Well-child visit

Anonymous wrote:At what age do you start taking them separately? My girls are 12 and 14. I have always taken them at the same time, but now I'm wondering if they should start going separately. They are both very modest - they won't even change clothes in front of each other.

Also, at what age do you stop going in the room with them? I still do this, but am wondering if it would be better for me to stay in the waiting room.

My children are way younger yet (son 5.5, daughter 3) but our policy is the following:

- separate visits: from birth. They need to learn that their relationship with a doctor is confidential and they need to learn that as soon as possible.

- staying in the rooom with them. As long as they wish me to. No way I'm leaving them if that makes them uncomfortable. If I'm not welcome to stay, it's time for a new doctor.

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07/26/2015 16:48

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Anonymous wrote:My daughters are 20, 11, and 8. My 8 and 11 yr old always get back to back appointments and they both stay in the room for the other one. But I told the 11 yr old if she wants her sister to leave she can tell her, or me, and I'll make the 8 yr old go wait in reception until it's her turn. They are not modest and still run through the house in nothing but panties after their showers, and also share a bedroom so change in front of each other.

When DD was 16 and had her first boyfriend when we were going to the dr I said to her "I'm happy to sit here and play on my phone if you want privacy," and she said "No, you can come," so I followed her in. When she went away to college I pointed out where the naearest Planned Parenthood was to her school, and explained how I pick doctors and what makes me leave one. She still asks me to go in with her.

My son is 23. I think when he was around 14 or so I made him the same offer I made DD at 16. He asked if I could get him a guy doctor, so we did that. Then I'd step out "to go pay" at Ball Inspection Time. When he left for college, we talked about if he wanted to find a dr near there or come home for medical exams. He switched to a college dr halfway through college.

Very good info to give to a child. A truly valuable weapon. Kudos.

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07/27/2015 12:16

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Anonymous wrote:I stop doing well child appointments since my kids were 7.
It's just a waste of time.

Don't you get school forms filled out at the well visit?

No. A nurse could do it. Just call in and say that you need school papers to filled out. When they are ready, they will call you.

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07/27/2015 12:19

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I stop doing well child appointments since my kids were 7.

It's just a waste of time.

Did you skip their vaccines at 11/12 and 16? Skip checking to see that they are growing accordingly during puberty ? Skip checking that they can hear and see well? Skip checking their blood pressure?

Don't you know that you could schedule their vaccination without doctor's visit?

If you suspect that they might have a problem, would you wait for their annual appointment? Of course, not.

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07/31/2015 18:52

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I have two girls 9 & 11. Their appointments are booked at the same time but each are seen individually. I only speak to the Doctor if I need to let her know of anything like my oldest has just started her periods and my youngest is now starting puberty, they then go in alone so they can talk to the doctor and then afterwards I sometimes then go back in with each girl or just on my own if I have any more questions.