S/O: You mean 'parents,' not 'mom'

[Anonymous]

OP, it's not that the father is out of the picture.

It's that the mom is far more often willing to cause a huge drama bomb over some completely trivial bullshit, and dad is just not going to fight a war over that particular hill.

Such as giving jr. too much candy, trick or treating, almost everything having to do with social events, family, in laws...almost ALL of that CRAP and drama is due to the WOMEN's in the family's dysfunctional behavior.

Why the FUCK should dad give a shit?

Mom will cut dad's balls off over whether jr. was allowed to stay up to late or eat too much candy on halloween. Dad decides it's not worth getting his balls cut off, and whether or not jr. does or doesn't eat a lot of candy doesn't matter. At all.

So dad, being sane, lets mom have the final say on these absurd non-issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not that the father is out of the picture.

It's that the mom is far more often willing to cause a huge drama bomb over some completely trivial bullshit, and dad is just not going to fight a war over that particular hill.

Such as giving jr. too much candy, trick or treating, almost everything having to do with social events, family, in laws...almost ALL of that CRAP and drama is due to the WOMEN's in the family's dysfunctional behavior.

Why the FUCK should dad give a shit?

Mom will cut dad's balls off over whether jr. was allowed to stay up to late or eat too much candy on halloween. Dad decides it's not worth getting his balls cut off, and whether or not jr. does or doesn't eat a lot of candy doesn't matter. At all.

So dad, being sane, lets mom have the final say on these absurd non-issues.

Dad, as you describe above, is a pushover and deserves to be beta.

[Anonymous]

LOL no he's not "beta" just because he declines to involve himself in pointless drama over things that don't matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uncle: chilled guy, doesn't rock the boat, does whatever his wife says

Aunt: huge control freak by the 10th degree, it's either her way or no way

Me: have no clue what he saw in her in the first place and especially after he married her and they had children. I feel bad for them and one even voiced they couldn't wait until they're 18.

Your grandmother is probably that way too.

Um, what?

[Anonymous]

The Uncle married a woman like his own mother=PP's grandma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL no he's not "beta" just because he declines to involve himself in pointless drama over things that don't matter.

It affects his kids. If he's that checked out/afraid of confrontation, he is disengaged, a passive father, and b-e-t-a

[Anonymous]

PP: No one said he was checked out or afraid of confrontation. Refusing to get in the gutter and fight with a pig doesn't mean you're afraid of the pig.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP: No one said he was checked out or afraid of confrontation. Refusing to get in the gutter and fight with a pig doesn't mean you're afraid of the pig.

If he truly thinks his wife is a pig and doesn't try to change the dynamic or leave her, he's...well, you know...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will notice on nearly every thread here the women are in control of the children because the fathers are not in the home, working all the time, too stupid to be a parent so yes, it's on Mom.

-1! If the father is that passive aggressive, it's on him too!

Complicit or outwardly supportive of the policy, the Dad is a full partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Uncle married a woman like his own mother=PP's grandma.

Oh ok, thanks for the clarification.

Unfortunately, my uncle's mother passed away after giving birth to him so he never really met her. He was raised by his mother's brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not that the father is out of the picture.

It's that the mom is far more often willing to cause a huge drama bomb over some completely trivial bullshit, and dad is just not going to fight a war over that particular hill.

Such as giving jr. too much candy, trick or treating, almost everything having to do with social events, family, in laws...almost ALL of that CRAP and drama is due to the WOMEN's in the family's dysfunctional behavior.

Why the FUCK should dad give a shit?

Mom will cut dad's balls off over whether jr. was allowed to stay up to late or eat too much candy on halloween. Dad decides it's not worth getting his balls cut off, and whether or not jr. does or doesn't eat a lot of candy doesn't matter. At all.

So dad, being sane, lets mom have the final say on these absurd non-issues.

Whoa! Tone it down. Get a grip. It's only candy, and it's none of your business anyway.
Do you have no sense of proportion at all?