part of the rejection was because I'm sure his current teacher recommendation was not good (given how bad a year it has been), and his weird MCPS report card is spotty with I's and N's, despite his really high IQ and super high MAP scores. I tried to explain all that in the application and interview process, but maybe it all came off as too defensive.

Really regretting all the days off work to tour, interview, do the testing, etc., etc. I feel like I spend so much time just spinning my wheels chasing non-existent solutions.

Going to go buy myself a whole friggin' cake for lunch now.

So sorry... Have two cakes!

Uh no. That's disordered eating, and it's gross.

Go to yoga.

Did you really think OP was going to eat two cakes? Lol

For those who wanted an update, I settled on a really big burger. But may hit the ice cream after dinner tonight! Better disordered eating than disordered drinking....

Excellent choices! Thanks for the update, OP!

[Anonymous]

OP-- Have you had your child tested for learning and emotional disabilities? You can get that done privately. You may want to think about hiring an advocate to get that IEP for your child in the public school once you have the test results. How is it that you are being turned down? Are they saying that the ADHD is not affecting his ability to learn?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also got a "rejection call" this morning for my DS (incoming first grader next school year) for two reasons: "1) He can't seem to focus on the work that was assigned to him (my answer: DUH! He is 2e). 2) He ran outside of the classroom at one point. This was a private school, and when I toured last January, there were kids with special seats, medicine balls as seats all over the place -- so that tells me they accommodate fidgety kids. I started to think that if a school thinks the two problems my DS showed during his shadow visit are huge problems, I am curious as to what they can tolerate.

I don't know what to do anymore.

PP, although the justifications given are upsetting and perplexing to you, they sound reasonable. First, your child must be able to receive and follow instructions or available to learn. If he is unable to focus, then he cannot benefit from the curriculum or even the support offered. On the second point, a student who runs out of the classroom is a major distraction and prevents other students from learning because the teacher has to stop the lesson and look for your child. They can't reasonably accommodate these issues and serve the other students adequately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also got a "rejection call" this morning for my DS (incoming first grader next school year) for two reasons: "1) He can't seem to focus on the work that was assigned to him (my answer: DUH! He is 2e). 2) He ran outside of the classroom at one point. This was a private school, and when I toured last January, there were kids with special seats, medicine balls as seats all over the place -- so that tells me they accommodate fidgety kids. I started to think that if a school thinks the two problems my DS showed during his shadow visit are huge problems, I am curious as to what they can tolerate.

I don't know what to do anymore.

PP, although the justifications given are upsetting and perplexing to you, they sound reasonable. First, your child must be able to receive and follow instructions or available to learn. If he is unable to focus, then he cannot benefit from the curriculum or even the support offered. On the second point, a student who runs out of the classroom is a major distraction and prevents other students from learning because the teacher has to stop the lesson and look for your child. They can't reasonably accommodate these issues and serve the other students adequately.

Just what everyone wants when they are down- a lecture!

[Anonymous]

I know that this chain got highjacked by yoga lovers and binge eaters - but putting all that aside (except for the humor part of it all)

My son was rejected from three private schools known for helping with ADHD and one mainstream school (and oddly wait listed at GDS...strange) - he has ADHD wand high scores like yours. I was devastated. We even hired a consultant and spent money and got rejected. Seriously. It really, really hurts, it really sucks and to top it off his year at public school after he got rejected was the worst ever - not exaggerating.

I did hit the fridge and yoga class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also got a "rejection call" this morning for my DS (incoming first grader next school year) for two reasons: "1) He can't seem to focus on the work that was assigned to him (my answer: DUH! He is 2e). 2) He ran outside of the classroom at one point. This was a private school, and when I toured last January, there were kids with special seats, medicine balls as seats all over the place -- so that tells me they accommodate fidgety kids. I started to think that if a school thinks the two problems my DS showed during his shadow visit are huge problems, I am curious as to what they can tolerate.

I don't know what to do anymore.

PP, although the justifications given are upsetting and perplexing to you, they sound reasonable. First, your child must be able to receive and follow instructions or available to learn. If he is unable to focus, then he cannot benefit from the curriculum or even the support offered. On the second point, a student who runs out of the classroom is a major distraction and prevents other students from learning because the teacher has to stop the lesson and look for your child. They can't reasonably accommodate these issues and serve the other students adequately.

Just what everyone wants when they are down- a lecture!

I am the PP who wrote this and my kids attend one of the schools which caters to students with mild to moderate learning disabilities, including ADHD. Perhaps the poster applied to the school. I know what they look for and what they cannot handle and it is best to get a realistic response to prepare for applying in the future than others who enjoy self pity, which is not going to get you anywhere.

[Anonymous]

I just wanted to tell OP that I know what a rollercoaster it can be when you apply! Finally accepting that you need to apply to a SN private, and the money it will cost, is a marathon... then going through the process.... it's so emotional.

Hugs! You will find a place for your child!

[Anonymous]

OP - One thing to consider is that if your DS has such late start times as some schools do in VA and MD in elementary school, would there be any chance to get some tutoring done first thing in the morning before school day starts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also got a "rejection call" this morning for my DS (incoming first grader next school year) for two reasons: "1) He can't seem to focus on the work that was assigned to him (my answer: DUH! He is 2e). 2) He ran outside of the classroom at one point. This was a private school, and when I toured last January, there were kids with special seats, medicine balls as seats all over the place -- so that tells me they accommodate fidgety kids. I started to think that if a school thinks the two problems my DS showed during his shadow visit are huge problems, I am curious as to what they can tolerate.

I don't know what to do anymore.

PP, although the justifications given are upsetting and perplexing to you, they sound reasonable. First, your child must be able to receive and follow instructions or available to learn. If he is unable to focus, then he cannot benefit from the curriculum or even the support offered. On the second point, a student who runs out of the classroom is a major distraction and prevents other students from learning because the teacher has to stop the lesson and look for your child. They can't reasonably accommodate these issues and serve the other students adequately.

Just what everyone wants when they are down- a lecture!

Not the poster you are replying to but who appointed you board monitor? Posts like yours are the worst and add NOTHING to the conversation other than discouraging meaningful input from other SN parents who have btdt.

[Anonymous]

I don't know PP. I think the PP you're talking to did add something meaningful by pointing out you were pretty harsh. You have some good points but you may consider adding a little empathy to your posts next time.

OP, Hire an advocate. Schools are very good at brushing off parents with bright kids who are having trouble at school so you need to hold their feet to the fire. Your child should not be having such a hard time at school with no help. We had the same problem with being rejected for IEPs and DC having a horrible year. The advocate really put the school in its place and we finally got one.