Who is glad the holidays are finally over?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, I loved the time with my family. Why would you have to walk on egg shells around the Holidays?


You must not have one of "those" family members.


+1

Holidays used to be fun. Now it's just drama, drama, drama.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, I loved the time with my family. Why would you have to walk on egg shells around the Holidays?


You must not have one of "those" family members.


+1

Holidays used to be fun. Now it's just drama, drama, drama.


MIL is too old to slap in the face; but I do it in my mind about 30 times in 3 hours. It's therapeutic. She is a spoiled, nasty, cold, antisocial, know it all, self righteous, bitter hag. Debating if someday I should just say so to her face. I am pretty sure everyone in company knows how I feel, and most of them feel the same way. She can't say anything nice about anyone but total strangers; and it's her way of the highway. She thinks she has had it so rough, and that no one else deserves anything positive or pleasant (except her favorite child, whom she enables, another topic altogether). She shouldn't make me want to throw up, but she does.

So yeah, I try to not let MIL overshadow what was always my favorite time of year (or any other time); I make it about the kids.

Anonymous
I'm glad it's over. We had a nice holiday but the list of "to-do's" leading up to it was extensive. I'm tired and I'm glad we don't have a party to go to this weekend. I was also happy to start putting the holiday decor away today, the house feels so less cluttered.
Anonymous
I'm glad it's over. It was great and we had fun, but I do so much better with a schedule.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, I loved the time with my family. Why would you have to walk on egg shells around the Holidays?


You must not have one of "those" family members.


+1

Holidays used to be fun. Now it's just drama, drama, drama.


MIL is too old to slap in the face; but I do it in my mind about 30 times in 3 hours. It's therapeutic. She is a spoiled, nasty, cold, antisocial, know it all, self righteous, bitter hag. Debating if someday I should just say so to her face. I am pretty sure everyone in company knows how I feel, and most of them feel the same way. She can't say anything nice about anyone but total strangers; and it's her way of the highway. She thinks she has had it so rough, and that no one else deserves anything positive or pleasant (except her favorite child, whom she enables, another topic altogether). She shouldn't make me want to throw up, but she does.

So yeah, I try to not let MIL overshadow what was always my favorite time of year (or any other time); I make it about the kids.



ours is about the loser BIL who is nothing but a drag on his family and can't even get it together to realize what a burden he AND his kids are on his mother who is trying to care for their cancer-ridden and now parapalegic father.

But, no, nobody say anything - might upset the apple cart.
Anonymous
I love Christmas, it came and went too fast. I had a family member come a few days later with her small child and it was horrible. She and I finished a disagreement in the wee hours of New Years Eve' she went bipolar on me went out to her car and screamed out names of me, I could hear it in the house and am sure my neighbors must have. Her 3 year old was asleep in a near by bedroom. I walked on eggshells and acted as though I were in a movie for 3 days praying it would end soon. Brought her dog that had fleas, peed in bedrooms, brought no food for it or her 3 year old. She trashed out my bathroom, left marks on bedroom walls and parking lot gunk on bedroom floors, passed out that she couldn't hear her child try to wake her so her child slept with me. I don't mind at all feeding the child and putting her in a safe place to sleep. What is wrong with people? Where is their conscious? Do they have one, obviously not!!! She wants to come back in a few months and bring her bipolar brother that is not on medication. It will not happen but I really just need an excuse when she calls. If it's not one week she'll try for the next or next and keep on. Any suggestions?
Anonymous
I used to grow tired of the family drama at the holidays. In laws over indulged the grandchildren with too many pointless gifts, my parents fought with my brother constantly and my Sister was weirdly eccentric. Most of them are gone now, do holidays are just me, DH and our grown children. No drama. Still, I sometimes miss those early crazier times!
Anonymous
This year was so bad we are going away all by ourselves next year. All our family is local so we see them year round.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I love Christmas, it came and went too fast. I had a family member come a few days later with her small child and it was horrible. She and I finished a disagreement in the wee hours of New Years Eve' she went bipolar on me went out to her car and screamed out names of me, I could hear it in the house and am sure my neighbors must have. Her 3 year old was asleep in a near by bedroom. I walked on eggshells and acted as though I were in a movie for 3 days praying it would end soon. Brought her dog that had fleas, peed in bedrooms, brought no food for it or her 3 year old. She trashed out my bathroom, left marks on bedroom walls and parking lot gunk on bedroom floors, passed out that she couldn't hear her child try to wake her so her child slept with me. I don't mind at all feeding the child and putting her in a safe place to sleep. What is wrong with people? Where is their conscious? Do they have one, obviously not!!! She wants to come back in a few months and bring her bipolar brother that is not on medication. It will not happen but I really just need an excuse when she calls. If it's not one week she'll try for the next or next and keep on. Any suggestions?


Just tell her that she's not welcome in your house.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This year was so bad we are going away all by ourselves next year. All our family is local so we see them year round.


I wish our family was local so I didn't have to pay for the privilege of going cross country to be stuck in their house for a week basically being free daycare to bil's kids. We don't really have a lot of extra money and my husband won't currently take any leave unless it's to go visit his sick father. I have zero to look forward to-I go from one house where I care for kids all the time with very little actual spare time to another house where I'm caring for my kids and someone else's.

FML.
Anonymous
No. I love the build up - the excitement of hearing about sales, crowds, the news focusing on holiday topics, shopping, wrapping, baking, decorating, the constant catalogs, Christmas cards/newsletters, boxes of chocolates. I loved wrapping my boyfriend's presents and seeing his reaction, it was a great Christmas.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I used to grow tired of the family drama at the holidays. In laws over indulged the grandchildren with too many pointless gifts, my parents fought with my brother constantly and my Sister was weirdly eccentric. Most of them are gone now, do holidays are just me, DH and our grown children. No drama. Still, I sometimes miss those early crazier times!


Whats a pointless gift?? need some examples
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I love Christmas, it came and went too fast. I had a family member come a few days later with her small child and it was horrible. She and I finished a disagreement in the wee hours of New Years Eve' she went bipolar on me went out to her car and screamed out names of me, I could hear it in the house and am sure my neighbors must have. Her 3 year old was asleep in a near by bedroom. I walked on eggshells and acted as though I were in a movie for 3 days praying it would end soon. Brought her dog that had fleas, peed in bedrooms, brought no food for it or her 3 year old. She trashed out my bathroom, left marks on bedroom walls and parking lot gunk on bedroom floors, passed out that she couldn't hear her child try to wake her so her child slept with me. I don't mind at all feeding the child and putting her in a safe place to sleep. What is wrong with people? Where is their conscious? Do they have one, obviously not!!! She wants to come back in a few months and bring her bipolar brother that is not on medication. It will not happen but I really just need an excuse when she calls. If it's not one week she'll try for the next or next and keep on. Any suggestions?


I would be very concerned about that poor child.
Anonymous
No, my dd lives on the west coast and we met up half way to spend the week together w/ DH and 2 friends. Had great time. Only time of year we get to spend a week w/ dd. Boo hoo. Count your blessings OP instead of complaining.
Anonymous
Me. I love the holidays, but am also happy to see January. By then I am pretty exhausted and 'holidayed' out.
Still have 2 houseguests until the end of the week. Looking forward to the weekend!
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