how to politely suggest to MIL to visit for shorter time?

[Anonymous]

I told my wife that I was only comfortable with visits up to a week for both sets of in-laws. My wife agrees. We'll flex one day if there is an issue with flights (all of our parents use senior discounts and they usually fly on Tuesdays and Wednesdays and sometimes need to arrive late Tuesday and leave Wednesday). For more, I don't budge. The last time that my MIL tried to schedule for 10 days, I made a hotel reservation at the hotel 1 mile from the house for her for the last two days and my wife informed her that she was welcome to borrow our second car for the last 2 days of her visit to move to the hotel and to enjoy herself around town but that we really weren't prepared for a visit longer than a week. She moved her return flight back 2 days and left on the 8th day. We don't have this issue with my parents because when they come to visit, they just ask me to buy their plane tickets and my mom will pay me back. So I get to pick exactly how long they'll stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I told my wife that I was only comfortable with visits up to a week for both sets of in-laws. My wife agrees. We'll flex one day if there is an issue with flights (all of our parents use senior discounts and they usually fly on Tuesdays and Wednesdays and sometimes need to arrive late Tuesday and leave Wednesday). For more, I don't budge. The last time that my MIL tried to schedule for 10 days, I made a hotel reservation at the hotel 1 mile from the house for her for the last two days and my wife informed her that she was welcome to borrow our second car for the last 2 days of her visit to move to the hotel and to enjoy herself around town but that we really weren't prepared for a visit longer than a week. She moved her return flight back 2 days and left on the 8th day. We don't have this issue with my parents because when they come to visit, they just ask me to buy their plane tickets and my mom will pay me back. So I get to pick exactly how long they'll stay.

They think you're crazy.

I understand the need to set boundaries and you are totally right that if you give in an inch often people take a mile, so you don't want to set a precedent for breaking your rules. But yeah, they think your wife married a crazy person.

Oh well, as long as it doesn't affect you, it's all good!