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Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine has been raising his now 15 year old daughter on his own pretty much her whole life. Her mom had a drug problem and that was more important to her than her child. About a year and a half ago, his daughter got in touch with her mother who's now clean and has married and had other kids. They've gotten close during this time. She told my friend the other day that she wants to move in with her mom to get to know her better. My friend is obviously devastated. What kind of advice can I give him?
That although he doesn't have to let her move in with the mother (absent a court order which seems hard to imagine), he should not stand in the way of their relationship. The daughter is getting old enough to know what she wants from the mother - and she certainly knows the mother wasn't there before -- and nothing he can do could or should stop that. So, some longer visitation, etc for a year or so then reassess.
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