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Anonymous
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My children are Hapa too. I am white, and my husband is Korean. In the begining when we would go to the Korean market, a noodle house, or other Korean establishment, we would get looks. Now my children greet these same people in Korean, and there are no longer any issues. My son learned that if he says hello and then "dinasour" in Korean he usually gets free candy.
OP, have you read "Half Asian 100% Hapa"? |
Anonymous
| OP, we have a half Indian, half white child too and we have never had any issues in this area. In fact, most Indians and others think our kid is gorgeous. Maybe you are misinterpreting their looks. Where do you live? There are tons of hapa kids in DC and close-in. |
Anonymous
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Hiya, thanks everyone. I am one of those people who picks up on what people are thinking and gets distracted. I wish I didn't see blatant racism. There are more caucasians in the U.S. and people who look at me with a smile tend to be caucasian. This could be due to the numbers - more caucasians vs. indians and perhaps I encounter more caucasians (same proportion of racists in both). But every indian - old or young - looks away (mostly females turn away; where as, men like waiters at an Indian restaurant tend to dote). For those moms who are white with an indian baby, they probably don't look at you with the same disdain...you didn't "betray" the culture. You actually embraced it. I did look up "Eurasians" in Wikipedia. Those of caucasian and South Indian decent. My impression is that they had difficulties with both cultures. But here it is. Things are changing. We are a melting pot. Geographic borders are coming down and genetic diversity is becoming more prevalent. I am hopeful.
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Anonymous
Yes, Barack Obama is also hapa. |
Anonymous
| Does your child look white and/or completely different from you? Sad to say, perhaps they think you are the caregiver/nanny and it's a classist thing more than a racist thing. Possible? |
Anonymous
| Because India has a caste system? |
Anonymous
Well, my child looks like both of us. When my husband is with him alone, people assume he is my husband's child (but probably not married to another caucasian)...and when they look at me alone, they assume my husband is white without even seeing him. I only know this because on several occasions when I'm with a friend who is blond, they assume that she is related. His skin is lighter but not white, more a light tan. Maybe you are right, maybe because I look young, people think I'm a nanny (it's not really about what the kid looks like). I don't think the caste system way of thinking still exists... |
Anonymous
| OP here. Thanks for letting me rant. It's probably something else; thereby not racism. I'm not going to worry about it anymore. |