Is this a thing? Homecoming-posal? (Or other catchy name)

[Anonymous]

I have heard of "prom-posals" for the formal spring dances ... the (often elaborately) staged situation where one asks another to go to Prom. Of course, it must be filmed or photographed and posted online to be Instagram or FB official. My cousin's child in the midwest just got this type of thing done for the Homecoming dance. Is this a new thing? I'm curious because it's fun to see the clever 'prom-posal' postings and I wonder if I can expect to see the same for other dances and occasions in the future.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

It's a thing, but not new. My DC had to do HC proposals at least 5 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It's a thing. even for homecoming.

Proms are as elaborate if not more so than many weddings of maybe the 1970s!

[Anonymous]

It's more of a thing in some places than others, but yes - it's a thing.

[Anonymous]

Not a thing.

[Anonymous]

It was definitely a thing in our DD's HS and other nearby schools. Prom is a bigger deal but Homecoming "asks" were pretty popular.

[Anonymous]

It's a thing at our MD school.

[Anonymous]

It's good to know how things work. When DD was asked to Homecoming, I didn't know anything. Once the girls are asked, they form groups and did all the planning. I, mistakenly said to DD, "He asked you. He did the inviting so he will plan the evening. I think it would be rude of you to be making the plans" How wrong I was about how it works!

[Anonymous]

It's a thing and I think it's pretty awful - for the boys and girls. So much added pressure on the boy to be "creative" when it's hard enough to ask a girl out. And the poor girl - what if she wants to say no and she's there in front of all these people in this big production being filmed for YouTube.

They are terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a thing and I think it's pretty awful - for the boys and girls. So much added pressure on the boy to be "creative" when it's hard enough to ask a girl out. And the poor girl - what if she wants to say no and she's there in front of all these people in this big production being filmed for YouTube.

They are terrible.

Totally agree. My quiet, shy son wanted to ask a girl to Homecoming last year, and asked me to buy a dozen roses so he could give them to her when he asked. I was so on edge, hoping against hope she would say yes and not crush my son in front of everyone. Luckily, he found out before he asked her that she had already been asked by someone else. So he asked a different girl and she said yes. I would have been heartbroken for him if she had said no. Making it into a big deal is so unhealthy, IMO.

Whatever happened to simply asking someone? I can't believe the administration sometimes also helps out with planning these stupid proposals. I think schools should ban these things if they take place on school grounds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a thing and I think it's pretty awful - for the boys and girls. So much added pressure on the boy to be "creative" when it's hard enough to ask a girl out. And the poor girl - what if she wants to say no and she's there in front of all these people in this big production being filmed for YouTube.

They are terrible.

Totally agree. My quiet, shy son wanted to ask a girl to Homecoming last year, and asked me to buy a dozen roses so he could give them to her when he asked. I was so on edge, hoping against hope she would say yes and not crush my son in front of everyone. Luckily, he found out before he asked her that she had already been asked by someone else. So he asked a different girl and she said yes. I would have been heartbroken for him if she had said no. Making it into a big deal is so unhealthy, IMO.

Whatever happened to simply asking someone? I can't believe the administration sometimes also helps out with planning these stupid proposals. I think schools should ban these things if they take place on school grounds.

These are the kids who grew up with reality shows. Everything has to be turned into a production.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was definitely a thing in our DD's HS and other nearby schools. Prom is a bigger deal but Homecoming "asks" were pretty popular.

Agree. At our school only seniors go to prom so HC is the promproposal equivalent for underclassmen. It's not as much of a production as prom but still needs to be photo worthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a thing and I think it's pretty awful - for the boys and girls. So much added pressure on the boy to be "creative" when it's hard enough to ask a girl out. And the poor girl - what if she wants to say no and she's there in front of all these people in this big production being filmed for YouTube.

They are terrible.

Totally agree. My quiet, shy son wanted to ask a girl to Homecoming last year, and asked me to buy a dozen roses so he could give them to her when he asked. I was so on edge, hoping against hope she would say yes and not crush my son in front of everyone. Luckily, he found out before he asked her that she had already been asked by someone else. So he asked a different girl and she said yes. I would have been heartbroken for him if she had said no. Making it into a big deal is so unhealthy, IMO.

Whatever happened to simply asking someone? I can't believe the administration sometimes also helps out with planning these stupid proposals. I think schools should ban these things if they take place on school grounds.

These are the kids who grew up with reality shows. Everything has to be turned into a production.

I agree. If I was this age, I would not want the production. What if you want to say no? I think the boys that do this are the shady and showing off type. Not the ones I want my daughters hanging out with anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a thing and I think it's pretty awful - for the boys and girls. So much added pressure on the boy to be "creative" when it's hard enough to ask a girl out. And the poor girl - what if she wants to say no and she's there in front of all these people in this big production being filmed for YouTube.

They are terrible.

Totally agree. My quiet, shy son wanted to ask a girl to Homecoming last year, and asked me to buy a dozen roses so he could give them to her when he asked. I was so on edge, hoping against hope she would say yes and not crush my son in front of everyone. Luckily, he found out before he asked her that she had already been asked by someone else. So he asked a different girl and she said yes. I would have been heartbroken for him if she had said no. Making it into a big deal is so unhealthy, IMO.

Whatever happened to simply asking someone? I can't believe the administration sometimes also helps out with planning these stupid proposals. I think schools should ban these things if they take place on school grounds.

These are the kids who grew up with reality shows. Everything has to be turned into a production.

I agree. If I was this age, I would not want the production. What if you want to say no? I think the boys that do this are the shady and showing off type. Not the ones I want my daughters hanging out with anyway.

Actually, it is often the girls who have these unrealistic expectations and the boys are expected to come up with something "instagram" worthy. Most times the boys do their homework and know the girl is going to say yes but the whole thing has gotten ridiculous.