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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here ---Yes, I posted both messages.  She seems young and immature.  I have no idea how old she is (may be in her 30s), but she is immature and young b/c of how she acts and how she spoke with us.

If I report her, this could do irreparable harm to our family during the adm                              [/quote]

Again, PP you can't be both a divorced single MOm AND in your early 30's ( maybe) in DC.

At 31-33 in DC you are maybe getting married, but you are not already divorced with kids . That takes at least 10 years. So this woman had to be at least 40, likely 50.[/quote]

What?!! Are you serious?!![b] So you mean to tell me you don't know anyone who got married in their early 20's had kids and a few years later where divorced and found themselves single, with child[/b] and no husband?!! What sheltered world
Do you live in???? I know quite a few of these people! I'm 42 and many of my friends where single divorced moms in their early 30's and are now on to husband number 2 and additional kids.[/quote]

This thread has jumped the shark, but I will answer anyway as the demographics are relevant to the veracity of the OP's claim:

A few ( maybe 2-3 girls out of 60 or so college friends)  got married shortly after leaving college ( 22-25 age range). And I did not go to college in DC  or on East Coast.  Most of my college friends, however, went on to Grad school at that age and did this while working FT.

In other words, they were primarily focused on their careers and developing themselves before seeking a marriage partner. Likely, they were also looking for a marriage partner with similar education and professional trajectory ( not someone just out of college ). So, no, I don't know [b]anyone[/b] who came to  DC  for a professional position who's life history is a back ground of having gotten married in their early 20's,  having babies in their early 20's.

Not in this uber achiever town.

I have lived in DC about 20 years, in NW and on Capital Hill and, no, I have not met anyone who was college educated who was married in their early 20's . no one.

Most of my fellow parents spent their 20's in grad school, rheir late 20's and early 30's getting to as a high a position they could in their field professionally ( making law partner) . Many got married around age 30 or so, more in early 30's and most did not have their 1st child until 35 ish.[/quote]

Well I assure you your experience isn't the way it is for all. I've been in this area since 1991 (working in DC and living in the suburbs of Maryland). I did go to college and law school in DC, and I can think of a fair number of women I went to college with who either got pregnant while we where in college, got married right after we graduated from college and started having children, and even more got married right after law school and started having families (and some of them are now divorced with kids heading to or already in college). Pursuing their professional careers did not put a hold on their personal lives (VP's of companies, law partners, Senior Executives in the federal government, doctors, pharmacist to name a few). While many did not have children till their mid-30's it had little to do with their professional careers and a lot more to do with their inability to find a suitable mate until their mid-30's (myself included). All of my friends who are now having children would have had them earlier if they had found their mates earlier...I certainly would have and I doubt my career would have suffered given the careers of my friends that didn't suffer.

All of this is to say, your assumption whoever the AD is can't possibly exist based on the demographics provided is not really accurate. I don't know (or really care) if the demographics provided are true, but they most certainly can be. [/quote]

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