Dating Spinoff: Ladies - how important is it to you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It has absolutely nothing to do with the guy and everything to do with how the woman feels about herself, how confident she is, etc.

lolwut? Sorry dude, but no, a lot of guys are legitimately terrible in bed.

[Anonymous]

Not at all important

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For dating? Not at all, because I don't have sex outside of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not at all important

Why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It has absolutely nothing to do with the guy and everything to do with how the woman feels about herself, how confident she is, etc.

Snort!

Some people are great at sex, the same way that some people are fantastic dancers, others are phenomenal cooks, etc. Some of it is natural talent, some is practice/training. Most people can reach a certain level of competence if they try hard enough, but there's a point where you can separate the merely good from the great. I'm sure that there are lots of people who are satisfied with good sex because they have other things they value as much if not more in a partner. My SO is great, but I'd still love him if he was just good.

This exactly. Its like American Idol in that some people just have an innate talent. Its really amazing when those people also care anout their partner and try to improve on that natural talent.

[Anonymous]

It's also amazing in that you never quite know what the top tier of talent looks like until you experience it firsthand. Wife and I ended up having a regular three-way thing going with a girl who's a porn director... never a star, just a director, mind you, but the shit she knows how to do made my head spin. Afterwards my wife and I were both like "Wait, what just happened and how do we replicate that," we were seeing stars.

Some people are legitimately really, really, really good at sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's also amazing in that you never quite know what the top tier of talent looks like until you experience it firsthand. Wife and I ended up having a regular three-way thing going with a girl who's a porn director... never a star, just a director, mind you, but the shit she knows how to do made my head spin. Afterwards my wife and I were both like "Wait, what just happened and how do we replicate that," we were seeing stars.

Some people are legitimately really, really, really good at sex.

I think I speak for the whole board when I ask who hasn't been there before? I'm always reminded that it's not just the porn stars who are gifted when DH and I have threesomes with porn crew members. It's easy to forget and stereotype. That old saying, those who can't do, teach, certainly doesn't apply to porn directors, am I right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's also amazing in that you never quite know what the top tier of talent looks like until you experience it firsthand. Wife and I ended up having a regular three-way thing going with a girl who's a porn director... never a star, just a director, mind you, but the shit she knows how to do made my head spin. Afterwards my wife and I were both like "Wait, what just happened and how do we replicate that," we were seeing stars.

Some people are legitimately really, really, really good at sex.

I think I speak for the whole board when I ask who hasn't been there before? I'm always reminded that it's not just the porn stars who are gifted when DH and I have threesomes with porn crew members. It's easy to forget and stereotype. That old saying, those who can't do, teach, certainly doesn't apply to porn directors, am I right?

I hope protection was used.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It has absolutely nothing to do with the guy and everything to do with how the woman feels about herself, how confident she is, etc.

Snort!

Some people are great at sex, the same way that some people are fantastic dancers, others are phenomenal cooks, etc. Some of it is natural talent, some is practice/training. Most people can reach a certain level of competence if they try hard enough, but there's a point where you can separate the merely good from the great. I'm sure that there are lots of people who are satisfied with good sex because they have other things they value as much if not more in a partner. My SO is great, but I'd still love him if he was just good.

This exactly. Its like American Idol in that some people just have an innate talent. Its really amazing when those people also care anout their partner and try to improve on that natural talent.

What makes a guy naturally good in bed?

[Anonymous]

Extremely important. At this point in my life (40s, divorced), I'm not wasting time with someone unless the sexual chemistry is good, there is compatibility in styles and libido, and he's someone who's giving, game, enthusiastic, non-judgmental, and dominant in bed (because that's what I like).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's also amazing in that you never quite know what the top tier of talent looks like until you experience it firsthand. Wife and I ended up having a regular three-way thing going with a girl who's a porn director... never a star, just a director, mind you, but the shit she knows how to do made my head spin. Afterwards my wife and I were both like "Wait, what just happened and how do we replicate that," we were seeing stars.

Some people are legitimately really, really, really good at sex.

I think I speak for the whole board when I ask who hasn't been there before? I'm always reminded that it's not just the porn stars who are gifted when DH and I have threesomes with porn crew members. It's easy to forget and stereotype. That old saying, those who can't do, teach, certainly doesn't apply to porn directors, am I right?

LMAO!!

[Anonymous]

Somehwere in the middle in combination with other attributes.

If I like/love you and your overall person and how we work as a person and he's not the best ever, but attentive caring and willing to improve/find things that work for us.