Play dates in small home

[Anonymous]

No! Don't be embarrassed. I bought the smallest crappiest house in a nice neighborhood and I had friends over all the time. It doesn't mater. Put yourself out there.

[Anonymous]

We have all our toys in the living room, play room-style. One day we'll finish the basement, but we're not ready yet.

[Anonymous]

And this is why the hatred of DCUMs

"I have a million dollar house, with no playroom! I'm so embarrassed!"

Seriously OP? What the fuck.

[Anonymous]

We have a 6000st new build and routinely visit our friends in smaller homes but they are 2000sf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a 6000st new build and routinely visit our friends in smaller homes but they are 2000sf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a 6000st new build and routinely visit our friends in smaller homes but they are 2000sf.

So you judge me because my home is bigger? That's reverse discrimination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a 6000st new build and routinely visit our friends in smaller homes but they are 2000sf.

So you judge me because my home is bigger? That's reverse discrimination.

No, I'm judging you for bothering to note that your friends' smaller houses are 2000sf.

[Anonymous]

I would kill to live in a million dollar house in a great school district. You're embarrassed?! If anyone is judging your house, which they shouldn't be, then you shouldn't want to be friends with them. Lots of (most?) very hardworking and smart people will NEVER live in a million dollar house no matter how hard and how long they work. Get some perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a 6000st new build and routinely visit our friends in smaller homes but they are 2000sf.

So you judge me because my home is bigger? That's reverse discrimination.

Not the PP, but I do judge people with houses that big. How large is your family that you need that much space? I think it's wasteful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a 6000st new build and routinely visit our friends in smaller homes but they are 2000sf.

So you judge me because my home is bigger? That's reverse discrimination.

Not the PP, but I do judge people with houses that big. How large is your family that you need that much space? I think it's wasteful.

Maybe it's only OP, DH, and one child but they don 't want to spend too much time together. My child-free cousin and her spouse bought a 4 br house in their 50s. They say hello and all that, but they don't want to be on top of each other all the time.

[Anonymous]

NASA determined that reach person needs at least 900 sf of space

[Anonymous]

We live in an apartment. This has not dissuaded us from hosting play dates, and everyone has a blast. If our friends judge us for the size of our living space, I don't know about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am guessing you moved from the midwest or deep in PA or something where money goes a lot farther when it comes to real estate. OP, I grew up in an upper-middle class part of Long Island, NY, in a 4 bedroom house that had a living room, den, study and partially finished basement. I played with my friends either outside, in the den or in my bedroom. Our games were kept either in the basement or our bedrooms.

I now live in a one bedroom apartment. My daughter has the bedroom. When she has friends over they play in her bedroom. Sometimes they bake in our very tiny kitchen. Sometimes they sit on my bed and play. Mostly though, they're outside. When she was younger, I went with them. Now that she's 12, they go on their own. I am not ashamed. I am doing the best I can for my child. In almost 13 years of life, exactly ONE kid has said something mean to DD about being poor (and that kid was in second grade and poor herself). DD is a kind girl and she attracts kind friends. If their parents are talking shit about me behind my back, I don't know about it. If anyone ever made fun of DD for being poor I think she'd drop them.

OP, nobody with any class would ever say anything negative about the size of your house. Honestly, I judge people's homes on how clean they are. Are the kitchen and bathroom sanitary? Is there someplace to sit? Then you're all good.

Good for you and for your daughter. My parents raised me to be ashamed of our financial situation and it still haunts me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am guessing you moved from the midwest or deep in PA or something where money goes a lot farther when it comes to real estate. OP, I grew up in an upper-middle class part of Long Island, NY, in a 4 bedroom house that had a living room, den, study and partially finished basement. I played with my friends either outside, in the den or in my bedroom. Our games were kept either in the basement or our bedrooms.

I now live in a one bedroom apartment. My daughter has the bedroom. When she has friends over they play in her bedroom. Sometimes they bake in our very tiny kitchen. Sometimes they sit on my bed and play. Mostly though, they're outside. When she was younger, I went with them. Now that she's 12, they go on their own. I am not ashamed. I am doing the best I can for my child. In almost 13 years of life, exactly ONE kid has said something mean to DD about being poor (and that kid was in second grade and poor herself). DD is a kind girl and she attracts kind friends. If their parents are talking shit about me behind my back, I don't know about it. If anyone ever made fun of DD for being poor I think she'd drop them.

OP, nobody with any class would ever say anything negative about the size of your house. Honestly, I judge people's homes on how clean they are. Are the kitchen and bathroom sanitary? Is there someplace to sit? Then you're all good.

Good for you and for your daughter. My parents raised me to be ashamed of our financial situation and it still haunts me.

Fwiw I have a big home and don't give a shit about the size of any of my daughter's friend's homes sizes or the sizes of my friends homes.