Disciplining 12 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I suggest you unclench. The only thing I would have a problem with is calling siblings names. if my 12yr old says "I know!" when I itell her to do something, as long as she goes to do it, I let the attitude slide. That's not the battle I'm going to pick.

I think you're setting up a dynamic where your son is going to hate you. My mother was like you are with my brother and me, and we consider her a control freak and spend very little time with her.

Good luck to her keeping a job in a few years. Her employers aren't going to let the attitude slide.

None of what OP mentioned is okay. None of it. I do agree with the suggestions to communicate more effectively with her kid, but that isn't done by shrugging shoulders saying " oh well he's a teean it's fine to be rude."

I'm not worried. She's a doll to everyone else. Dd saves her shit attitude for me.

[Anonymous]

Good luck to her keeping a job in a few years. Her employers aren't going to let the attitude slide.

I'm not worried. She's a doll to everyone else. Dd saves her shit attitude for me.

That's nice for you, I guess, but it's certainly not common. Unchecked surliness abounds outside the home in the 15-20 yr old set.

-- occasional adjunct teacher at Montgomery College. This won't be a popular comment, but, I see patterns of manners/politeness among west county MoCo kids Vs. east/Germantown MoCo kids who take my science pre-req class

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Good luck to her keeping a job in a few years. Her employers aren't going to let the attitude slide.

I'm not worried. She's a doll to everyone else. Dd saves her shit attitude for me.

That's nice for you, I guess, but it's certainly not common. Unchecked surliness abounds outside the home in the 15-20 yr old set.

-- occasional adjunct teacher at Montgomery College. This won't be a popular comment, but, I see patterns of manners/politeness among west county MoCo kids Vs. east/Germantown MoCo kids who take my science pre-req class

and the pattern is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I suggest you unclench. The only thing I would have a problem with is calling siblings names. if my 12yr old says "I know!" when I itell her to do something, as long as she goes to do it, I let the attitude slide. That's not the battle I'm going to pick.

I think you're setting up a dynamic where your son is going to hate you. My mother was like you are with my brother and me, and we consider her a control freak and spend very little time with her.

Good luck to her keeping a job in a few years. Her employers aren't going to let the attitude slide.

None of what OP mentioned is okay. None of it. I do agree with the suggestions to communicate more effectively with her kid, but that isn't done by shrugging shoulders saying " oh well he's a teean it's fine to be rude."

I'm not worried. She's a doll to everyone else. Dd saves her shit attitude for me.

That's what they do. Pick your battles, OP.