Boyfriend taking and sending pics without my knowledge.

[Anonymous]

This is op. I didn' t know he took the picture. He knows I hate taking pictures in general. We have been together for over a year.

[Anonymous]

Why is this a big deal? Naked pictures would be a serious problem. A picture of you in public isn't trouble.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

You sound really immature.

Did you know at the time he was taking a picture of you? If so, then you could expect that he might share it or post it.

You actually are the one who sounds immature and lame. Who cares if she's young? Is that a reason to hate on her?

Get over yourself, you miserable cow.

I'm the pp who asked age. If a guy older than 20 did this, my suggestion is to bail out quickly because HE is immature or a total creep. I don't think it is okay for a guy under 20 to do, either, but I could see an over-eager HS guy doing it and not necessarily writing him off forever if it's the first time he did it. It's violating and inappropriate no matter what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

You sound really immature.

Did you know at the time he was taking a picture of you? If so, then you could expect that he might share it or post it.

You actually are the one who sounds immature and lame. Who cares if she's young? Is that a reason to hate on her?

Get over yourself, you miserable cow.

I'm the pp who asked age. If a guy older than 20 did this, my suggestion is to bail out quickly because HE is immature or a total creep. I don't think it is okay for a guy under 20 to do, either, but I could see an over-eager HS guy doing it and not necessarily writing him off forever if it's the first time he did it. It's violating and inappropriate no matter what.

Boyfriend is 32! Perhaps he did it because he has zero pictures of me on his phone but still. I feel violated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

You sound really immature.

Did you know at the time he was taking a picture of you? If so, then you could expect that he might share it or post it.

You actually are the one who sounds immature and lame. Who cares if she's young? Is that a reason to hate on her?

Get over yourself, you miserable cow.

I'm the pp who asked age. If a guy older than 20 did this, my suggestion is to bail out quickly because HE is immature or a total creep. I don't think it is okay for a guy under 20 to do, either, but I could see an over-eager HS guy doing it and not necessarily writing him off forever if it's the first time he did it. It's violating and inappropriate no matter what.

Boyfriend is 32! Perhaps he did it because he has zero pictures of me on his phone but still. I feel violated.

Let's cut to the chase. I can see either side of the argument, and for me personally it's no big deal (unless it's naked pics or pictures during sex, etc). But you don't like it and you can't even talk to him about it. He's not for you.

A relationship doesn't have to be actively bad for you to end it. It just has to not be what you're looking for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

You sound really immature.

Did you know at the time he was taking a picture of you? If so, then you could expect that he might share it or post it.

You actually are the one who sounds immature and lame. Who cares if she's young? Is that a reason to hate on her?

Get over yourself, you miserable cow.

I'm the pp who asked age. If a guy older than 20 did this, my suggestion is to bail out quickly because HE is immature or a total creep. I don't think it is okay for a guy under 20 to do, either, but I could see an over-eager HS guy doing it and not necessarily writing him off forever if it's the first time he did it. It's violating and inappropriate no matter what.

Boyfriend is 32! Perhaps he did it because he has zero pictures of me on his phone but still. I feel violated.

Let's cut to the chase. I can see either side of the argument, and for me personally it's no big deal (unless it's naked pics or pictures during sex, etc). But you don't like it and you can't even talk to him about it. He's not for you.

A relationship doesn't have to be actively bad for you to end it. It just has to not be what you're looking for.

There's really no other issues. I am just shocked he did this. I mean why doesnt he just invite the guy over for dinner? I will say that after just 2 weeks of dating he wanted me to meet all his soccer friends. I know he's very attracted to me and thinks i am out of his league. I actually think he's so hot. Hes also foreign so maybe he wants to show off as none of his friends are married/ in relationships with americans. I'm dreading this awkward conversation I need to have with him tonight.

[Anonymous]

I feel like you are blowing this way out of proportion. I don't think it's a big deal at all, unless the photos are intimate. Maybe I'm not understanding something. Can't you just ask him nicely not to do it again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like you are blowing this way out of proportion. I don't think it's a big deal at all, unless the photos are intimate. Maybe I'm not understanding something. Can't you just ask him nicely not to do it again?

Op here. The thing is, this will be the third time I have to speak to him about this. 3 feing times. I just dont get how he cant understand not to do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like you are blowing this way out of proportion. I don't think it's a big deal at all, unless the photos are intimate. Maybe I'm not understanding something. Can't you just ask him nicely not to do it again?

Op here. The thing is, this will be the third time I have to speak to him about this. 3 feing times. I just dont get how he cant understand not to do this.

Okay, yes, that's an issue. Sorry, must have missed that. What does he say when you bring it up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like you are blowing this way out of proportion. I don't think it's a big deal at all, unless the photos are intimate. Maybe I'm not understanding something. Can't you just ask him nicely not to do it again?

Op here. The thing is, this will be the third time I have to speak to him about this. 3 feing times. I just dont get how he cant understand not to do this.

Okay, yes, that's an issue. Sorry, must have missed that. What does he say when you bring it up?[/quot

He says ok he won't do it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like you are blowing this way out of proportion. I don't think it's a big deal at all, unless the photos are intimate. Maybe I'm not understanding something. Can't you just ask him nicely not to do it again?

Op here. The thing is, this will be the third time I have to speak to him about this. 3 feing times. I just dont get how he cant understand not to do this.

Okay, yes, that's an issue. Sorry, must have missed that. What does he say when you bring it up?[/quot

He says ok he won't do it again.

Does he say why he does it?

[Anonymous]

Where is he from? Is he Saudi?

[Anonymous]

Are you fully dressed in the photo? There's nothing inherently wrong with him sending an appropriate photo to you if his friends; I'm sure he is proud that you are his. But there is a problem with the fact that you've asked him not to do it and he continues to do so.

But why do you hate pictures of yourself so much, to the point that you never allow your BF to take any? That seems a bit extreme. But he certainly should respect your wishes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So just now I picked up my boyfriend from soccer. He wanted to say hi or talk to his friend while we were waiting at a red light. I said no as I didn't know that guy and I am shy. Anyway just now I see that my bf sent a picture of me to him via text. I am so creeped out by this.

Well, since you're probably about 16 years old, call the police to report him as a sex offender and keep your clothes on from now on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is op. I didn' t know he took the picture. He knows I hate taking pictures in general. We have been together for over a year.

Again, how old are you?