Ever just want to shout at your young teen, "Quit being an a**hole and get your sh*t together!!?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how we all can now here lectures, PEP talks, and all this other psychiatric mumbo jumbo about how to handle teens but yet kids these days are so unprepared, whiny, sheltered, clueless and unappreciative.

Stop doing for them. Let them fail. Let them fall down a few times. They need to learn how to pick themselves up while you are still around to watch and slightly help. If you do everything, they will never ever learn. And that is why colleges are having an influx in sexual assaults, suicides, killings etc... Kids are not prepared for the real world that Mommy and Daddy sheltered them from for 18 years.

OP, I get your frustration and I see why you vented to an anonymous forum. Anyone trying to bring you down are just idiots that probably have their own issues. No one is perfect. Kudos to you for venting her and looking for advice.

+ 1 million. Some of the perfect parents need to read about the psychological issues plaguing young adults. We need to get real with kids, like prior generations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love how we all can now here lectures, PEP talks, and all this other psychiatric mumbo jumbo about how to handle teens but yet kids these days are so unprepared, whiny, sheltered, clueless and unappreciative.

Stop doing for them. Let them fail. Let them fall down a few times. They need to learn how to pick themselves up while you are still around to watch and slightly help. If you do everything, they will never ever learn. And that is why colleges are having an influx in sexual assaults, suicides, killings etc... Kids are not prepared for the real world that Mommy and Daddy sheltered them from for 18 years.

OP, I get your frustration and I see why you vented to an anonymous forum. Anyone trying to bring you down are just idiots that probably have their own issues. No one is perfect. Kudos to you for venting her and looking for advice.

+ 1 million. Some of the perfect parents need to read about the psychological issues plaguing young adults. We need to get real with kids, like prior generations.

+2 million. I agree with you totally. You are not doing your teen any favors by sheltering them. We learn from failure. We learn that when we screw up, we disappoint people and we suffer the consequences of that screw up. Better that your kid learns these things in their teen years than as an adult.
And to the OP - yes, indeed. Having raised two very successful young adults, there were times when I just wanted to wring their necks. Teens often have the mindset that they know better than Mom and Dad and that they are infallible. It is frustrating, but is is so very normal to feel like you will lose it with them.
Good luck. Sounds like you are doing everything right.

[Anonymous]

8th grade teacher here. I love my students, but man, sometimes they are grade A idiots! The good news is that when they come back and visit me 3-4 years later, the transformation is impressive.