Trying to figure out my husband

[Anonymous]

OP, you didn't "ask" your husband to text them--you ORDERED him to do it, which he declined, and then you went BATSHIT CRAZY.

"I'll show you--I'LL DO IT MYSELF!!!! AND IF WE ALL GET KILLED IT'S YOUR FAULT!!!!!"

Meanwhile your husband is just sitting there in terrified silence, right?

OP now you're just lying and trying to justify your insanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You only need to inform people of estimated arrival time if you are going to be late.

You could have killed your family or someone else.

This. WTF, OP??

[Anonymous]

OP, you've gotten a lot of answers from people who are mystified that you got into this conflict in the first place.

You also mention that you have this pattern at work -- people who sit passive in the face of your demands/needs/upsets.

It seems to me it's time to examine your own behavior, need for control, and demands and insistence that others take action. You can only control yourself.

[Anonymous]

You were going 70? Really? Are you sure it wasn't 71?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You only need to inform people of estimated arrival time if you are going to be late.

You could have killed your family or someone else.

This. WTF, OP??

+1000 WTF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you've gotten a lot of answers from people who are mystified that you got into this conflict in the first place.

You also mention that you have this pattern at work -- people who sit passive in the face of your demands/needs/upsets.

It seems to me it's time to examine your own behavior, need for control, and demands and insistence that others take action. You can only control yourself.

Yup. Clue: When everyone around you is the idiot, you're the common denominator.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're nuts. If this forum is universal in condemning you, you're REALLY nuts, since most all ties go to the woman.

[Anonymous]

You and your husband are both guilty of many levels of idiocy in this instance.

If you manage to somehow not kill your children while you're driving, they have a good chance of killing themselves as they will think texting while driving is acceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you've gotten a lot of answers from people who are mystified that you got into this conflict in the first place.

You also mention that you have this pattern at work -- people who sit passive in the face of your demands/needs/upsets.

It seems to me it's time to examine your own behavior, need for control, and demands and insistence that others take action. You can only control yourself.

+1. You sound like a control freak OP.

[Anonymous]

I agree that it's really odd your husband couldn't just send the text. Living with someone that quirky would drive me crazy.

[Anonymous]

Ha. My husband usually has a very warped sense of time and how long it takes to get ready to leave, and how long it takes to get somewhere. If he insisted we were on time, and I disagreed, I would NOT send that text either. Even on his phone, I wouldn't send it because when we're on our way somewhere, we're a unit. His phone saying "WE will be there at 7pm," is no different than coming from my own mouth. I would, however, send a text on my own phone giving my own estimated time of arrival. What I might do (might) is say "Hi, we'll be there around 7:30. DH insists we'll be right on time though. If you're betting, the odds are in my favor. But, we'll see."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were driving along the highway yesterday with our two kids. I was going at 70 mph on a 70 mph road. We needed to text someone about our anticipated arrival time, which I thought would be on time.
Husband did not think we would be on time, but I asked him to text them anyway and say that we would be on time. I asked him to use MY PHONE to send a text saying, "we'll be there on time". He refused because he did not think we would be on time. I reminded him that this was my phone and I would be the one to blame if we were late. He still refused, so I told him to give me the phone so that I could text, thinking that he would be prompted to send the text rather than let his wife text while driving. He just handed me the phone. I put the car in cruise control and voiced a text, saying we would be on time.
We got to our destination on time, but I am totally confused about this man.
He is always so odd. Everything is a big deal. He overthinks everything, but never considers basic common sense.
I know that texting while driving is crazy, but my issue is with him and his ability to just sit there!
I know many people like this at work. They just sit there and do nothing...I just realized that I am married to one.

Sounds like something else is unresolved. Why would he be acting so passive aggressive.

I agree you both should be a TEAM, but he is holding a grudge or hurt about something else. Figure it out together.

[Anonymous]

I thought she did Suri talk to text or something.

next time don't bother texting your ETA, most people give a grace period anyhow. unless it's an actual appointment.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a typical, stubborn mule man.

Sorry you have kids OP. I would seriously think about divorce. Start lining your ducks in a row, get to where you need to be in your career.

This is what Oprah would call an "aha moment". Don't waste it, dont shrug it off, dont think "Maybe I was wrong".

What you described sounds like plenty of loser men I know, none of which I would want to spend much time with, let alone be married to.

Pull the trigger now, dont waste any more time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a typical, stubborn mule man.

Sorry you have kids OP. I would seriously think about divorce. Start lining your ducks in a row, get to where you need to be in your career.

This is what Oprah would call an "aha moment". Don't waste it, dont shrug it off, dont think "Maybe I was wrong".

What you described sounds like plenty of loser men I know, none of which I would want to spend much time with, let alone be married to.

Pull the trigger now, dont waste any more time.

If this is an aha moment, I can't imagine how you would survive an actual marriage and its stressors and conflicts.