DS screams and cries for hours at preschool

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, try to send him all 5 days or pull him out. It looks like the 2 day thing is not consistent enough, trust me pulling him put won't be bad at all, he is only 2 for god's sake.

It's 6 hours a week. It's not all damn day. What about kids in daycare?

[Anonymous]

Since he gets out of the car for carpool he isn't sad about going to school...it seems he just misses you once he realizes you arent there. I would send in photos of your family, maybe a little one of those photo books so he can look through it and see your face and be reminded that he will see you soon. A special something from home might be nice as well.
He will get the hang of school and will love it.

[Anonymous]

Is he tired op? Sometimes there is subtle tiredness going on despite a nap (which I assume he still takes being a 2.5 yr old).

What's he like at home in regards to prek? Does he/you talk about it? When you drive past the school on non-prek days wave at it and announce "hi preschool"...give it a positive connotation again.

[Anonymous]

But a 2 year old? Really? I would pull him out. I didn't even consider preschool until at least 3.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like the preschool is a break for the nanny. Just pull him out and try again next year.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, try to send him all 5 days or pull him out. It looks like the 2 day thing is not consistent enough, trust me pulling him put won't be bad at all, he is only 2 for god's sake.

It's 6 hours a week. It's not all damn day. What about kids in daycare?

Kids in daycare don't have a choice, plus they've been there since they are several months old. OP has a full time nanny. I don't know that you need to pull him out completely OP, but at just 2 yrs old I wouldn't let him stay all day if he's crying all day. Have nanny pick him up early as the teachers suggested and gradually increase the time he stays. I agree that 2 is really young for preschool. Also of the teachers are suggesting he go home early, listen. They are familiar with how kids adjust to school and its unusual for a child to cry all day. Usually the crying happens at drop off and the child goes on to enjoy the rest of the day - a 2 yr old crying for hours at school is unnecessary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just take him out. What's the rush. You're doing more harm than good subjecting him to such extreme emotions for no good reason.

Everyone told me to keep my small crying clinging kid in preschool so he could toughen up or whatever the perverse reasoning is, and I did it, but it was a huge mistake. He would have been much better off long-term by being "coddled" until he was older and better able to deal. I wish I had just withdrawn him until he was ready.

This. He is not ready. I feel so bad for him.

+2 I agree. Two is VERY YOUNG to be away from his nanny or mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, try to send him all 5 days or pull him out. It looks like the 2 day thing is not consistent enough, trust me pulling him put won't be bad at all, he is only 2 for god's sake.

It's 6 hours a week. It's not all damn day. What about kids in daycare?

Kids in daycare are at daycare as much or more than home. It's very much routine to them. A kid who only goes 2 days a week, with a 4 day gap between thursday and the following tuesday has too much time to forget how fun it is and how soon mom/nanny comes to pick him up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, try to send him all 5 days or pull him out. It looks like the 2 day thing is not consistent enough, trust me pulling him put won't be bad at all, he is only 2 for god's sake.

It's 6 hours a week. It's not all damn day. What about kids in daycare?

Kids in daycare are at daycare as much or more than home. It's very much routine to them. A kid who only goes 2 days a week, with a 4 day gap between thursday and the following tuesday has too much time to forget how fun it is and how soon mom/nanny comes to pick him up.

Bullshit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just take him out. What's the rush. You're doing more harm than good subjecting him to such extreme emotions for no good reason.

Everyone told me to keep my small crying clinging kid in preschool so he could toughen up or whatever the perverse reasoning is, and I did it, but it was a huge mistake. He would have been much better off long-term by being "coddled" until he was older and better able to deal. I wish I had just withdrawn him until he was ready.

I don't know the details of your circumstances, pp or OP, but I don't think this is a good idea. I mean, what kind of message does that send? You could argue it means different things, but I think it tells the child that if things get uncomfortable, the thing to do is quit.

There is nothing wrong with admitting when you are in the wrong situation/wrong fit/jumped in too early, etc. That's a good life lesson as well, PP.

I think pulling him out is just as valid an option as keeping him in to give it some time. I agree with the pp immediately above.

I would give it a week or two more, then take him out if no improvement.

[Anonymous]

Your nanny is totally right. There's been a lot going on in his life, and it makes sense he's having a rough time. Routine and predictability will help as he settles in. If you don't feel it's important enough to keep him in school, you could pull him and try again in January or next year. If you do, I think it will fade with time.

Who is dropping him off at preschool? Is it you or your nanny? If your kid has some stress about you going back to work (which seems natural), having you drop him off might cause more stress than the nanny.

[Anonymous]

I had mine in a 2-yo classroom that he loved and regret making him do that. I think he should still be home. He has plenty of time to be in school.

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What I did is, I would bring my daughter in to school. I would help her hang up her bag and wash her hands. We would then find an activity for her to do and then I would say goodbye. No tears. She just needed me to come in and have the reassurance about being at school.