Feeing Uncomfortable at an Interview

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here ---Yes, I posted both messages. She seems young and immature. I have no idea how old she is (may be in her 30s), but she is immature and young b/c of how she acts and how she spoke with us.

If I report her, this could do irreparable harm to our family during the adm

Again, PP you can't be both a divorced single MOm AND in your early 30's ( maybe) in DC.

At 31-33 in DC you are maybe getting married, but you are not already divorced with kids . That takes at least 10 years. So this woman had to be at least 40, likely 50.

What?!! Are you serious?!! So you mean to tell me you don't know anyone who got married in their early 20's had kids and a few years later where divorced and found themselves single, with child and no husband?!! What sheltered world
Do you live in???? I know quite a few of these people! I'm 42 and many of my friends where single divorced moms in their early 30's and are now on to husband number 2 and additional kids.

[Anonymous]

You know I was thinking the same thing. Several friends of mine got married by 23 - 28. Everyone is not waiting until 30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here ---Yes, I posted both messages. She seems young and immature. I have no idea how old she is (may be in her 30s), but she is immature and young b/c of how she acts and how she spoke with us.

If I report her, this could do irreparable harm to our family during the adm

Again, PP you can't be both a divorced single MOm AND in your early 30's ( maybe) in DC.

At 31-33 in DC you are maybe getting married, but you are not already divorced with kids . That takes at least 10 years. So this woman had to be at least 40, likely 50.

What?!! Are you serious?!! So you mean to tell me you don't know anyone who got married in their early 20's had kids and a few years later where divorced and found themselves single, with child and no husband?!! What sheltered world
Do you live in???? I know quite a few of these people! I'm 42 and many of my friends where single divorced moms in their early 30's and are now on to husband number 2 and additional kids.

This thread has jumped the shark, but I will answer anyway as the demographics are relevant to the veracity of the OP's claim:

A few ( maybe 2-3 girls out of 60 or so college friends) got married shortly after leaving college ( 22-25 age range). And I did not go to college in DC or on East Coast. Most of my college friends, however, went on to Grad school at that age and did this while working FT.

In other words, they were primarily focused on their careers and developing themselves before seeking a marriage partner. Likely, they were also looking for a marriage partner with similar education and professional trajectory ( not someone just out of college ). So, no, I don't know anyone who came to DC for a professional position who's life history is a back ground of having gotten married in their early 20's, having babies in their early 20's.

Not in this uber achiever town.

I have lived in DC about 20 years, in NW and on Capital Hill and, no, I have not met anyone who was college educated who was married in their early 20's . no one.

Most of my fellow parents spent their 20's in grad school, rheir late 20's and early 30's getting to as a high a position they could in their field professionally ( making law partner) . Many got married around age 30 or so, more in early 30's and most did not have their 1st child until 35 ish.

[Anonymous]

To those asking for a name: the website administrator has been known to pull threads with names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here ---Yes, I posted both messages. She seems young and immature. I have no idea how old she is (may be in her 30s), but she is immature and young b/c of how she acts and how she spoke with us.

If I report her, this could do irreparable harm to our family during the adm

Again, PP you can't be both a divorced single MOm AND in your early 30's ( maybe) in DC.

At 31-33 in DC you are maybe getting married, but you are not already divorced with kids . That takes at least 10 years. So this woman had to be at least 40, likely 50.

What are you smoking? You haven't run across people who fit that description so they don't exist? You are so busy trying to disprove the Op's post that you've gone off the deep end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here ---Yes, I posted both messages. She seems young and immature. I have no idea how old she is (may be in her 30s), but she is immature and young b/c of how she acts and how she spoke with us.

If I report her, this could do irreparable harm to our family during the adm

Again, PP you can't be both a divorced single MOm AND in your early 30's ( maybe) in DC.

At 31-33 in DC you are maybe getting married, but you are not already divorced with kids . That takes at least 10 years. So this woman had to be at least 40, likely 50.

What?!! Are you serious?!! So you mean to tell me you don't know anyone who got married in their early 20's had kids and a few years later where divorced and found themselves single, with child and no husband?!! What sheltered world
Do you live in???? I know quite a few of these people! I'm 42 and many of my friends where single divorced moms in their early 30's and are now on to husband number 2 and additional kids.

