regret marrying my husband

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a brown person I have to say this sounds like something brown people do. Lot's of mama's boys in our culture.

Never heard people refer to themselves as brown before, but last time I checked, there is more than one brown culture?

South Asians refer to themselves as brown quite often.

And yes, as another South Asian, I totally see this happening.

I am South Asian and I have never ever heard anyone refer to themselves as "Brown". The terms are always "Wheatish", "Fair" or "Dark".

Yes, I can imagine this happening in an arranged marriage kind of situation amongst South Asians.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a brown person I have to say this sounds like something brown people do. Lot's of mama's boys in our culture.

Never heard people refer to themselves as brown before, but last time I checked, there is more than one brown culture?

South Asians refer to themselves as brown quite often.

And yes, as another South Asian, I totally see this happening.

I am South Asian and I have never ever heard anyone refer to themselves as "Brown". The terms are always "Wheatish", "Fair" or "Dark".

Yes, I can imagine this happening in an arranged marriage kind of situation amongst South Asians.

People rarely actually describe their actual skin color as brown, but will use it as shorthand for desi or South Asian or even people who aren't black/white/Asian. It's usually done in a funny/casual sort of way.

[Anonymous]

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toughlife2015 wrote:I regret marrying my husband. And its because his life is dictated by his parents. I should have gotten to know him better before i married him. I married him too early.
Now all my life decisions are made by my in laws, and if i stand up for myself, im accused of being disrespectful and rude. My husband does not support me at all. My husband and i have no money to move out either. And im four months pregnant unfortunately. I really hope we get divorced, because this is a really sad unhappy marriage, far from what i'd dreamt of.

If you and your DH have no money, are you at least in school?

Why did you get pregnant?
There are ways to use birth control without your DH knowing it.

[Anonymous]

You live in their house and you think they are the problem?

You're immature and living like a child. Don't be surprised when people treat you like one.

[Anonymous]

toughlife2015 wrote:I regret marrying my husband. And its because his life is dictated by his parents. I should have gotten to know him better before i married him. I married him too early.
Now all my life decisions are made by my in laws, and if i stand up for myself, im accused of being disrespectful and rude. My husband does not support me at all. My husband and i have no money to move out either. And im four months pregnant unfortunately. I really hope we get divorced, because this is a really sad unhappy marriage, far from what i'd dreamt of.

I hope you didn't marry my XH. This sounds like his life. If so, you can get out. I did. Newborn and all. Kids and I were pretty poor for seven years, but happy and at peace. It's like being a political refugee and stepping off the boat in a land where you have basic human rights. You're poor, but you're a PERSON.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You live in their house and you think they are the problem?

You're immature and living like a child. Don't be surprised when people treat you like one.

This is uncalled for, you don't know their circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

toughlife2015 wrote:I regret marrying my husband. And its because his life is dictated by his parents. I should have gotten to know him better before i married him. I married him too early.
Now all my life decisions are made by my in laws, and if i stand up for myself, im accused of being disrespectful and rude. My husband does not support me at all. My husband and i have no money to move out either. And im four months pregnant unfortunately. I really hope we get divorced, because this is a really sad unhappy marriage, far from what i'd dreamt of.

If you and your DH have no money, are you at least in school?

Why did you get pregnant?
There are ways to use birth control without your DH knowing it.

Not OP but BC isn't free for everyone or infallible for anyone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You live in their house and you think they are the problem?

You're immature and living like a child. Don't be surprised when people treat you like one.

This is uncalled for, you don't know their circumstances.

Her circumstances are that she is living under someone else's roof and not supporting herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a brown person I have to say this sounds like something brown people do. Lot's of mama's boys in our culture.

Why bring race and generalizations into the topic if it wasn't particularly stated in the OP's post?


To the OP- That's a crappy situation and I'm sure it's even more difficult to deal with emotionally while pregnant.

At this point, what are your options? Do you have family that you can stay with temporarily to relieve some of your stress? Marriage is hard work but it's extra difficult if you're newlywed, pregnant, financially strapped and living with in-laws.

Would counseling be an option? The Women's Center in Vienna has sliding scale fees based on income.

If I were in your position, I would go visit family for several weeks. Take some time to care for yourself. If they're local, then simultaneously go to counseling with your DH or even by yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a brown person I have to say this sounds like something brown people do. Lot's of mama's boys in our culture.

Never heard people refer to themselves as brown before, but last time I checked, there is more than one brown culture?

Many people say that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

toughlife2015 wrote:I regret marrying my husband. And its because his life is dictated by his parents. I should have gotten to know him better before i married him. I married him too early.
Now all my life decisions are made by my in laws, and if i stand up for myself, im accused of being disrespectful and rude. My husband does not support me at all. My husband and i have no money to move out either. And im four months pregnant unfortunately. I really hope we get divorced, because this is a really sad unhappy marriage, far from what i'd dreamt of.

Disrespectful and rude? Are you married to Asian guy specially Indian/Pakistani where parents have control over their kids life and not obeying them means rude and disrespectful.

OMG STFU bitch.

[Anonymous]

You moved in with your husband and his parents, what did you expect????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a brown person I have to say this sounds like something brown people do. Lot's of mama's boys in our culture.

Never heard people refer to themselves as brown before, but last time I checked, there is more than one brown culture?

Many people say that.

People from Pakistan/India/Bangladesh say it all the time...I would know, and FWIW while they are different, there are many cultural similarities. If you are not from one of those countries maybe it is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a brown person I have to say this sounds like something brown people do. Lot's of mama's boys in our culture.

Never heard people refer to themselves as brown before, but last time I checked, there is more than one brown culture?

Many people say that.

People from Pakistan/India/Bangladesh say it all the time...I would know, and FWIW while they are different, there are many cultural similarities. If you are not from one of those countries maybe it is different.

This guy is insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You live in their house and you think they are the problem?

You're immature and living like a child. Don't be surprised when people treat you like one.

+1. You can change your circumstances OP but you have to take responsibility for yourself and your decisions.