Getting clothes for curvy teens who don't want to flaunt it.

[Anonymous]

OP, wow this really went off the mark. My daughter is 5'7" and is not overweight at all. She isn't a twig but she is athletic and strong. Plays volleyball, basketball and softball and is healthier than most girls her age. I am so put off by these comments. She wears a size 6 but sometimes size 8 because she doesn't like form fitting clothes . If that is overweight in DCUM so be it. Kudos.

[Anonymous]

For those who have DDs that went through this already, did the sudden growth of curves--so sudden as to cause stretch marks--precede a similar spurt in height or did height generally stay the same? Our 13yo DD has put on 10-15 lbs of curves this year (I think--no scale in house) but height hasn't really changed. When she was younger, often she'd grow "out" before up; wondering if that's still a possibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those who have DDs that went through this already, did the sudden growth of curves--so sudden as to cause stretch marks--precede a similar spurt in height or did height generally stay the same? Our 13yo DD has put on 10-15 lbs of curves this year (I think--no scale in house) but height hasn't really changed. When she was younger, often she'd grow "out" before up; wondering if that's still a possibility.

My pediatrician said usually 1.5yrs after their period, they are done most of their growing. Maybe another inch at most.

[Anonymous]

Aw, that's tough. At age 31 I'm basically the same size I was when I was 12-13. It takes a while to get used to the adult body, particularly when everyone else is smaller (especially the boys!). In my head I'm still a "big" girl, even though I never really was.

Try Old Navy, American Eagle, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless she's really tall, she's probably too heavy if she's 13 and already wearing a size 8 pants.

You think a size 6-8 is too heavy? Awful!!!

For a 13 year old??? Hell yeah!

[Anonymous]

I remember this age. I was 5'9" 130 lbs and would buy size 14 clothes because I hated anything tight that would show off my curves - which frankly weren't that much (B cup.)

Luckily, there was Laura Ashley. Anyone else remember these:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless she's really tall, she's probably too heavy if she's 13 and already wearing a size 8 pants.

You think a size 6-8 is too heavy? Awful!!!

For a 13 year old??? Hell yeah!

For pete's sake - you are crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless she's really tall, she's probably too heavy if she's 13 and already wearing a size 8 pants.

You think a size 6-8 is too heavy? Awful!!!

For a 13 year old??? Hell yeah!

I hope you are a troll because you honestly have no idea that girls are pretty much their adult size between 12-14yrs old. They don't grow like boys do in high school. They are done by high school. And the fact that you are proudly shaming someone else's child into thinking they are overweight by a waist size of 6 is disgusting. Your kids must hate you.

[Anonymous]

OP I was 5"10 and size 8-10 at that age...it is hard because juniors section clothes just aren't meant to fit womenly bodies. I bought an 8th grade graduation dress that my mom wore to a wedding the following weekend!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those who have DDs that went through this already, did the sudden growth of curves--so sudden as to cause stretch marks--precede a similar spurt in height or did height generally stay the same? Our 13yo DD has put on 10-15 lbs of curves this year (I think--no scale in house) but height hasn't really changed. When she was younger, often she'd grow "out" before up; wondering if that's still a possibility.

Minimizer bras will help shirts fit better, help her keep good posture (she probably hunches over a little at school if she's uncomfortable and thinks people are looking at her) and it has the added benefit of you knowing that she has enough support.

Stretch marks are impossible to avoid if someone grows faster than skin can keep up. They will fade eventually, but if she wants to avoid more on the sides of her breasts, she needs to only wear sorts bras while doing sports. Cocoa butter is fantastic for scars and stretch marks.

Anything with vertical stripes (the smaller, the better), no pictures that stretch over the chest, a nice chain necklace all draw attention away from full curves. Avoid knits, spandex, scoop necks and high necks (like turtle necks or normal TShirts), you don't want a material that clings, a neckline that's too low so that cleavage is visible, but you also don't want to have the higher necklines because the eye automatically goes down.

Personal experience as a 10-13 year old who looked much older and was *very* uncomfortable with attention, as well as helping several middle and high school girls figure out what made them comfortable: short trips shopping, one store, looking in one section per day. It turned out that we went shopping for about an hour to hour and a half each weekend day for a few months, but it was worth it. Because she needs to change just about everything in her wardrobe to be comfortable with the way she looks now, more than that is overwhelming. Get ready for her to try on 20-50 shirts, maybe she will show you, maybe she won't, but I doubt she will choose more than 2 initially, unless she just wants to be done with it.

I also found that the girls were less self-conscious if we avoided the mall. We tried the mall, then went to consignment shops, thrift stores, outlets, and because they knew they weren't likely to run into anyone they knew, they could relax a bit more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember this age. I was 5'9" 130 lbs and would buy size 14 clothes because I hated anything tight that would show off my curves - which frankly weren't that much (B cup.)

Luckily, there was Laura Ashley. Anyone else remember these:

5'5", 115 pounds, C almost a D... in 5th grade. I lived in baggy tees, bulky sweaters and grungy jeans for a year until my grandmother put her foot down and helped me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember this age. I was 5'9" 130 lbs and would buy size 14 clothes because I hated anything tight that would show off my curves - which frankly weren't that much (B cup.)

Luckily, there was Laura Ashley. Anyone else remember these:

5'5", 115 pounds, C almost a D... in 5th grade. I lived in baggy tees, bulky sweaters and grungy jeans for a year until my grandmother put her foot down and helped me.

It's got to so hard these days, when the fashion is for close-fitting clothes. It was bad enough for not-very-big, not-very-tall me in the days of baggy jeans and oversized T-shirts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember this age. I was 5'9" 130 lbs and would buy size 14 clothes because I hated anything tight that would show off my curves - which frankly weren't that much (B cup.)

Luckily, there was Laura Ashley. Anyone else remember these:

5'5", 115 pounds, C almost a D... in 5th grade. I lived in baggy tees, bulky sweaters and grungy jeans for a year until my grandmother put her foot down and helped me.

Wow that is tough. Were you accepting of your grandmom's help? Was it better from her than your mom?

[Anonymous]

Stay away from the Junior's section. They are cut for ppl that don't have curves.

What is her style? What would she wear if she could wear whatever she wanted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless she's really tall, she's probably too heavy if she's 13 and already wearing a size 8 pants.

You think a size 6-8 is too heavy? Awful!!!

For a 13 year old??? Hell yeah!

Are your teen(s) anorexic or bulimic? Must be hard to live with an asshole mom like you and feel good about yourself. I mean even Abercrombie's CEO thinks a size 6 is okay.