This thread has jumped the shark, but I will answer anyway as the demographics are relevant to the veracity of the OP's claim:

A few ( maybe 2-3 girls out of 60 or so college friends) got married shortly after leaving college ( 22-25 age range). And I did not go to college in DC or on East Coast. Most of my college friends, however, went on to Grad school at that age and did this while working FT.

In other words, they were primarily focused on their careers and developing themselves before seeking a marriage partner. Likely, they were also looking for a marriage partner with similar education and professional trajectory ( not someone just out of college ). So, no, I don't know anyone who came to DC for a professional position who's life history is a back ground of having gotten married in their early 20's, having babies in their early 20's.

Not in this uber achiever town.

I have lived in DC about 20 years, in NW and on Capital Hill and, no, I have not met anyone who was college educated who was married in their early 20's . no one.

Most of my fellow parents spent their 20's in grad school, rheir late 20's and early 30's getting to as a high a position they could in their field professionally ( making law partner) . Many got married around age 30 or so, more in early 30's and most did not have their 1st child until 35 ish.

Well I assure you your experience isn't the way it is for all. I've been in this area since 1991 (working in DC and living in the suburbs of Maryland). I did go to college and law school in DC, and I can think of a fair number of women I went to college with who either got pregnant while we where in college, got married right after we graduated from college and started having children, and even more got married right after law school and started having families (and some of them are now divorced with kids heading to or already in college). Pursuing their professional careers did not put a hold on their personal lives (VP's of companies, law partners, Senior Executives in the federal government, doctors, pharmacist to name a few). While many did not have children till their mid-30's it had little to do with their professional careers and a lot more to do with their inability to find a suitable mate until their mid-30's (myself included). All of my friends who are now having children would have had them earlier if they had found their mates earlier...I certainly would have and I doubt my career would have suffered given the careers of my friends that didn't suffer.

All of this is to say, your assumption whoever the AD is can't possibly exist based on the demographics provided is not really accurate. I don't know (or really care) if the demographics provided are true, but they most certainly can be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here ---Yes, I posted both messages. She seems young and immature. I have no idea how old she is (may be in her 30s), but she is immature and young b/c of how she acts and how she spoke with us.

If I report her, this could do irreparable harm to our family during the adm

Again, PP you can't be both a divorced single MOm AND in your early 30's ( maybe) in DC.

At 31-33 in DC you are maybe getting married, but you are not already divorced with kids . That takes at least 10 years. So this woman had to be at least 40, likely 50.

What?!! Are you serious?!! So you mean to tell me you don't know anyone who got married in their early 20's had kids and a few years later where divorced and found themselves single, with child and no husband?!! What sheltered world
Do you live in???? I know quite a few of these people! I'm 42 and many of my friends where single divorced moms in their early 30's and are now on to husband number 2 and additional kids.

This thread has jumped the shark, but I will answer anyway as the demographics are relevant to the veracity of the OP's claim:

A few ( maybe 2-3 girls out of 60 or so college friends) got married shortly after leaving college ( 22-25 age range). And I did not go to college in DC or on East Coast. Most of my college friends, however, went on to Grad school at that age and did this while working FT.

In other words, they were primarily focused on their careers and developing themselves before seeking a marriage partner. Likely, they were also looking for a marriage partner with similar education and professional trajectory ( not someone just out of college ). So, no, I don't know anyone who came to DC for a professional position who's life history is a back ground of having gotten married in their early 20's, having babies in their early 20's.

Not in this uber achiever town.

I have lived in DC about 20 years, in NW and on Capital Hill and, no, I have not met anyone who was college educated who was married in their early 20's . no one.

Most of my fellow parents spent their 20's in grad school, rheir late 20's and early 30's getting to as a high a position they could in their field professionally ( making law partner) . Many got married around age 30 or so, more in early 30's and most did not have their 1st child until 35 ish.

You have your head in your ass...just because if your narrow view of the world and the fact that you did not meet women who fit this description she clearly cannot exist?! We all run in different circles, but most people at least try to have experiences with those outside of their social set, but apparently you missed out on this opportunity while competing for the "best". You may be have a successful professional life, but it sounds like you have a very boring and insular social life, not to mention world view...


