Ugh -- didn't get into private

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know PP. I think the PP you're talking to did add something meaningful by pointing out you were pretty harsh. You have some good points but you may consider adding a little empathy to your posts next time.

OP, Hire an advocate. Schools are very good at brushing off parents with bright kids who are having trouble at school so you need to hold their feet to the fire. Your child should not be having such a hard time at school with no help. We had the same problem with being rejected for IEPs and DC having a horrible year. The advocate really put the school in its place and we finally got one.

There were other snarky rude remarks that were reported and Jeff removed. Honestly, it is hard to judge empathy over the internet and criticizing a post just because someone thinks the tone is not sufficiently emphatic is not helpful. Most people here are trying to help unlike the rest of DCUM.

I thought the pp who's post was criticized gave good advice and did not deserve all the snark. The two reasons that the pp mentioned for the rejection 1. child can't focus and 2. ran out of class room are not minor but the poster thought "I am curious as to what they can tolerate."

For my SN child, these were the same two similar issues that our public school thought was problematic enough to give public funding for SN school. What worked for us was a a neuropsych eval that diagnosed ADHD and getting treatment.

[Anonymous]

We've been in your shoes. It feels devastating and I am so sorry you are going through this. It is so hard to have your little wonder turned down by schools that don't have the ability to see the possibilities. Remember your DC is awesomely unique and have faith that you will find a school that embraces their potential, shoring up needs and challenging them where needed. My advice is to engage an admissions consultant this week. They can help you find a school that currently has spaces available for next year that will be a good fit for your child. They may also be able to help you mitigate areas of concern in your admissions file going forward. It is crazy expensive but can be ever so helpful. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry to hear. Have you tried medication? It turned around my kid's life completely. He is so happy now.

Same with my child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you consider applying to less competitive privates, with rolling admission?

Try Avalon. See if they can work with him. He will have a better experience at least.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for all the encouraging remarks. In response to the PP that responded to the other PP....I hear what you're saying about being realistic. I think it would be supremely helpful if these schools, especially the ones that market themselves as appropriate for ADHD, were more honest on their rejections. My assessment, and that of the professionals that work with my child, was that he didn't need a SN dedicated school, and that wouldn't necessarily be the best fit for him. If the school rejected him because they felt he needs a more supportive environment, then I 100% want to know that. If they rejected him because they only had one opening and really needed to give it to a girl for gender balance reasons, that's a totally different story. I'm wondering if it's appropriate to call and ask....

[Anonymous]

I would encourage you to call the Director of Admissions OP. That's their job. It can't hurt. It might help.

[Anonymous]

If you're following the private/independent schools board, this is a very tough year. Way more applicants than available spots in popular schools. A high test score isn't enough to guarantee a placement. Maybe consider less competitive private schools? Plenty are still accepting applicants and have open houses.

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When you say less competitive, what schools are you referring to? There are some schools that accept students with mild special needs to which some posters are saying their kids weren't accepted. This is not helpful unless you are providing specific names.