How do you cut someone out of your life?

[Anonymous]

If your feelings will prevent you from continuing even a working relationship with him, since you work for the same company it won't be an easy thing to do.

But you must. It sounds like you have issues in your marriage that need addressed stat and this guy could be a bad distraction.

I wouldn't completely cease contact. Try just not keeping in contact as often as you do now.

Little by little, back away. Explain to him that you are dealing with some "personal" issues at this time and need to focus on that right now.

Good Luck.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I think I am just going to be polite, but short. While ghosting may be something that people do now, it is really mean and not how I want to treat a friend around the holidays. As much as I would like to confess for myself, it's awkward and it also very much puts the ball in his court so to speak. I think later on down the line when the dust has settled that I would be embarrassed that I told him about my feelings.

[Anonymous]

You might check out a book called "How To Break Up With Anyone: Letting Go of Friends, Family, and Everyone In-Between" by Jamye Waxman (Jamye is not a typo). It provides a good perspective of the hows and whys a person may need to sever ties with someone.

[Anonymous]

I'm beginning to think when females deal with males, that ghosting is more effective. I think back to the book, He's Just Not That Into You, where the premise is that if someone doesn't contact you that they aren't thinking about you. Maybe no real explanation is actually needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should get therapy to work on your jealousy issues rather than trying to cut someone out of your life when they've done absolutely nothing to deserve that.

This, the issue is with you so fix yourself. Totally unfair to punish your friend bc you are insecure.

[Anonymous]

I think you should do the "slow fade out." Be much more formal in your email responses, keep them all business, stop accepting lunch invitations, and slowly drift out of the friendship. You don't owe him an explanation.

[Anonymous]

Who is initiating the coffees and lunches? If it's you, just stop.