Ever just want to shout at your young teen, "Quit being an a**hole and get your sh*t together!!?"

[Anonymous]

At some point in their fragile little lives, they will have a boss that shouts at them. Best not to fall to pieces when that happens. They may have already had a teacher who shouted at them. It's called life. Other children their age are making rugs in a factory in Bangladesh, sewing garments in India and fighting in wars. They are not losing it because someone raised their voice at them.

[Anonymous]

There is a big difference between telling - or even shouting at your kid that he/she is ACTING LIKE a jerk (which I do - sometimes loudly) and telling them that they ARE a jerk (which I would never do).

Still, I'm sure someone on this board would tell me that I am scarring my children for life and am a terrible parent,

[Anonymous]

I hear you, OP. You basically have to go back to thinking the way you did when they were about 3.5. Bite your tongue, use your Jedi powers to out-psych them, and stretch your patience. Walk away when it gets to you.

What I say to them is, I understand and remember very well how it's tough being a teen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is pretty horrible. I hope you get anger management, OP. There's a difference between "You need to follow through with commitments / treat others nicely / etc" and "You're an a$$hole."

LOLZ. OP here. Got teens? I didn't shout it. I said something much more appropriate. Are you on meds? Just curious. Because I am seriously willing to bet that MOST parents of teens have felt this way at some point after witnessing an amazing chain of boneheaded behavior in a single morning. And if you have honestly never felt this way, I would love to know why.

+1
We're human. Children don't need to see perfection, they need to see real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do wonder why people take issue with people venting their feelings in an anonymous forum sometimes.

People took issue with her being abusive to respondents, not with the venting.

[Anonymous]

I do not think that word means what you think it means.

[Anonymous]

If I had any hope, I would say it. She would just say whatever, go into her room and lock the door. I miss 8 yo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh for Pete's sake. It's OK to get mad at your kids! It's OK to correct them and, frankly, the people on here who think it's damaging to shout at your kids make me wonder what kind of fragile, grit-less children you are raising. You've never raised your voice? You've never gotten mad at them?

Good luck to those kids in adulthood.

+100

I've got to say I, too, take issue with the parents on here getting all preachy to OP about her feelings. As OP said, she didn't say this, and even if she did she'd be far from alone. (And if a little cursing crushes a child, god help them in the real world.) I can't think of a friend of mine who hasn't griped to me in a similar vein about her teens. And I know I've certainly felt that way with mine. So get real, pretending our kids are perfect doesn't help anyone. And there's way to much of that going on in the DMV.

For those lucky few who don't have teen issues, I know it's easy to be judge-y here, but take care, because you're certainly in the minority and your crack parenting skills likely have little to do with it. You never know when your doting tween is going to turn into a teen with issues you've never anticipated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is pretty horrible. I hope you get anger management, OP. There's a difference between "You need to follow through with commitments / treat others nicely / etc" and "You're an a$$hole."

LOLZ. OP here. Got teens? I didn't shout it. I said something much more appropriate. Are you on meds? Just curious. Because I am seriously willing to bet that MOST parents of teens have felt this way at some point after witnessing an amazing chain of boneheaded behavior in a single morning. And if you have honestly never felt this way, I would love to know why.

NP here.

OP: You see inappropriately hostile, confrontational and combative. You started a thread and someone took issue with your viewpoint. No need to suggest they are mentally impaired for doing so. Believe it or not, you don't have all the answers. I realize you were looking for an amen chorus, but not everyone will agree with you.

NP here. You're clueless, PP.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is a senior and I'm ready to strangle her for the seemingly daily decisions she is making and thought processes she is using.
I've thrown around more expletives recently than in any time of my life. She laughs at me. I think she has temporary insanity.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm right there with you and I have a 10 yr old boy! Ugh! I wish I could motivate him, get him to realize his potential and already he's wanting to hang with the wrong crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually did shout this at my teen this morning.

I can tell you from first-hand experience that your child will never forget you did this.

Seriously? Stop projecting. To the poster who shouted at your teen this morning, this is NOT true. I am sure my mother yelled at me at some point in my life, but I don't remember any specific incidents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At some point in their fragile little lives, they will have a boss that shouts at them. Best not to fall to pieces when that happens. They may have already had a teacher who shouted at them. It's called life. Other children their age are making rugs in a factory in Bangladesh, sewing garments in India and fighting in wars. They are not losing it because someone raised their voice at them.

Citing abusive conditions for children in our own country and others does not justify cursing and yelling at kids of any age. For the record, no boss has ever said to me what the OP wrote in the title of this thread; and I've worked a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is pretty horrible. I hope you get anger management, OP. There's a difference between "You need to follow through with commitments / treat others nicely / etc" and "You're an a$$hole."

LOLZ. OP here. Got teens? I didn't shout it. I said something much more appropriate. Are you on meds? Just curious. Because I am seriously willing to bet that MOST parents of teens have felt this way at some point after witnessing an amazing chain of boneheaded behavior in a single morning. And if you have honestly never felt this way, I would love to know why.

NP here.

OP: You see inappropriately hostile, confrontational and combative. You started a thread and someone took issue with your viewpoint. No need to suggest they are mentally impaired for doing so. Believe it or not, you don't have all the answers. I realize you were looking for an amen chorus, but not everyone will agree with you.

NP here. You're clueless, PP.

Perhaps clueless as to how some kids are raised but not clueless as to what's abusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At some point in their fragile little lives, they will have a boss that shouts at them. Best not to fall to pieces when that happens. They may have already had a teacher who shouted at them. It's called life. Other children their age are making rugs in a factory in Bangladesh, sewing garments in India and fighting in wars. They are not losing it because someone raised their voice at them.

Citing abusive conditions for children in our own country and others does not justify cursing and yelling at kids of any age. For the record, no boss has ever said to me what the OP wrote in the title of this thread; and I've worked a long time.

Well, glad that's been your experience, PP. It hasn't been mine and I've worked in multiple industries. And once again, the OP didn't shout this but wished she could. There's a difference.