School counselor giving my child advice with which I strongly disagree

[Anonymous]

My counselor also laughed when I told her where I wanted to go to college. When I got in, I made 100 copies of my acceptance letter and plastered them on her office walls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My counselor also laughed when I told her where I wanted to go to college. When I got in, I made 100 copies of my acceptance letter and plastered them on her office walls.

Wow. I hope you have found better outlets for your anger issues since then.
This is really nuts. So- you did better than someone thought you would. Can't you just enjoy that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid's guidance counselor kept pushing him to apply to Rutgers and discouraging him from applying to Ivies. After his second meeting with her and a phone call I made, my son was told to work around her rather than with her. He went to Stanford.

was this at Wilson?

[Anonymous]

This seems a wide-spread and ongoing issue. When I was in high school many years ago, I asked for a college application (it was pre-Internet days) from my guidance counselor for a certain public school in Va and was told in a discouraging voice that it was a very hard school to get into. I didn't take his passive advice and applied and got it. I still laugh when I think about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My counselor also laughed when I told her where I wanted to go to college. When I got in, I made 100 copies of my acceptance letter and plastered them on her office walls.

Wow. I hope you have found better outlets for your anger issues since then.
This is really nuts. So- you did better than someone thought you would. Can't you just enjoy that?

I think that's a perfectly reasonable response from an 18 year old. Can't you think before you post your criticism?

[Anonymous]

A different perpective: when I was a teenager, I realized that I was gay. My parents were not supportive. Having a guidance counselor I could meet with was incredibly helpful. My parents were furious that she talked with me about this topic, especially when I entered (and quickly exited) my first relationship. They went to the school, they talked to the principal, they tried to get her fired. But she stood tough and while I wish she hadn't had to go through that on my behalf (I didn't find out about most of it til later), I am so grateful she did. I know there are kids out there who literally owe their lives to her and people like her. So without knowing what the advice or topic was that OP dislikes, I would struggle to blame the guidance counselor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid's guidance counselor kept pushing him to apply to Rutgers and discouraging him from applying to Ivies. After his second meeting with her and a phone call I made, my son was told to work around her rather than with her. He went to Stanford.

was this at Wilson?

Nope.

[Anonymous]

Aren't all counselors geared to offering advice...think of them as physicians that practice medicine.... hell the custodian could give sound advice too

[Anonymous]

my guidance counselor told me that according to my likes and aptitude test, i should either be a structural steel worker or a gynecologist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My counselor also laughed when I told her where I wanted to go to college. When I got in, I made 100 copies of my acceptance letter and plastered them on her office walls.

Wow. I hope you have found better outlets for your anger issues since then.
This is really nuts. So- you did better than someone thought you would. Can't you just enjoy that?

I think that's a perfectly reasonable response from an 18 year old. Can't you think before you post your criticism?

That's not reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My counselor also laughed when I told her where I wanted to go to college. When I got in, I made 100 copies of my acceptance letter and plastered them on her office walls.

Wow. I hope you have found better outlets for your anger issues since then.
This is really nuts. So- you did better than someone thought you would. Can't you just enjoy that?

I think that's a perfectly reasonable response from an 18 year old. Can't you think before you post your criticism?

That's not reasonable.

I'm a 40 year old woman and I only WISH I had done something like that! Brilliant and just perfect. Suck it, Dream Killer!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A different perpective: when I was a teenager, I realized that I was gay. My parents were not supportive. Having a guidance counselor I could meet with was incredibly helpful. My parents were furious that she talked with me about this topic, especially when I entered (and quickly exited) my first relationship. They went to the school, they talked to the principal, they tried to get her fired. But she stood tough and while I wish she hadn't had to go through that on my behalf (I didn't find out about most of it til later), I am so grateful she did. I know there are kids out there who literally owe their lives to her and people like her. So without knowing what the advice or topic was that OP dislikes, I would struggle to blame the guidance counselor.

I suspect this is closer to the truth of this OP than the college application examples. If it were the latter, OP would have no problem just saying that. Instead, she plays coy about it, probably because she knows that if she revealed the source of the disagreement, she'd be flamed six ways to Tuesday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A different perpective: when I was a teenager, I realized that I was gay. My parents were not supportive. Having a guidance counselor I could meet with was incredibly helpful. My parents were furious that she talked with me about this topic, especially when I entered (and quickly exited) my first relationship. They went to the school, they talked to the principal, they tried to get her fired. But she stood tough and while I wish she hadn't had to go through that on my behalf (I didn't find out about most of it til later), I am so grateful she did. I know there are kids out there who literally owe their lives to her and people like her. So without knowing what the advice or topic was that OP dislikes, I would struggle to blame the guidance counselor.

I suspect this is closer to the truth of this OP than the college application examples. If it were the latter, OP would have no problem just saying that. Instead, she plays coy about it, probably because she knows that if she revealed the source of the disagreement, she'd be flamed six ways to Tuesday.

Exactly.

Cough it up, OP.
What's the kerfuffle all about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My counselor also laughed when I told her where I wanted to go to college. When I got in, I made 100 copies of my acceptance letter and plastered them on her office walls.

Wow. I hope you have found better outlets for your anger issues since then.
This is really nuts. So- you did better than someone thought you would. Can't you just enjoy that?

I think that is a hilarious response to such crappy advice. And pp, lighten up. I think you are the one with anger issues. It was just a kid having a little fun.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to assume that your child is in high school, and that you've been raising said child to grow up, go out into the world, and thrive. Congratulations-- you have done your job. Your child is exploring the world and listening to opinions that are not yours. Look, you are not going to like or agree with every choice your kid makes in life. And, you don't have to. You can love and support while disagreeing. But shut down outside opinions? It won't work, and will only is ate your child. Better to make this a life lesson about reasonable minds disagreeing.