My Mother told me I was an accident.

[Anonymous]

I was unplanned/an accident. I always knew, my mother made no secret of that. ANd not in a bad way. If she had done it the way she intended, I'd be about 36 now instead of 48. Oh well.

Really not a big deal. And as a PP pointed out, even for my mother, abortion was an option.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to talk to your mom about how you are feeling. My youngest was also an unplanned pregnancy but she's been one of the best things to happen to me.

[Anonymous]

My brother was an accident too. He's clearly the favorite.

[Anonymous]

You were a happy accident, OP. Cut out this "my momma never loved me" crap. When you have kids, no matter how perfectly un/planned, you'll know it's crap.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear OP. From your description, your mother could have handled that better, but maybe you can talk to her about your feelings and get some counselling if needed. FWIW I was unplanned also, however it was a different place and time and I was separated from my family (just google Magdalene laundries). Best of luck to you OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were a happy accident, OP. Cut out this "my momma never loved me" crap. When you have kids, no matter how perfectly un/planned, you'll know it's crap.

In a nice way, this exactly. I was unplanned and my mom often refers to me as the best thing that ever happened to her. My third child was unplanned, and I adore him in a unique way BECAUSE of that - he was such a special surprise in my life, and I'm constantly amazed by the joy he brings to my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I was an accident too. So what? It doesn't mean you weren't loved and wanted. I don't know how old you are, but in a certain era (think: diaphragm) most babies were unexpected. Not a big deal.

Me too. My dad's sperm fought their way through a diaphragm, too. I've been very loved. I've had a wonderful life.

[Anonymous]

I was a pill baby. My mom almost died in childbirth with my older brother and was told never to have any more kids. She divorced her husband (he was cheating on her) and had a brief fling with my father. She was on the pill. It didn't work. Her catholic doctor advised her to get an abortion. This was 1971 (Roe v Wade happened in 1973). She had me. I knew from childhood that I was an 'accident'.

I have had a great life. Life can be what you choose to make of it. There are lots of little accidents running around in the World. It happens and some of them go on to do great things. Because of my moms little accident - there are two beautiful children who now have me for a mom. I love them with all my heart. HUGS.

[Anonymous]

My sister was what my parents call an "afterthought." They already had a bunch of kids so they didn't have a lot of time to dote on her when she was a kid, but they loved her at least as much as the rest of us, if not more. Now that we're all adults we joke that her siblings raised her.

Your mother loves you very much, she's probably just overwhelmed with being a mom and a business owner. I'm sure she works very hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 13. My Parents own a Golf Course & Restaurant. In 2014, they did Dinners every Saturday. During one of them, my Mother was talking to one of her friends who showed up. I was on the other side of the room, but I still heard their conversation. Her friend asked if I was the youngest child, and my mother replied with, "Yes, he is my youngest. He was also not planned."
After her friend walked away back to her table, I walked over to my Mother and asked her if that was the truth, to which she replied, "You were an accident."
And then she just walked into the kitchen.

Mother never really seemed to care much about me. She'd always cared more about my siblings and my nieces and nephews.
Does my Mother hate me?

My youngest was an accident. He is the light of my life and such a wonderful addition to our family! He makes me laugh every day. I don't know what I would do without that kid.

[Anonymous]

My father told me my surrogate mother was a jackal and that I was raised by a cabal of evil anti-priests, and that is why he has to stab me with seven mystical daggers.

Does he hate me?

[Anonymous]

I was an accident as well. it doesn't matter. At 40 I know I'm mom's favorite at 13 I thought she regretted me, might have been true then but it isn't now.

[Anonymous]

Not only was my youngest sister an accident but my mom wanted to abort her. My dad convinced her not to. We laugh about it bc we have a sick sense of humor. No need to be all butthurt op there are so many happy accidents out there.

[Anonymous]

Well, considering my sister and I are only 10 months apart, I was a total accident! No ifs ands or buts about it! Couldn't care less, and as one PP mentioned, at the age of 47 I'm the closest to my mom by far. Don't sweat it. She may have answered in such a flip tone because it sooooooo doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

A majority of people were "accidents". I'm not convinced that a lot of these women plan their pregnancies.

Most of those in my circle had babies first then got the ring.