Nearly 16 year old DD had all her hair cut off

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Cutting hair drastically like this is nearly ALWAYS a sign of inner turmoil. Seriously.

As you said, she has had a lot of transitions, and 16 is not an age where you move gracefully away from all your friends and previous routine! I moved several times to different countries as a child, and the teen move was quite difficult.

Do you have a good relationship? Be extra watchful and nurturing for a while.

I agree with this. It might be nothing, but it might be a sign that she's vulnerable at the moment. I moved at that age ... and also became depressed at that age (I didn't cut my hair short or anything, though). I could have done with someone to talk to. Keep an eye on things and offer some therapy if she seems to be struggling with depression. 15 is a tough age - ask Taylor Swift!!

[Anonymous]

Does she seem genuinely happy with the cut? I'm just considering the possibility that the hair stylist may have cut her hair differently than your daughter intended.

When I was a teen I ended up with a couple of cuts that were very different from what I intended. I pretended I was okay with it, but I was pretty devastated, actually.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't worry about it. She got a pixie cut. It's a fad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't worry about it. She got a pixie cut. It's a fad.

Not really. I am a high school teacher and I have not seen one female student with short hair. If it was a "fad" it was a tiny, short fad that has been over since I started teaching five years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't worry about it. She got a pixie cut. It's a fad.

? It was a fad several years ago and never among high school girls - just Hollywood actresses like Michelle Williams (who looked great in that cut, btw) and Keira Knightly.


I think your DD's reaction to the anti-ballet look is actually very healthy, OP. We all need to keep a close eye on changes and attitudes of our teenage daughters but I honestly wouldn't worry about this one -- and I am a supreme worrier!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't worry about it. She got a pixie cut. It's a fad.

? It was a fad several years ago and never among high school girls - just Hollywood actresses like Michelle Williams (who looked great in that cut, btw) and Keira Knightly.


I think your DD's reaction to the anti-ballet look is actually very healthy, OP. We all need to keep a close eye on changes and attitudes of our teenage daughters but I honestly wouldn't worry about this one -- and I am a supreme worrier!

We must have kids in different circles. About 25% of the girls my DDs hang with have a pixie or a version of it. One of my DDs has it. Not as short as Mia Farrow but short enough that she styles it lots of different ways. She has more confidence/independence than her sister.

[Anonymous]

I vote rebellion from ballet, breakup or sex for the first time.

[Anonymous]

If you don't think the pixie cut is in, you should say if you live in rural VA or DC.

[Anonymous]

Long hair is a big effort. And it is hot. Maybe it is inner turmoil, or maybe she is just bored.

[Anonymous]

My money is on rebellion, but I also wonder if her hair has drawn unwanted attention to her. Not sure how you could broach the subject.

[Anonymous]

My almost 14 year-old DD got a pixie cut (short like Ruby Rose) and she loves it. She donated hair for wigs for cancer patients.

[Anonymous]

God I wish I could sport a pixie cut. Maybe if I lost 20 lbs...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God I wish I could sport a pixie cut. Maybe if I lost 20 lbs...

I did when I was pregnant of all times! I was a huge face. Horrible mistake.


But a 16 yr old with a ballerina body? I bet it is adorable!

Anyway, OP, probably nothing to worry about. She doesn't want to be the "perfect ballerina" in her new school and that is a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Break up with boyfriend/girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Honestly if this was my child. She would be grounded until it grew back to where it was pre cut. I'm guessing the ballet is important to you but I would make her come home. No more activities, total restriction. School and home. Since its summer she won't leave the house until schools starts. No friends. I am an extreme person though.