Is this a thing? Homecoming-posal? (Or other catchy name)

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Anonymous wrote:It's a thing and I think it's pretty awful - for the boys and girls. So much added pressure on the boy to be "creative" when it's hard enough to ask a girl out. And the poor girl - what if she wants to say no and she's there in front of all these people in this big production being filmed for YouTube.

They are terrible.

Totally agree. My quiet, shy son wanted to ask a girl to Homecoming last year, and asked me to buy a dozen roses so he could give them to her when he asked. I was so on edge, hoping against hope she would say yes and not crush my son in front of everyone. Luckily, he found out before he asked her that she had already been asked by someone else. So he asked a different girl and she said yes. I would have been heartbroken for him if she had said no. Making it into a big deal is so unhealthy, IMO.

Whatever happened to simply asking someone? I can't believe the administration sometimes also helps out with planning these stupid proposals. I think schools should ban these things if they take place on school grounds.

These are the kids who grew up with reality shows. Everything has to be turned into a production.

I agree. If I was this age, I would not want the production. What if you want to say no? I think the boys that do this are the shady and showing off type. Not the ones I want my daughters hanging out with anyway.

Actually, it is often the girls who have these unrealistic expectations and the boys are expected to come up with something "instagram" worthy. Most times the boys do their homework and know the girl is going to say yes but the whole thing has gotten ridiculous.

I am the PP and yes I agree that is probably the girls who encourage the guys to do this. They all want to one up each other in their gossipy conversations. But then again, my DD isn't showy like that. She wouldn't like someone having to make a spectacle of themselves and it is shame it has gotten to that.

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I hate these prom-posal type things and hope they go away soon. Too much pressure on everyone involved, and making too big of a deal out of dances.

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Anonymous wrote:It's a thing and I think it's pretty awful - for the boys and girls. So much added pressure on the boy to be "creative" when it's hard enough to ask a girl out. And the poor girl - what if she wants to say no and she's there in front of all these people in this big production being filmed for YouTube.

They are terrible.

Totally agree. My quiet, shy son wanted to ask a girl to Homecoming last year, and asked me to buy a dozen roses so he could give them to her when he asked. I was so on edge, hoping against hope she would say yes and not crush my son in front of everyone. Luckily, he found out before he asked her that she had already been asked by someone else. So he asked a different girl and she said yes. I would have been heartbroken for him if she had said no. Making it into a big deal is so unhealthy, IMO.

Whatever happened to simply asking someone? I can't believe the administration sometimes also helps out with planning these stupid proposals. I think schools should ban these things if they take place on school grounds.

These are the kids who grew up with reality shows. Everything has to be turned into a production.

I agree. If I was this age, I would not want the production. What if you want to say no? I think the boys that do this are the shady and showing off type. Not the ones I want my daughters hanging out with anyway.

Actually, it is often the girls who have these unrealistic expectations and the boys are expected to come up with something "instagram" worthy. Most times the boys do their homework and know the girl is going to say yes but the whole thing has gotten ridiculous.

I am the PP and yes I agree that is probably the girls who encourage the guys to do this. They all want to one up each other in their gossipy conversations. But then again, my DD isn't showy like that. She wouldn't like someone having to make a spectacle of themselves and it is shame it has gotten to that.

I'm the mom of the shy boy who gave the roses to the girl he asked. He is in no way a "shady or showing off type." He just knew that the girls all expect these moronic proposals and he didn't want to be the only guy not doing so. The girls are the show-offs. They absolutely want to brag and one-up each other. My son would have much preferred to just ask a girl quietly, with no one else around. I feel sorry for the boys, having these silly and shallow expectations thrust onto them.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a thing and I think it's pretty awful - for the boys and girls. So much added pressure on the boy to be "creative" when it's hard enough to ask a girl out. And the poor girl - what if she wants to say no and she's there in front of all these people in this big production being filmed for YouTube.

They are terrible.

Totally agree. My quiet, shy son wanted to ask a girl to Homecoming last year, and asked me to buy a dozen roses so he could give them to her when he asked. I was so on edge, hoping against hope she would say yes and not crush my son in front of everyone. Luckily, he found out before he asked her that she had already been asked by someone else. So he asked a different girl and she said yes. I would have been heartbroken for him if she had said no. Making it into a big deal is so unhealthy, IMO.

Whatever happened to simply asking someone? I can't believe the administration sometimes also helps out with planning these stupid proposals. I think schools should ban these things if they take place on school grounds.

These are the kids who grew up with reality shows. Everything has to be turned into a production.

I agree. If I was this age, I would not want the production. What if you want to say no? I think the boys that do this are the shady and showing off type. Not the ones I want my daughters hanging out with anyway.

