Husband is turning 50 this year - has had ED for past 6 months

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My vote is yay!

Seriously, he needs to consult an MD.

Yay? That's cruel.

Not PP, but I sort of feel the same way. I won't miss it when the sex life slows down or goes away. I am over it.

[Anonymous]

Agree 100% that he needs to see his doctor. There are several reasons this could be happening, and the most benign is anxiety about turning 50.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have him get checked. My bf had a slight ED issue, not one we worried about much. He died a few months ago of a heart attack, but was seemingly healthy otherwise. Don't mean to scare you but I just wish he had thought about seeing a doctor.

How old was he?

I'm sorry for your loss.

He was 42

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It works sometimes, doesn't work at all sometimes and he loses it during sometimes.

Psychological? Physical?

What's your vote?

It's pretty normal for men to start having fewer erections or more trouble keeping it up as they get older. It's why Viagra sales create so much profit.

Go see a doc to get his heart checked out, but it may just be age. Viagra will help. It's also easier to get it up and keep it up in them morning if you are a 50+ guy. (And morning sex is lovely. Really. It's my new favorite thing.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should see a doctor, have a full physical etc. That doesn't sound normal.

To the PP whose BF died, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Thank you! It came out of nowhere, if only we could turn back time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My vote is yay!

Seriously, he needs to consult an MD.

Yay? That's cruel.

Yay in that I won't be badgered for sex all the time, yes. Not yay for his health, obviously. Just being honest.

Thats a really mean thing to say.

OP - have him go to the doc and get checked out. Something like 50% of men over 40 have ED - so most likely everything is going to be fine. If his doc prescribes the blue pill you'll be in for some of the best sex you've had in years.

What about the blue pill would make their sex now better than the sex they had before ED and without the blue pill?

He'll be noticeably larger and harder. He'll also be able to go as long as you want.

[Anonymous]

Each situation is different + none of us on here can diagnose your husband one way or another.

My best advice would be to encourage your hubby to seek professional medical assistance.

If he refuses (as many men do!), then you will have to ask yourself if you are willing to settle for subpar sexual relations the rest of your life.

I personally could not.

[Anonymous]

OP here - thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My vote is yay!

Seriously, he needs to consult an MD.

Yay? That's cruel.

Yay in that I won't be badgered for sex all the time, yes. Not yay for his health, obviously. Just being honest.

This attitude really makes me sad for your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My vote is yay!

Seriously, he needs to consult an MD.

Yay? That's cruel.

Yay in that I won't be badgered for sex all the time, yes. Not yay for his health, obviously. Just being honest.

Thats a really mean thing to say.

OP - have him go to the doc and get checked out. Something like 50% of men over 40 have ED - so most likely everything is going to be fine. If his doc prescribes the blue pill you'll be in for some of the best sex you've had in years.

NP here. My partner's drive is the same, but quality with erection loss is certainly less pleasurable. No yay here. I'd be happy with lower drive or better sex.

[MagicMike]

Anybody saying "yay" should STFU. I have not experienced this and I hope I don't. If my DW cant hang/ give oral etc later in life she'd better be prepared for a more "open" arrangement. I would imagine you feel so much less of a man when this goes on and I can easily see how it rolls over into other parts of the marriage.

[Anonymous]

My vote is 50 blue pills on his birthday cake!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My vote is yay!

Seriously, he needs to consult an MD.

Yay? That's cruel.

Yay in that I won't be badgered for sex all the time, yes. Not yay for his health, obviously. Just being honest.

Thats a really mean thing to say.

OP - have him go to the doc and get checked out. Something like 50% of men over 40 have ED - so most likely everything is going to be fine. If his doc prescribes the blue pill you'll be in for some of the best sex you've had in years.

What about the blue pill would make their sex now better than the sex they had before ED and without the blue pill?

He'll be noticeably larger and harder. He'll also be able to go as long as you want.

There is so much more to sex than size and duration and it has nothing to do with a pill. Do you have the slightest idea about foreplay or oral sex?

[Anonymous]

MagicMike wrote:Anybody saying "yay" should STFU. I have not experienced this and I hope I don't. If my DW cant hang/ give oral etc later in life she'd better be prepared for a more "open" arrangement. I would imagine you feel so much less of a man when this goes on and I can easily see how it rolls over into other parts of the marriage.

This happens to all men. All of them. Better get ready for it, buttercup.

If you are that concerned about your wife being glad about your dick's demise, you better step up your game now. 35 years of bad sex creates a lot of resentments.