Etiquette Question for Adult Bday Dinner

[Anonymous]

OP here. I know the husband just booked the room on like Monday. I don't think this is a formal type of thing - literally just getting a group of friends together to go out but with our own room (with a possible side trip to a dance club afterwards, she said). This is why my best guess is that we'll all be splitting the check. As a PP said, that would be pretty pricey otherwise for a last minute gathering. I picked up a nice bottle of wine to bring. I saw a cute little party cocktail book when I was out that I thought would be fun too, but I wasn't sure. I hope the wine is not too impersonal... (i.e., everyone else brings something a little more personal). Can you tell that I stress too much about these little things?

[Anonymous]

Don't stress so much. It seems like they just want to get people together and the birthday is the excuse. Have fun! Maybe you could become better friends with these neighbors after this night. As long as you don't get too fixated on "tackiness."

[Anonymous]

I think the etiquette it, if the bday couple rented a room and invited you, they are paying. But bring money just in case.

Usually in our group, we all pitch in to treat the birthday person. But usually someone ELSE, not the bday girl, organizes the dinner.

It would be rude of them to invite you and then make you pay.

[Anonymous]

I think it is incredibly bad manners for an adult (ie not a college kid) to invite people to a restaurant to celebrate your own birthday and then expect them to pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is incredibly bad manners for an adult (ie not a college kid) to invite people to a restaurant to celebrate your own birthday and then expect them to pay.

Me too.