Actually, it is often the girls who have these unrealistic expectations and the boys are expected to come up with something "instagram" worthy. Most times the boys do their homework and know the girl is going to say yes but the whole thing has gotten ridiculous.

I am the PP and yes I agree that is probably the girls who encourage the guys to do this. They all want to one up each other in their gossipy conversations. But then again, my DD isn't showy like that. She wouldn't like someone having to make a spectacle of themselves and it is shame it has gotten to that.

I'm the mom of the shy boy who gave the roses to the girl he asked. He is in no way a "shady or showing off type." He just knew that the girls all expect these moronic proposals and he didn't want to be the only guy not doing so. The girls are the show-offs. They absolutely want to brag and one-up each other. My son would have much preferred to just ask a girl quietly, with no one else around. I feel sorry for the boys, having these silly and shallow expectations thrust onto them.

Why didn't he ask a girl who is not showy and shallow?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a thing and I think it's pretty awful - for the boys and girls. So much added pressure on the boy to be "creative" when it's hard enough to ask a girl out. And the poor girl - what if she wants to say no and she's there in front of all these people in this big production being filmed for YouTube.

They are terrible.

Totally agree. My quiet, shy son wanted to ask a girl to Homecoming last year, and asked me to buy a dozen roses so he could give them to her when he asked. I was so on edge, hoping against hope she would say yes and not crush my son in front of everyone. Luckily, he found out before he asked her that she had already been asked by someone else. So he asked a different girl and she said yes. I would have been heartbroken for him if she had said no. Making it into a big deal is so unhealthy, IMO.

Whatever happened to simply asking someone? I can't believe the administration sometimes also helps out with planning these stupid proposals. I think schools should ban these things if they take place on school grounds.

These are the kids who grew up with reality shows. Everything has to be turned into a production.

I agree. If I was this age, I would not want the production. What if you want to say no? I think the boys that do this are the shady and showing off type. Not the ones I want my daughters hanging out with anyway.

Actually, it is often the girls who have these unrealistic expectations and the boys are expected to come up with something "instagram" worthy. Most times the boys do their homework and know the girl is going to say yes but the whole thing has gotten ridiculous.

So why can't it stop? Seriously. Parents and school administrators are complicit in letting this get so out of hand. Why are adults afraid to be adults and put a stop to this nonsense?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a thing and I think it's pretty awful - for the boys and girls. So much added pressure on the boy to be "creative" when it's hard enough to ask a girl out. And the poor girl - what if she wants to say no and she's there in front of all these people in this big production being filmed for YouTube.

They are terrible.

Totally agree. My quiet, shy son wanted to ask a girl to Homecoming last year, and asked me to buy a dozen roses so he could give them to her when he asked. I was so on edge, hoping against hope she would say yes and not crush my son in front of everyone. Luckily, he found out before he asked her that she had already been asked by someone else. So he asked a different girl and she said yes. I would have been heartbroken for him if she had said no. Making it into a big deal is so unhealthy, IMO.

Whatever happened to simply asking someone? I can't believe the administration sometimes also helps out with planning these stupid proposals. I think schools should ban these things if they take place on school grounds.

These are the kids who grew up with reality shows. Everything has to be turned into a production.

I agree. If I was this age, I would not want the production. What if you want to say no? I think the boys that do this are the shady and showing off type. Not the ones I want my daughters hanging out with anyway.

Actually, it is often the girls who have these unrealistic expectations and the boys are expected to come up with something "instagram" worthy. Most times the boys do their homework and know the girl is going to say yes but the whole thing has gotten ridiculous.

I am the PP and yes I agree that is probably the girls who encourage the guys to do this. They all want to one up each other in their gossipy conversations. But then again, my DD isn't showy like that. She wouldn't like someone having to make a spectacle of themselves and it is shame it has gotten to that.

I'm the mom of the shy boy who gave the roses to the girl he asked. He is in no way a "shady or showing off type." He just knew that the girls all expect these moronic proposals and he didn't want to be the only guy not doing so. The girls are the show-offs. They absolutely want to brag and one-up each other. My son would have much preferred to just ask a girl quietly, with no one else around. I feel sorry for the boys, having these silly and shallow expectations thrust onto them.

Why didn't he ask a girl who is not showy and shallow?

Exactly! The reason her son did this is because he is "showing off" asking a girl that wants to be showed off. It is no different.

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Anonymous wrote:It's a thing and I think it's pretty awful - for the boys and girls. So much added pressure on the boy to be "creative" when it's hard enough to ask a girl out. And the poor girl - what if she wants to say no and she's there in front of all these people in this big production being filmed for YouTube.

They are terrible.

I am this poster. I've since asked my son, who is a HS freshman what he thinks of all this and how he will handle it. He said he wouldn't want to go with a girl that expected such an elaborate display. Perhaps there is hope.