Emotionally detached from one another.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men connect through sex and women connect through conversation. If both are not happening regularly you cannot expect to feel connected to your spouse.

I am the male poster who wrote in earlier, described myself as emotionally detached. And yes, I connect through sex. I have made an effort to connect other ways so she can feel connected enough to have sex. Give and take.

You must have some interest in emotions if you are reading and posting in a relationship forum? Do you know how you feel about things but you just don't express it? Or do you have a hard time knowing what your feelings are?

I just don't feel at a deep level like others seem to feel. I love my DW but I don't have the highs and lows of crazy passion or anger or other things that look like a latin soap opera. I do not get really sad about things, we don't have fights, its all even steven for me. Does that make sense?

[Anonymous]

Some people are just not great listeners. DH has the most annoying habit of interrupting me and talking over me, because something occurred to him in the course of the conversation, and he must blurt it out right then and there. He's a good guy, but there is no talking to him. Too annoying.

[Anonymous]

Did you post a couple months ago? Great sex life but zero emotional connection?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men connect through sex and women connect through conversation. If both are not happening regularly you cannot expect to feel connected to your spouse.

I am the male poster who wrote in earlier, described myself as emotionally detached. And yes, I connect through sex. I have made an effort to connect other ways so she can feel connected enough to have sex. Give and take.

You must have some interest in emotions if you are reading and posting in a relationship forum? Do you know how you feel about things but you just don't express it? Or do you have a hard time knowing what your feelings are?

I just don't feel at a deep level like others seem to feel. I love my DW but I don't have the highs and lows of crazy passion or anger or other things that look like a latin soap opera. I do not get really sad about things, we don't have fights, its all even steven for me. Does that make sense?

Yes, that makes sense. Your even steven personality sounds great to me. I don't see that as emotionally detached really. I think of detached as meaning that you have emotions that you refuse to share, or maybe emotions that you don't want to confront yourself, and you aren't really happy. You sound stable and content.

[Anonymous]

Can you start slowly with an enjoyable regular activity that fosters more connectedness? A friend complained about feeling ignored by her husband. They started watching Mad Men with wine together in the evenings after the kids were in bed. Sounds like a silly, small thing, but they started having regular sex again and were noticeably happier after a period of time.