How did Thanksgiving go? Did everyone get along?

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No one vomited or needed to go to the ER, and no one over the age of 4 was reduced to tears, so we are doing better than many of our friends based on the updates I saw on facebook.

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Anonymous wrote:Xanax? Alcohol? You people can't make it through one meal without self-medicating? Seriously, you have issues.

Oh shut it, Judgmentalina.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone got along except DH and me. And my dad guilt tripping me for not giving him enough attention. Because at 65 he has devolved into an absurd level of immaturity. But we both had plenty of Xanax so that side of things was ok.

DH and I still are salty. Doesn't help things that my period is late. But that's another thread to come later...

This is now my dad at every event. WTF? He seriously is acting more immature than my 5 yo! He threw a temper tantrum because my daughter asked him (nicely!) to take off his shoes on her new gymnastics mat.

PP here. YUP! We even have the shoe argument in our house too, because DH is strictly no shoes in the house and dad wears his shoes all the time. My dad also has had a literal temper tantrum where he packed his stuff and was threatening to leave over a bagel-related dispute. WHAT THE F.

Do you realize some older people feel unbalanced without their shoes or feel pain in their feel barefoot...

Yes I realize it. DH is less forgiving, he's kind of a dick like that. But my dad is welcome to bring and wear inside-only shoes. In the past he has claimed to be wearing such shoes then proceeds to walk outside and run errands wearing them. So....

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone got along except DH and me. And my dad guilt tripping me for not giving him enough attention. Because at 65 he has devolved into an absurd level of immaturity. But we both had plenty of Xanax so that side of things was ok.

DH and I still are salty. Doesn't help things that my period is late. But that's another thread to come later...

This is now my dad at every event. WTF? He seriously is acting more immature than my 5 yo! He threw a temper tantrum because my daughter asked him (nicely!) to take off his shoes on her new gymnastics mat.

PP here. YUP! We even have the shoe argument in our house too, because DH is strictly no shoes in the house and dad wears his shoes all the time. My dad also has had a literal temper tantrum where he packed his stuff and was threatening to leave over a bagel-related dispute. WHAT THE F.

Do you realize some older people feel unbalanced without their shoes or feel pain in their feel barefoot...

So then maybe my dad should stop running all over my DD's gymnastics mat? We let him wear shoes in the house (even though we generally don't). Anyway, he didn't need to act like a whiney little bitch when she nicely asked him to stop. Maybe it's dementia.

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Anonymous wrote:Xanax? Alcohol? You people can't make it through one meal without self-medicating? Seriously, you have issues.

Better that than the alternative. Relatives can ruin the holidays for everyone because they are miserable themselves. Why not add a little buffer against their toxicity if you can.

Seven years ago, we didn't make it to Thanksgiving dinner because my mother. Could. Not. Stop. Herself. from making horrible and untrue comments about me. My teen and preschooler were openly crying. I pulled the car over, turned the car off, and offered two choices, she could be quiet or I could drive her home and she could spend the holiday alone. She agreed to be quiet. When I turned the key, the car would not start. My dad was in the hospital and couldn't come get us. We had to call roadside assistance and wait 2 hours for a tow. I fed my kids 7-11 food for Thanksgiving dinner while my mother told everyone who entered the store how I incompetent I was. When the tow truck driver arrived, he figured out what the problem was and was able to fix it. Turned out later, it was not my fault.

I've forgiven her, but I will never forget it. My younger DD has never mentioned it, but my older DD actually wrote a screenplay in college loosely based on the incident. I laughed reading it, but it was really not funny.

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Anonymous wrote:Xanax? Alcohol? You people can't make it through one meal without self-medicating? Seriously, you have issues.

Better that than the alternative. Relatives can ruin the holidays for everyone because they are miserable themselves. Why not add a little buffer against their toxicity if you can.

Seven years ago, we didn't make it to Thanksgiving dinner because my mother. Could. Not. Stop. Herself. from making horrible and untrue comments about me. My teen and preschooler were openly crying. I pulled the car over, turned the car off, and offered two choices, she could be quiet or I could drive her home and she could spend the holiday alone. She agreed to be quiet. When I turned the key, the car would not start. My dad was in the hospital and couldn't come get us. We had to call roadside assistance and wait 2 hours for a tow. I fed my kids 7-11 food for Thanksgiving dinner while my mother told everyone who entered the store how I incompetent I was. When the tow truck driver arrived, he figured out what the problem was and was able to fix it. Turned out later, it was not my fault.

I've forgiven her, but I will never forget it. My younger DD has never mentioned it, but my older DD actually wrote a screenplay in college loosely based on the incident. I laughed reading it, but it was really not funny.

Ah yes, I remember the time during the recession when DH and I had been out of work, were practically homeless and my Mom first invited us to stay at her place, then proceeded to berate us daily and finally kicked us out. We had bent over backwards to be completely invisible houseguests. The kids were traumatized by her constant mood swings and having to leave her house in a hurry after being told they could stay for months. I will never forget her behavior and do not trust her anymore. They know their grandmother is crazy now, which I suppose could be an advantage.

[Anonymous]

Loved our thanksgiving. It was magical and wonderful.


We also skipped it entirely! Hooray!

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Anonymous wrote:Xanax? Alcohol? You people can't make it through one meal without self-medicating? Seriously, you have issues.

Because enjoying alchhol during the holiday is a terrible

[Anonymous]

It was good aside from the fact that I awkwardly and literally drooled over a family friend, and I'm pretty sure at some point I got caught daydreaming about kissing him.
But the family was fun, got to hold the new babies, hear the stories of the older people, ate far too much, and drank some great wine.

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Anonymous wrote:We were hosting about 20 people, all close family members. Surprisingly this was the best Thanksgiving ever. Everyone got along very well. My in-laws were very warm and respectful. No one left until the kitchen was sparkling clean.

Score OP! Very nice!

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Anonymous wrote:We were hosting about 20 people, all close family members. Surprisingly this was the best Thanksgiving ever. Everyone got along very well. My in-laws were very warm and respectful. No one left until the kitchen was sparkling clean.

Score OP! Very nice!

Meant to add, Dh and I *both* noticed that the holiday and atmosphere are more pleasant without his mom, who will be present for Christmas. Mil is very grumpy, and it is glaringly obvious that she hates everything positive- including holidays, so everyone feels the stress, sadly. It goes much smoother without her. We feel like everyone is trying to please MIL when she is present - and it is impossible to please her.

[Anonymous]

It went great. We hosted another couple and their kids. We kicked off with great appetizers and white wine. Then, before dinner, everybody contributed to the prayer before dinner, as we went around the table and asked everyone what they were thankful for. Then great food, desserts, and more than a few fine rieslings and cabernets.

I have no idea why people make such a drama over Thanksgiving. Its THANKS-giving.

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Anonymous wrote:Xanax? Alcohol? You people can't make it through one meal without self-medicating? Seriously, you have issues.

Because enjoying alchhol during the holiday is a terrible

It is a problem when people turn to it as a "buffer." Grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:It went great. We hosted another couple and their kids. We kicked off with great appetizers and white wine. Then, before dinner, everybody contributed to the prayer before dinner, as we went around the table and asked everyone what they were thankful for. Then great food, desserts, and more than a few fine rieslings and cabernets.

I have no idea why people make such a drama over Thanksgiving. Its THANKS-giving.

Sounds like you are too drunk to care what's going on.

[Anonymous]

My mom makes me want to bury my face in a bunch of pillows and scream.