curfew for 23-year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You can't give a 23 year old a curfew.


This, seriously. You can talk to her about her attitude in the am, but no, you can't rewind the clock 8 years and give her a curfew.

Sure you can. She is 23 year old is living at home. Don't put up with this type of shit.

[Anonymous]

My thought is that if she gets enough sleep she will stop being so difficult.

LOL.

You raised her. So chances are she's never going to stop being so difficult.

Don't make a bad situation worse.

[Anonymous]

Haha, I'm a married 36 year old, and when I visit my grandma, she tells me she wants me to be in before 10 pm because she can't go to bed if her "girl" isn't inside. And I do it. It is actually nice, for one week a year, to be a cared-for little girl again. Sort of retro.

Your house, your rules (no matter how outlandish).

[Anonymous]

I'm 29 and my mom doesn't allow me to come home after midnight when I'm visiting. Drives me insane since she lives 45 minutes from where I grew up and all the friends I'm visiting. Mom says it wakes her up. I'm still very annoyed by it.

[Anonymous]

Guys, she works as a bartender. So if she's coming in at three, odds are good that if she went out afterwards, she wasn't out long. You can't put a curfew in place that conflicts with her job. Also, she's a bonafide adult.

OP, talk to her like an adult about her morning behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys, she works as a bartender. So if she's coming in at three, odds are good that if she went out afterwards, she wasn't out long. You can't put a curfew in place that conflicts with her job. Also, she's a bonafide adult.

OP, talk to her like an adult about her morning behavior.

+1

Deal with the problem--she's crabby and unpleasant to be around in the morning--don't impose the solution. She has a job that requires late hours. Do you want her to quit?

[Anonymous]

If she's getting in at 3 a.m. how is it possible that she has "morning behavior"? She should be sleeping all morning. Are you trying to wake her up for breakfast? Why?

[Anonymous]

Helicopter parenting at its worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Helicopter parenting at its worst.

This

[Anonymous]

How will she keep her bartending job if you give her a curfew? I have a friend bartender and he typically doesn't get home until 4 because he has to help clean up do the tills etc.

[Anonymous]

No curfew; this isn't high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 23-year-old daughter is living with me until January (then she will be off to live in a foreign country for a year).
She graduated from college in May and has basically been away for years. She works as a bartender and keeps very late hours. After work, many people go out and she sometimes isn't home until 3am. Then, she is miserable because she is tired and isn't getting enough rest. So, myself and my 2 other children have to deal with a crabby, miserable person when she has an early shift the next day!
I understand that she is an adult but also believe "my house, my rules". I threatened to give her a curfew if see continues this miserable morning behavior. My thought is that if she gets enough sleep she will stop being so difficult.
Please tell me your thoughts? Should I give her a curfew? If she doesn't like it she is free to find another place to live for free!

No curfew! Just request that if she is going to be out all night to let you know so you aren't worried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't give a 23 year old a curfew.

I wish this was the case but if you knew my parents, you would know I had a curfew at that age even though I was in college. I moved out shortly after but their reasoning was, "we are paying for your education, etc" lecture.

[Anonymous]

OP:

Would you rather she comes in late and crabby or stays out all night getting laid by some hook-up she met at the bar?

Would you sleep better if she was?

[Anonymous]

OP: Buy her better coffee to help her deal with the hangovers. You know not that Taster's Choice freeze dried crap, but the Quentin Tarentino gourmet shit.