Where you pissed off when you found out your DC was special Ed

[Anonymous]

School is an artificial environment that attacks and breaks down the self-esteem and identity of children who learn differently. Any book on learning disabilities includes a section on how to get your child through school somewhat intact. So, yes, I'm mad at the world that my child acquired unspecified depressive disorder in Kindergarten because of his LDs and how he was treated. I'm not mad at Special Education, though, and I'm not even mad about my child's LDs -- I'm sad that some things other kids can do without even thinking will always be harder for him. The diagnosis itself was a bit of a relief because we finally had a name for what was going on and a plan.

[Anonymous]

I was never mad about the situation with DD. however I have had moments of difficulty adjusting to this reality. I will admit it.

[Anonymous]

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://www.pent.ca.gov/beh/dis/parentstruggle_DK.pdf&ved=0CCkQFjAGahUKEwjWq6-JhdHIAhVHFj4KHUmNCkw&usg=AFQjCNGlinn1AZ0_jJ0RUGvxxHpnjvv8mg&sig2=DtuEdGhgZWZ6fMTaeV3ntQ

I work in Special Education and I can assure you anger is a normal reaction, the link above describes it. The teacher should have started by listing several positive attributes of the child and said I also noticed these things X, Y ,Z which lead me to believe your child would benefit from having an Psychoeducational Evaluation to help us understand what is going on.

It is worth noting that preschool teacher credential requirements vary wildly.

[Anonymous]

I am guessing anger is a pretty common reaction.

I remember when DS's kindergarten teacher approached me with some trepidation to tell me she thought he was behind in language. She expressed her gratefulness that I took an okay what do we do about this attitude and pressed immediately for what the next steps should be.

She told me most parents wouldn't respond this way.

Later I was upset with myself for missing (first child) and that it hadn't been mentioned before.

[Anonymous]

I think anger must be a common reaction. When DS1 was in first grade, his teacher very tentatively and cautiously approached me to suggest that he might benefit from an evaluation from a speech therapist as there *might* be some issues related to language development...aka he lisped and couldn't pronounce 'r'. She was very relieved when we said we knew and had him in therapy already---almost like she expected us to be upset with her, or argue about it.

So I think that many people perhaps don't react well when teachers suggest something like that.

[Anonymous]

My son was born premature and we were told immediately he would have global developmental delays - which then morphed into severe ADHD and Asperger's.

So there was never a time when he didn't have *something* going on. Not that any of it is easy, but for us there is no shame or disappointment associated with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My son was born premature and we were told immediately he would have global developmental delays - which then morphed into severe ADHD and Asperger's.

So there was never a time when he didn't have *something* going on. Not that any of it is easy, but for us there is no shame or disappointment associated with it.

how is he doing now? my premature son very likely has severe ADHD.

[Anonymous]

No, that happened when DH & I stood up for our statutory rights to advocate for more services and all we got was B.S. at IEP meetings.

God Bless the public school system.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, that happened when DH & I stood up for our statutory rights to advocate for more services and all we got was B.S. at IEP meetings.

God Bless the public school system.

When it works.