Did you figure out you were a lesbian later in life?

[Anonymous]

I am a woman very happily married to a man with zero desire to have a romantic relationship with a woman. But I definitely fantasize about sex with women.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I wouldn't have a relationship with ANYONE whose grammar included the ill-begotten phrase "less bad".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a woman very happily married to a man with zero desire to have a romantic relationship with a woman. But I definitely fantasize about sex with women.

Plenty of men fantasize about having sex with women without the bother of romance or a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10:06, men's sexuality is probably not more fixed. It's societal issues that prevent them from exploring.

Nope, they did tests that measure eye movements, heartbeat, all the physical symptoms of arousal. Even the guys who claimed to be bi were one or the other

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:10:06, men's sexuality is probably not more fixed. It's societal issues that prevent them from exploring.

Nope, they did tests that measure eye movements, heartbeat, all the physical symptoms of arousal. Even the guys who claimed to be bi were one or the other

No, the study found they were MORE FREQUENTLY on one end of the spectrum or the other. Meaning that true bisexuality in men is less common. It is not non-existent and the study you are referencing did not suggest that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I disagree that hooking up with a girl or woman is exactly like having an affair with a man. It's much less bad in my opinion.
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I hope you realize your opinion has no basis in fact.

New poster here. That plus I can't imagine any woman ever saying, "oh, DH had an affair with another man, it really was far less bad than an affair with another woman."

This! WTF!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I disagree that hooking up with a girl or woman is exactly like having an affair with a man. It's much less bad in my opinion.
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I hope you realize your opinion has no basis in fact.

New poster here. That plus I can't imagine any woman ever saying, "oh, DH had an affair with another man, it really was far less bad than an affair with another woman."

This! WTF!

It probably depends on the situation. For a woman who doesn't know her husband is interested in men, you're totally right. However, for a woman who knows her husband is bisexual, I can see this. My husband is bisexual and I would leave him either way if he cheated on me. But I would be MUCH more hurt if he cheated with another woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I disagree that hooking up with a girl or woman is exactly like having an affair with a man. It's much less bad in my opinion.
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I hope you realize your opinion has no basis in fact.

New poster here. That plus I can't imagine any woman ever saying, "oh, DH had an affair with another man, it really was far less bad than an affair with another woman."

Right?!

Lesbians are hot.

It comes down to the couples' boundaries. For my part, I'd be fairly pissed if my wife had an affair with another woman, but far less upset than if she had an affair with a man.

I'd be more hurt if dw had an affair with a woman. If she's attracted to women, that's the end of the marriage. I don't have the right equipment.

If she's fucking some guy, it's probably because I drove her to it. That I can work with.

Regardless, it's not "less bad." It's cheating no mstter what sex she's fucking.

[Anonymous]

This is second hand, but my very good friend was married for about 15 years when she became very close to a female friend. Her marriage fell apart for completely unrelated reasons (his alcoholism and abuse) and this female friend was very supportive of her in a very difficult time. Neither one of them had ever considered a same-sex partner EVER but they fell in love with each other and are now openly committed partners and very happy.

For those who are not at the far ends of the Kinsey continuum, it could just be a function of not having met the "right" person to know if you are attracted to the opposite sex. In my friend's case, if her husband had been the guy she had hoped she had married, she would probably have remained happily married to him for life. Who knows ... life is funny and doesn't follow a script.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I disagree that hooking up with a girl or woman is exactly like having an affair with a man. It's much less bad in my opinion.
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I hope you realize your opinion has no basis in fact.

New poster here. That plus I can't imagine any woman ever saying, "oh, DH had an affair with another man, it really was far less bad than an affair with another woman."

This! WTF!

It probably depends on the situation. For a woman who doesn't know her husband is interested in men, you're totally right. However, for a woman who knows her husband is bisexual, I can see this. My husband is bisexual and I would leave him either way if he cheated on me. But I would be MUCH more hurt if he cheated with another woman.

Cheating with any gender, when discovered is extremely hurtful and damaging. Learning your spouse is having sex with a same gender partner when you had no idea spouse was oriented that way is also extremely hurtful and damaging. Combine those two things and the marriage is completely KABOOM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I disagree that hooking up with a girl or woman is exactly like having an affair with a man. It's much less bad in my opinion.
.

I hope you realize your opinion has no basis in fact.

New poster here. That plus I can't imagine any woman ever saying, "oh, DH had an affair with another man, it really was far less bad than an affair with another woman."

This! WTF!

It probably depends on the situation. For a woman who doesn't know her husband is interested in men, you're totally right. However, for a woman who knows her husband is bisexual, I can see this. My husband is bisexual and I would leave him either way if he cheated on me. But I would be MUCH more hurt if he cheated with another woman.

Cheating with any gender, when discovered is extremely hurtful and damaging. Learning your spouse is having sex with a same gender partner when you had no idea spouse was oriented that way is also extremely hurtful and damaging. Combine those two things and the marriage is completely KABOOM.

Right, but the comment you're replying to is talking about when they DO know they're bisexual.