When you kids behavior changes? Due to school environment?

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks, but nothing had changed in my parenting the past year, so might not be the case...

Maybe that's the problem.

Oh come on. Does being mean make you feel better about yourself?
OP is saying that there is a change in her child's behavior this past year. No need to be unkind. We are all just parents on this board who want the best for our kids and if we see that our child seems to be having problems they didn't have before its good to be on top of it.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD went to therapy with a specialist in children's anxiety. She helped in giving out tools and ways to handle what was the bothering her. Very happy with the results; Dr. Jacquelynn Hollman. She had an office in Wisconsin Ave,NW (Ross Center).

Thank you for this helpful post!

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Anonymous wrote:Usually, the biggest problem in a kids life is their parents. You should examine that possibility.

I agree with this. Changing the kids' school twice in 3 years is a lot: from structured to progressive and now you want to go back to structured. Geez.

So It would be better parenting to just keep a kid in an environment if they are not thriving? And if you had the choice to seek out something else after they had been at the school that wasn't the best fit for three years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, but nothing had changed in my parenting the past year, so might not be the case...

Maybe that's the problem.

Oh come on. Does being mean make you feel better about yourself?
OP is saying that there is a change in her child's behavior this past year. No need to be unkind. We are all just parents on this board who want the best for our kids and if we see that our child seems to be having problems they didn't have before its good to be on top of it.

I am not being mean, I'm being practical. You have to look at everything including home life. My DH was deeply unhappy when he was around this age and his mother took him to the doctor - ! It turned out he was actually really happy at school, but the opposite of home. And that is still written, in his historic medical notes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually, the biggest problem in a kids life is their parents. You should examine that possibility.

I agree with this. Changing the kids' school twice in 3 years is a lot: from structured to progressive and now you want to go back to structured. Geez.

So It would be better parenting to just keep a kid in an environment if they are not thriving? And if you had the choice to seek out something else after they had been at the school that wasn't the best fit for three years?

I have heard from many private school teachers that the main reason parents pull out their kids is not because the kids are unhappy and not thriving; quite the opposite. It is because the parents are the ones who are not satisfied. So what the pps are saying above is that maybe the better parenting would have been to let the kid be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually, the biggest problem in a kids life is their parents. You should examine that possibility.

I agree with this. Changing the kids' school twice in 3 years is a lot: from structured to progressive and now you want to go back to structured. Geez.

Reading comprehension. They changed the school because they moved from another area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually, the biggest problem in a kids life is their parents. You should examine that possibility.

I agree with this. Changing the kids' school twice in 3 years is a lot: from structured to progressive and now you want to go back to structured. Geez.

Reading comprehension. They changed the school because they moved from another area.

not every time, smart ass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually, the biggest problem in a kids life is their parents. You should examine that possibility.

I agree with this. Changing the kids' school twice in 3 years is a lot: from structured to progressive and now you want to go back to structured. Geez.

So It would be better parenting to just keep a kid in an environment if they are not thriving? And if you had the choice to seek out something else after they had been at the school that wasn't the best fit for three years?

I have heard from many private school teachers that the main reason parents pull out their kids is not because the kids are unhappy and not thriving; quite the opposite. It is because the parents are the ones who are not satisfied. So what the pps are saying above is that maybe the better parenting would have been to let the kid be.

Please. What would you expect the teachers to say. Our school costs 37k and we can't keep kids safe and happy? When in doubt listen to your kids signals. Fine to get them confirmed by appropriate psychological professional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, but nothing had changed in my parenting the past year, so might not be the case...

Maybe that's the problem.

Oh come on. Does being mean make you feel better about yourself?
OP is saying that there is a change in her child's behavior this past year. No need to be unkind. We are all just parents on this board who want the best for our kids and if we see that our child seems to be having problems they didn't have before its good to be on top of it.

I am not being mean, I'm being practical. You have to look at everything including home life. My DH was deeply unhappy when he was around this age and his mother took him to the doctor - ! It turned out he was actually really happy at school, but the opposite of home. And that is still written, in his historic medical notes.

+1 same happened to me. School was just an outlet for crappy home conditions. Not saying this is the case with OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually, the biggest problem in a kids life is their parents. You should examine that possibility.

I agree with this. Changing the kids' school twice in 3 years is a lot: from structured to progressive and now you want to go back to structured. Geez.

So It would be better parenting to just keep a kid in an environment if they are not thriving? And if you had the choice to seek out something else after they had been at the school that wasn't the best fit for three years?

I have heard from many private school teachers that the main reason parents pull out their kids is not because the kids are unhappy and not thriving; quite the opposite. It is because the parents are the ones who are not satisfied. So what the pps are saying above is that maybe the better parenting would have been to let the kid be.

Please. What would you expect the teachers to say. Our school costs 37k and we can't keep kids safe and happy? When in doubt listen to your kids signals. Fine to get them confirmed by appropriate psychological professional.

Well there is probably some truth in it. We took our DS out of a private which we were very unhappy with, and while he was happy to leave it and go to a completely different school, I suspect the biggest grievances came from us, the parents.