How do you discipline your delayed, hyperactive and inattentive 4 year old?

[Anonymous]

Have you considered medication? Also, improving attention and decreasing the hyperactivity may get rid of his language delays as well as improve behavior.

[Anonymous]

I need some practical advice I guess - did you ignore? I try but often just can't. Did you do time outs?

Please, for the love of all that is holy, do not just "ignore" this behavior when you are in public. Thank you.

-- Society



(and yes, I am allowed to be on the Special Needs board and post a comment that is contributing but not 102% saccharine sweet. I am in fact a parent with a kid who has SN / ADHD inattentive)

[Anonymous]

^^ I don't. We leave. We take ahold of him. But he's getting bigger and it's hard so we avoid a lot of situations. As you no doubt know, traditional methods don't often work. Regardless, nobody is imposing their subpar behavior on you, so don't worry, thanks.
Signed,

Also members of "society".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you considered medication? Also, improving attention and decreasing the hyperactivity may get rid of his language delays as well as improve behavior.

Drugging a kid may help with behavior but not language.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I need some practical advice I guess - did you ignore? I try but often just can't. Did you do time outs?

Please, for the love of all that is holy, do not just "ignore" this behavior when you are in public. Thank you.

-- Society



(and yes, I am allowed to be on the Special Needs board and post a comment that is contributing but not 102% saccharine sweet. I am in fact a parent with a kid who has SN / ADHD inattentive)

Depends on the behavior. I have ignored some. It does work. Otherwise, we leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you considered medication? Also, improving attention and decreasing the hyperactivity may get rid of his language delays as well as improve behavior.

Drugging a kid may help with behavior but not language.

The drugs can help if the language difficulties are from inattention and inability to focus.

[Anonymous]

Okay. Practical advice for Mr. Windmill Arms flailer/hitter.
At this point this may be a game to him. Ditto the running away and hiding or the running off in parking lots. What fun. Stop punishing. Stop paying attention.

Scoop and run if he won't get dressed. Dress him when he gets to preschool and sees that no one else is in pajamas. Hold on tight to him in parking lots. "I wish I could let go of you Larlo, but I just can't." Repeat, verbatim, each time he squawks. Don't rise when he rises. Ever. Walk away. Walk over him. Discuss boring current events.

I really don't agree with the medication proposers. A lot of this is learned behavior. It's not impulse control or ADHD or defiance or syndrome.