Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anything that is taking time and effort away from your primary relationship, has the potential to damage it.
I say this as someone who was involved in a very explicit email relationship with a former flame for years. When the fallout happened, it was every bit as awful as a "full blown" affair, because it was, in a way.
We were able to repair our relationship, but it took a separation and a lot of counseling for me. Now, I see that had I been putting that effort in at home, it never had to come to that.
My husband is happy with 20 minutes of missionary 4 or 5 times a month. Doesn't like any naughty texts, any buildup. It's a purely biological function for him. Sorry, but I need more than that. I'm taking nothing away from him by pursuing non physical relationships with others. If anything, he's relieved because I don't pester him constantly for sexual attention and I'm more content than the first 10 years of our relationship, during which time I didn't have any outside relationships.
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