14yo just asked me to please stay out of bedroom
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Anonymous
No. The gun is in the safe otherwise, have at it. |
Anonymous
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I wasn't hiding anything scandalous at 14. But I had a journal, maybe dirty underwear on the floor, innocent but "private" notes from friends... they complained my room was a mess, so them going in and seeing a mess made me mad (teenage logic!).
14 year olds want privacy. Not saying she's not hiding something, but that age is big on privacy. |
Anonymous
| Are you snooping around in there? I don't think there was ever a train for my parents to come in my room at that age. I wasn't hiding anything. |
Anonymous
When you go in there, do you move her things? I think it is normal. You can give her this privacy while reserving the right to enter if you have reason. My kid just doesn't want me messing with his things because he's a separate person from me. |
Anonymous
| It is utterly and completely normal for a child that age to want not just some privacy, but also a sense of autonomy. A 14-year-old doesn't get many opportunities for that, so being able to control who goes into his room and what happens in there is a common outlet. I prefer to treat the bedroom like I treat my kid's phone/texts -- I reserve the right to look if I have cause for concern, but otherwise will generally let them have their privacy. |
Anonymous
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No idea if OP's a DC is DS or DD but many young boys have a towel or stash of used kleenex that they feel they need to keep secret until such time it can be washed or thrown away. Teen girls may similary have a favorite hairbrush or even a purchased vibrator that they don't want mom finding. For either gender it could also be drugs...
If DCs room is otherwise clean, his behavior is normal, and you have access to PC/phone, I'd respect the desire. |
Anonymous
| OP: was this ever resolved? |