Getting a restraining order against your parent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - sorry this is happening for you. Ignore the idiots who will come on DCUM and tell you to relax or work it out or some sh*t. We haven't had to go this route with my parents (thankfully) but they are abusive and crazy in a way that other people don't get. Do what you need to do to keep you and your family safe. Good luck!

If OP said here are the reasons we believe we need a PFA, people would be more understanding. In the absence of evidence, it makes it unclear that it will be possible to get one. You do need to have some evidence and can not get one just because you want it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - sorry this is happening for you. Ignore the idiots who will come on DCUM and tell you to relax or work it out or some sh*t. We haven't had to go this route with my parents (thankfully) but they are abusive and crazy in a way that other people don't get. Do what you need to do to keep you and your family safe. Good luck!

If OP said here are the reasons we believe we need a PFA, people would be more understanding. In the absence of evidence, it makes it unclear that it will be possible to get one. You do need to have some evidence and can not get one just because you want it.

Completely agree. OP was not specific enough. You need evidence of harm or threat to your children by the grandparents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - sorry this is happening for you. Ignore the idiots who will come on DCUM and tell you to relax or work it out or some sh*t. We haven't had to go this route with my parents (thankfully) but they are abusive and crazy in a way that other people don't get. Do what you need to do to keep you and your family safe. Good luck!

If OP said here are the reasons we believe we need a PFA, people would be more understanding. In the absence of evidence, it makes it unclear that it will be possible to get one. You do need to have some evidence and can not get one just because you want it.

This is an online message board, not court, so stop haranguing OP for "evidence". You are just nosy.

OP, I'm sorry for what you are going through. If you are in MoCo, try starting with the Family Justice Center. If elsewhere, you might contact the local domestic violence agency and ask for a referral if they can't guide you. Your petition for a protection order will need to make it clear that there is an imminent threat of bodily harm or mental abuse of a child, or stalking. You can usually find the forms online.

[Anonymous]

Lawyer here. I have some experience securing protective orders, generally against intimate partners and spouses.

If you are in a situation where you feel threatened enough to seek a protective order, it is NOT advisable to share details on a public board. Even anonymously. It's a smaller world than we often think, and family abuse situations are at their most dangerous when you try to sever ties.

OP, don't say more. Most jurisdictions' court system websites have information about securing a protective order under "family law" or "domestic relations." You can also contact legal aid if you don't have funds or a good family lawyer. If you feel like your child is in danger call the police.

Be forthright with your child's school. Student safety is their number one responsibility.

To all of the people demanding info: don't do that in the future when someone is talking about potential abuse or stalking. If OP doesn't have enough to get a protective order the court or counsel will say so. There's no need to adjudicate it here and a serious downside to sharing details.

Sorry to rain on the prurient parade.

[Anonymous]

I think this is PPs thread:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/370570.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lawyer here. I have some experience securing protective orders, generally against intimate partners and spouses.

If you are in a situation where you feel threatened enough to seek a protective order, it is NOT advisable to share details on a public board. Even anonymously. It's a smaller world than we often think, and family abuse situations are at their most dangerous when you try to sever ties.

OP, don't say more. Most jurisdictions' court system websites have information about securing a protective order under "family law" or "domestic relations." You can also contact legal aid if you don't have funds or a good family lawyer. If you feel like your child is in danger call the police.

Be forthright with your child's school. Student safety is their number one responsibility.

To all of the people demanding info: don't do that in the future when someone is talking about potential abuse or stalking. If OP doesn't have enough to get a protective order the court or counsel will say so. There's no need to adjudicate it here and a serious downside to sharing details.

Sorry to rain on the prurient parade.

Not OP but very glad you posted this, it's important advice for many. So many DCUMers feel entitled to the gory details... but good to know that not only are the gory details none of their business if OP asked a basic question; there are also actual legal reasons NOT to post details.

Thanks you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lawyer here. I have some experience securing protective orders, generally against intimate partners and spouses.

If you are in a situation where you feel threatened enough to seek a protective order, it is NOT advisable to share details on a public board. Even anonymously. It's a smaller world than we often think, and family abuse situations are at their most dangerous when you try to sever ties.

OP, don't say more. Most jurisdictions' court system websites have information about securing a protective order under "family law" or "domestic relations." You can also contact legal aid if you don't have funds or a good family lawyer. If you feel like your child is in danger call the police.

Be forthright with your child's school. Student safety is their number one responsibility.

To all of the people demanding info: don't do that in the future when someone is talking about potential abuse or stalking. If OP doesn't have enough to get a protective order the court or counsel will say so. There's no need to adjudicate it here and a serious downside to sharing details.

Sorry to rain on the prurient parade.

Not OP but very glad you posted this, it's important advice for many. So many DCUMers feel entitled to the gory details... but good to know that not only are the gory details none of their business if OP asked a basic question; there are also actual legal reasons NOT to post details.

Thanks you!

I think PP meant that some people think getting restraining orders is as easy as it appears on TV. It is not.Before a court will issue one, you have to prove that there is some danger to you. Most courts won't order a behavior to stop unless there's proof that it's happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lawyer here. I have some experience securing protective orders, generally against intimate partners and spouses.

If you are in a situation where you feel threatened enough to seek a protective order, it is NOT advisable to share details on a public board. Even anonymously. It's a smaller world than we often think, and family abuse situations are at their most dangerous when you try to sever ties.

OP, don't say more. Most jurisdictions' court system websites have information about securing a protective order under "family law" or "domestic relations." You can also contact legal aid if you don't have funds or a good family lawyer. If you feel like your child is in danger call the police.

Be forthright with your child's school. Student safety is their number one responsibility.

To all of the people demanding info: don't do that in the future when someone is talking about potential abuse or stalking. If OP doesn't have enough to get a protective order the court or counsel will say so. There's no need to adjudicate it here and a serious downside to sharing details.

Sorry to rain on the prurient parade.

I am the pp you are referring to and your characterization is incorrect. I mean that the OP should not disclose her details and that other posters should not request such details on a forum like this. The risk of retribution if she's exposed is too great. The question whether the order would be granted is for the court to decide or an attorney to advise her at the outset.



Not OP but very glad you posted this, it's important advice for many. So many DCUMers feel entitled to the gory details... but good to know that not only are the gory details none of their business if OP asked a basic question; there are also actual legal reasons NOT to post details.

Thanks you!

I think PP meant that some people think getting restraining orders is as easy as it appears on TV. It is not.Before a court will issue one, you have to prove that there is some danger to you. Most courts won't order a behavior to stop unless there's proof that it's happening.

[Anonymous]

Wow the quotes are f--- up. My response above is embedded into the post.

[Anonymous]

I feel soooo sorry for you OP. I had to get a PO against my mother. She had serious boundary issues when it came to our kids and when I told her she had to follow the rules we set for them or else she became verbally abusive, threatening and vindictive. We had no choice but to file for the order and I'm so glad we did...it was the best decision I could have made and the peace of mind that came with it was a godsend. We did have family members who were upset because we did it, but they didn't have to live with her unpredictable behavior and we just disregarded their opinions. Wishing you the best of luck. #hugs