I am holding myself back

[Anonymous]

This happened to me about 2 months in, I got introduced as a friend. We almost split up but we didn't. I was the first by far to say I love you or want to move forward... He's so cautious. We r married now though. Give it time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he was really into you, he would want people to know you were his girlfriend. Sorry OP.

I hear you PP, hence my post. But I don't question whether he is really into me because he is. Calls, makes sure the next date or trip is planned well in advance. When the awkward comment happened I was meeting his coworkers for the first time. Would have been great if he wasn't that awkward about it. I've made it very clear to him that I expect commitment and will walk and his response was to be patient and give him time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happened to me about 2 months in, I got introduced as a friend. We almost split up but we didn't. I was the first by far to say I love you or want to move forward... He's so cautious. We r married now though. Give it time.

Thank you for the positive story. Time will tell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do I change my energy?

I've met a wonderful man who treats me with respect, makes me laugh, great in bed, similar interests and values. What we don't exactly share though is he is much more cautious in relationships and wants to take things slow. His taking-things-slow is triggering a going-to-get-hurt flight response from my gut. We are in a committed, exclusive relationship but he said some very awkward not-my-girlfriend comments at a party. I should be patient, yes?

No. If you're sleeping with him and he won't call you his girlfriend and you're exclusive, then it's a huge red flag that he doesn't want you known as his girlfriend.

Yup. I have a coworker who rotates between women every few months, and he refuses to call them his "girlfriend." He's probably perfectly nice to date, like he wouldn't act like a sleazeball outright, but the women he dates are suckers.

[Anonymous]

I never sleep with anyone until I'm their girlfriend. Otherwise, why pull myself out of the pool for a loser who's not all in? Plenty of great guys who would be happy to have a girlfriend.