What kind of sibling dynamics for those with one kid in AAP and one in GE?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will be an issue between the siblings if YOU have an issue between AAP and GE.

Otherwise, it's just school.

This is absolutely false. The parents can stay completely neutral and never mention AAP vs. GE. It's the division of kids at school, and the discussions among kids about who's in AAP and who's not that make it an issue. And it becomes a huge issue if your kids' base school is a center and they aren't in AAP. I think parents whose kids are in AAP make light of the whole thing because of course, it is a non-issue - to THEM and to their kids.

PP, any suggestions as to how to deal with the sibling dynamics in this case?

This is just life. One will make the travel sports team, one will not. One will be in IB, one will not. One will get the popular girlfriend, one will not. I tell my kids "life's not fair, deal with it".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will be an issue between the siblings if YOU have an issue between AAP and GE.

Otherwise, it's just school.

This is absolutely false. The parents can stay completely neutral and never mention AAP vs. GE. It's the division of kids at school, and the discussions among kids about who's in AAP and who's not that make it an issue. And it becomes a huge issue if your kids' base school is a center and they aren't in AAP. I think parents whose kids are in AAP make light of the whole thing because of course, it is a non-issue - to THEM and to their kids.

PP, any suggestions as to how to deal with the sibling dynamics in this case?

This is just life. One will make the travel sports team, one will not. One will be in IB, one will not. One will get the popular girlfriend, one will not. I tell my kids "life's not fair, deal with it".

Yup. Some kids are better athletes, writers, friends, etc.

[Anonymous]

^doesn't make anyone better than the others. Remind your child about that.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you are just over thinking ONE test score? I assume you meant to say NNAT. Which was taken in 1st grade. 92% is good! Way above average. Just because its not 99% does not mean your kid has no chance to get into AAP. We do not focus on getting into AAP in our house. My 2nd grader was completely unaware of the outcomes or any implications that arose from taking the Cogat and we go to a center school. To my surprise, our child hasn't mentioned anyone talking about it in class this year as well. We went to the orientation but did not bring child as they already go to the school. To our child it will be just like any other year next year, our school combines several classes and separates math and reading mainly so it really isn't that much different. My younger child also has NO clue. We just don't talk about it as something being important. We stress just trying to do your best and keeping to your schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^doesn't make anyone better than the others. Remind your child about that.

Children should praised for something they have worked at not that they were born with.