My wife hits me

[Anonymous]

You sound brain washed.

GTFO NOW !

[Anonymous]

I would never hit her back or even think about it. I'd do damage if I did.
She's been through a lot and has her issues. Hasn't anyone been here and gotten out of it together?,meds or therapy?

[Anonymous]

Sorry you are going through this.
Leave and don't look back.
Don't tell her just go.
You can't help her. You can't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:17:40- that sadly is someone else

She isn't abusive type. She is the best thing I have. But I'm worried about her. What will it be like when we have kds? She also screams bloody murder the one time i threathened to involve anyone. And you know what? I'm a much bigger guy than her. Who would believe me? She could cry defensive wounds and I'd be locked up.
I've gotten mad and shaken her to stop but I've never hit he . And I always cry when I do. Its like she wants me to hit her back.I won't.

There is no abusive "type." If she is doing what you say she is then she IS abusing you.

If you have kids with this woman and she abuses them as well, then that's partially on you. You know she has it in her. If she lashes out in rage at you then it's just a matter of time; no one inspires rage more than a willful toddler.

DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN WITH THIS WOMAN.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never hit her back or even think about it. I'd do damage if I did.
She's been through a lot and has her issues. Hasn't anyone been here and gotten out of it together?,meds or therapy?

She has to want the meds, therapy etc. for herself. You can't convince her to do it.
It's not your fault. You are not the cause, so you can't fix this.
Her past issues are no excuse for her hurting you now, and if she's like most abuses she uses her "bad childhood" to manipulate the situation.
Your responsibility is to help yourself, to make sure you are safe.
Call the number another pp gave you they can direct you to resources geared towards helping men in abusive situations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:17:40- that sadly is someone else

She isn't abusive type. She is the best thing I have. But I'm worried about her. What will it be like when we have kds? She also screams bloody murder the one time i threathened to involve anyone. And you know what? I'm a much bigger guy than her. Who would believe me? She could cry defensive wounds and I'd be locked up.

I've gotten mad and shaken her to stop but I've never hit he . And I always cry when I do. Its like she wants me to hit her back.I won't.

Why would you have children with her? You need to man up and leave

[Anonymous]

I know a guy like you who spent 20 years trying to make a woman like that happy. It started out great but a few years in the abuse got really bad. She had all kinds of emotionally manipulative tricks to keep him feeling like he was crazy. She held a knife on him, broke things in the house, threw coffee in his face, stayed out all night drinking. She was pretty and the rest of the world thought she was as sweet as can be. Everyone loved her. He finally got out of the marriage but it was hard and he still doesn't have his head together. He lost a lot of years with that woman and the kids are pretty messed up by all of this.

[Anonymous]

Get out, OP. She WILL beat your children. Get out, OP. There's a good woman out there for you. But you need to first get out of there. Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a guy like you who spent 20 years trying to make a woman like that happy. It started out great but a few years in the abuse got really bad. She had all kinds of emotionally manipulative tricks to keep him feeling like he was crazy. She held a knife on him, broke things in the house, threw coffee in his face, stayed out all night drinking. She was pretty and the rest of the world thought she was as sweet as can be. Everyone loved her. He finally got out of the marriage but it was hard and he still doesn't have his head together. He lost a lot of years with that woman and the kids are pretty messed up by all of this.

Abusers only get worse. As you mention, they make you feel like YOU are the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You again?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/493682.page#7444247

No, sorry. I'm the you again guy. I divorced my f**king bitch. Got the kids too, and she has to pay me child support too. That's what you get for bad behavior.

[Anonymous]

PP are you really happy without her? I can't imagine not being with her or that anyone else would want me. I don't think I could live with myself if I left her. Especially like this.

[Anonymous]

You can't fix her, op. She's broken. She will do this to your children. She can seek help, and probably get better, but that has to come from her, not you. Do not bring kids into this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You again?

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/493682.page#7444247

No, sorry. I'm the you again guy. I divorced my f**king bitch. Got the kids too, and she has to pay me child support too. That's what you get for bad behavior.

In 3 months time that's amazing/.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP are you really happy without her? I can't imagine not being with her or that anyone else would want me. I don't think I could live with myself if I left her. Especially like this.

It saddens me that your self esteem is so low.
Did you grow up in an abusive household?
Anyway, you are worth so much more than someone who hurts you and makes you feel bad about yourself.
It's cliche, but it's true love doesn't hurt not like what you are describing/
You deserve better.
Please get out. Call that number.

[Anonymous]

I married someone similar and had kids. does it get better? not sure.... with kids come lack of sleep and rest, would that improve anyones behavior? then she will claim she is too tired to work and....so....that means its all you.

when my wife rages, she goes for broke. says anything that can hurt the most. she then 'forgets' and acts as though nothing happened. we have issues, but at this point, I'm too damn old to do anything.