To bring the thread back to the original posting...this description sounds a lot like the former AD from my kids' school, but she was let go a few years ago (to the collective sigh of relief from the entire school community!) and I believe has left town. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do after an uncomfortable interview, OP. However, remember that once your kids go to the school you will not need to have any additional contact with the Admissions Office. If I were you I would ask the Admissions office to put you in touch with current parents so you can ask some questions about the school. Also, seek out those you know whose kids attend the school and see what you think. You will actually get a much better feel for the school and what your ultimate experience will be by speaking to the community rather than simply the AD. It might solidify your feelings or turn the school back around for you.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I know this ad. She has worked at 2 big 3 schools. You are an asshole. The school loves this woman. Admissions is more competitive under her watch. Diversity enrollment has increased. Yield has increase. Go ahead and report her you twit. Also you are an ass. This describes her personal, and outing, story to people who know her though the school or her kids. You are such an ass op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this ad. She has worked at 2 big 3 schools. You are an asshole. The school loves this woman. Admissions is more competitive under her watch. Diversity enrollment has increased. Yield has increase. Go ahead and report her you twit. Also you are an ass. This describes her personal, and outing, story to people who know her though the school or her kids. You are such an ass op.

Whelp! Guess the demographics were accurate after all...and OP struck a major cord. Ouch!

[Anonymous]

Why so much foul language? The AD was wrong to share this information with parents.

[Anonymous]

jumped the shark....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this ad. She has worked at 2 big 3 schools. You are an asshole. The school loves this woman. Admissions is more competitive under her watch. Diversity enrollment has increased. Yield has increase. Go ahead and report her you twit. Also you are an ass. This describes her personal, and outing, story to people who know her though the school or her kids. You are such an ass op.

The AD has left town and, no, she did not work at a Big 3.

She is now in new jersey

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here ---Yes, I posted both messages. She seems young and immature. I have no idea how old she is (may be in her 30s), but she is immature and young b/c of how she acts and how she spoke with us.

If I report her, this could do irreparable harm to our family during the adm

Again, PP you can't be both a divorced single MOm AND in your early 30's ( maybe) in DC.

At 31-33 in DC you are maybe getting married, but you are not already divorced with kids . That takes at least 10 years. So this woman had to be at least 40, likely 50.

What?!! Are you serious?!! So you mean to tell me you don't know anyone who got married in their early 20's had kids and a few years later where divorced and found themselves single, with child and no husband?!! What sheltered world
Do you live in???? I know quite a few of these people! I'm 42 and many of my friends where single divorced moms in their early 30's and are now on to husband number 2 and additional kids.

This thread has jumped the shark, but I will answer anyway as the demographics are relevant to the veracity of the OP's claim:

A few ( maybe 2-3 girls out of 60 or so college friends) got married shortly after leaving college ( 22-25 age range). And I did not go to college in DC or on East Coast. Most of my college friends, however, went on to Grad school at that age and did this while working FT.

In other words, they were primarily focused on their careers and developing themselves before seeking a marriage partner. Likely, they were also looking for a marriage partner with similar education and professional trajectory ( not someone just out of college ). So, no, I don't know anyone who came to DC for a professional position who's life history is a back ground of having gotten married in their early 20's, having babies in their early 20's.

Not in this uber achiever town.

I have lived in DC about 20 years, in NW and on Capital Hill and, no, I have not met anyone who was college educated who was married in their early 20's . no one.

Most of my fellow parents spent their 20's in grad school, rheir late 20's and early 30's getting to as a high a position they could in their field professionally ( making law partner) . Many got married around age 30 or so, more in early 30's and most did not have their 1st child until 35 ish.

How can you say this? Just because you live in DC among some of the most type A individuals does NOT mean everyone fits that mold. I moved here in 2001 at the age of 42 with a 3 year old. I figured I would find lots of moms my age based exactly on your theory. WRONG. Most of the moms I met and hung out with were around 15 years younger than I. And they were working professionals living in an affluent suburb. And why are you so angry in your post? People here can be so strange.