When to explain the birds and bees?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old has not asked. When she does, I'll have the talk with her. If she hears from her friends, I am ok with that too. She'll figure out the truth eventually. I was 10 when I learned about sex from friends and in school. My parents never had the talk with me. It hasn't impacted me, I figured things out soon enough. I may be a prude, but I think it is inappropriate for a 5 or 6 year old to know about sex unless they have been misinfor med by someone and you need to clear it up. My 6 year old niece explained sex to me and it was just weird. Do you talk about oral sex, gay sex etc too?

At 9, she should be informed about menstruation at the very least.

[Anonymous]

One way to explain to younger kids is that moms and dads have the parts to make babies, which is true. Then, if the child asks for more info, you can give more info until they're satisfied.

[Anonymous]

Also have an 8 yr old DS who also hasn't really asked. Wasn't even interested in reading the book It's So Amazing. He knows all the body parts and the egg and the sperm create a baby but doesn't know the logistics. I don't want to force it but am surprised there's no curiosity.

[Anonymous]

My mom planted books in my room. The good old picture book "where did I come from?". It was a genius move, my friends and I used to look through it ALL the time. But it almost made sure we had correct information.

[Anonymous]

I learned around 10 from a friend. I was not even interested until she told me. She had a book she showed me. I am fine with my children learning the basics from their friends. 7 year old has not asked yet. When he is a little older his dad can have a frank discussion with him until tHen I am not worried at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old has not asked. When she does, I'll have the talk with her. If she hears from her friends, I am ok with that too. She'll figure out the truth eventually. I was 10 when I learned about sex from friends and in school. My parents never had the talk with me. It hasn't impacted me, I figured things out soon enough. I may be a prude, but I think it is inappropriate for a 5 or 6 year old to know about sex unless they have been misinfor med by someone and you need to clear it up. My 6 year old niece explained sex to me and it was just weird. Do you talk about oral sex, gay sex etc too?

At 9, she should be informed about menstruation at the very least.

My dd will turn 9 in few months and I didn't even think to tell her that soon. What is the right age?

[Anonymous]

Now.

[Anonymous]

My 9 yr old son hasn't asked, but did tell me that he's very unsure about Santa. He asked me for the truth, so I did, but then he decided he still wanted to believe and acted as if hear didn't hear me.

I might have my DH talk to him about sex, but he does feel very comfortable talking to me about everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hm. Normally I'd say when they ask, but 8.5 is old. I'd worry he's hearing it from friends instead.

I'd go buy the book "It's so amazing" and then maybe read it together.

yes, it's definitely time for this book.

[Anonymous]

Dear god people! Get your children this book and read it with them NOW. The longer you wait the more awkward it can be. Do it in a very matter of fact way. Let them know they can always ask you anything they hear about at school as they get older. There is lots of misinformation out there among children regarding sex, body changes, etc.
You want them to hear this info from YOU first.

[Anonymous]

I ordered Its So Amazing and have been slowly reading it with my son. He's 7. I'm a single mom, and ds's dad was abisive toward me so I knew I wanted to be the one to teach him about sex, and I want him to know that he can ask me any question and k will be honest with him. I don't want his dad to be his primary source of information regarding relationships.

What I've found is that it started out a little uncomfortable for me, but as we keep reading and my son asks questions, it's easier than I thought it would be. Ds is genuinely curious, and the book is fantastic. I highly recommend it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also have an 8 yo who hasn't mentioned anything. How do you bring it up? Let's read this book together on the couch? Will it be appropriate for my 5 yo too? Same time or separate?

It is not the stork. Great book. Totally age appropriate. I read it to my 5 year old and asked my 7 year old to read it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old has not asked. When she does, I'll have the talk with her. If she hears from her friends, I am ok with that too. She'll figure out the truth eventually. I was 10 when I learned about sex from friends and in school. My parents never had the talk with me. It hasn't impacted me, I figured things out soon enough. I may be a prude, but I think it is inappropriate for a 5 or 6 year old to know about sex unless they have been misinfor med by someone and you need to clear it up. My 6 year old niece explained sex to me and it was just weird. Do you talk about oral sex, gay sex etc too?

At 9, she should be informed about menstruation at the very least.

My dd will turn 9 in few months and I didn't even think to tell her that soon. What is the right age?

Some girls have their first periods at 8, 9, 10. Do you want your DD to hear it from friends or you?