Gender Selection - Shady Grove Fertility

[Anonymous]

select the gender we want

I hate to hear this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Interesting because IviGen told me they needed a note from SGF RE indicating a positive pregnancy test. Either way for me it ended up not mattering, but I can see how this would be a huge deal for someone who needs to know gender.

I'll double check on that next week. But it doesn't make sense. SG does not do gender selection, period. So what is the difference between me knowing genders of embryos and getting a BFP and me knowing the gender and getting BFN. I cannot do anything with this info at SG regardless of the current cycle result.

totally agree. i'd be interested to know what you hear back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine why anywhere wouldn't if you had a gender - linked issue.

I can't imagine how you could think you should have kids if you want to pay for a certain gender only.

The latter is called family balancing and is not against the currently acceptable medical ethics in the US. If you have 1 child, it's acceptable to request the opposite gender of the existing child. If people want to do it, it's not a crime against humanity. It's people like you who oppose fertility treatments all together - why, gasp, you can't imagine paying to have children...

Take a step back. No one is opposed to fertility treatments. I just think paying to create a designer child is a slippery slope. And family balancing is BS. There is a reason most clinics won't do it even if it is not technically against the rules. Because it is gross, and if you only want you perfect vision of a child you shouldn't have kids at all.

Actually, most clinics in this area do gender selection, get your facts straight. SG is an exception. If it's not against the rules why do you say people who want to family balance shouldn't have kids? You have some sort of religious gripe?

And if you go down the road of judging who should or shouldn't have kids at all: Is PGS also creating designer babies? Because all clinics do it. Embryo ratings. Testing during pregnancy for abnormal fetal development. Reducing if a twin is sick or if there are more than 2 fetuses. Aborting a fetus with Down's? Is all this playing into a perfect vision of a child? You may think so, but that's what ART involves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine why anywhere wouldn't if you had a gender - linked issue.

I can't imagine how you could think you should have kids if you want to pay for a certain gender only.

The latter is called family balancing and is not against the currently acceptable medical ethics in the US. If you have 1 child, it's acceptable to request the opposite gender of the existing child. If people want to do it, it's not a crime against humanity. It's people like you who oppose fertility treatments all together - why, gasp, you can't imagine paying to have children...

Take a step back. No one is opposed to fertility treatments. I just think paying to create a designer child is a slippery slope. And family balancing is BS. There is a reason most clinics won't do it even if it is not technically against the rules. Because it is gross, and if you only want you perfect vision of a child you shouldn't have kids at all.

Actually, most clinics in this area do gender selection, get your facts straight. SG is an exception. If it's not against the rules why do you say people who want to family balance shouldn't have kids? You have some sort of religious gripe?

And if you go down the road of judging who should or shouldn't have kids at all: Is PGS also creating designer babies? Because all clinics do it. Embryo ratings. Testing during pregnancy for abnormal fetal development. Reducing if a twin is sick or if there are more than 2 fetuses. Aborting a fetus with Down's? Is all this playing into a perfect vision of a child? You may think so, but that's what ART involves.

You really are projecting here. You've already been told what the gripe is. It sounds to me like you gender selected and are very, very angry that someone doesn't support your decision. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

select the gender we want

I hate to hear this

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine why anywhere wouldn't if you had a gender - linked issue.

I can't imagine how you could think you should have kids if you want to pay for a certain gender only.

The latter is called family balancing and is not against the currently acceptable medical ethics in the US. If you have 1 child, it's acceptable to request the opposite gender of the existing child. If people want to do it, it's not a crime against humanity. It's people like you who oppose fertility treatments all together - why, gasp, you can't imagine paying to have children...

Take a step back. No one is opposed to fertility treatments. I just think paying to create a designer child is a slippery slope. And family balancing is BS. There is a reason most clinics won't do it even if it is not technically against the rules. Because it is gross, and if you only want you perfect vision of a child you shouldn't have kids at all.

Actually, most clinics in this area do gender selection, get your facts straight. SG is an exception. If it's not against the rules why do you say people who want to family balance shouldn't have kids? You have some sort of religious gripe?

And if you go down the road of judging who should or shouldn't have kids at all: Is PGS also creating designer babies? Because all clinics do it. Embryo ratings. Testing during pregnancy for abnormal fetal development. Reducing if a twin is sick or if there are more than 2 fetuses. Aborting a fetus with Down's? Is all this playing into a perfect vision of a child? You may think so, but that's what ART involves.

In that case, shouldn't selective abortion for preferred gender also be encouraged?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine why anywhere wouldn't if you had a gender - linked issue.

I can't imagine how you could think you should have kids if you want to pay for a certain gender only.

The latter is called family balancing and is not against the currently acceptable medical ethics in the US. If you have 1 child, it's acceptable to request the opposite gender of the existing child. If people want to do it, it's not a crime against humanity. It's people like you who oppose fertility treatments all together - why, gasp, you can't imagine paying to have children...

Take a step back. No one is opposed to fertility treatments. I just think paying to create a designer child is a slippery slope. And family balancing is BS. There is a reason most clinics won't do it even if it is not technically against the rules. Because it is gross, and if you only want you perfect vision of a child you shouldn't have kids at all.

Actually, most clinics in this area do gender selection, get your facts straight. SG is an exception. If it's not against the rules why do you say people who want to family balance shouldn't have kids? You have some sort of religious gripe?

And if you go down the road of judging who should or shouldn't have kids at all: Is PGS also creating designer babies? Because all clinics do it. Embryo ratings. Testing during pregnancy for abnormal fetal development. Reducing if a twin is sick or if there are more than 2 fetuses. Aborting a fetus with Down's? Is all this playing into a perfect vision of a child? You may think so, but that's what ART involves.

You really are projecting here. You've already been told what the gripe is. It sounds to me like you gender selected and are very, very angry that someone doesn't support your decision. Get over it.

+1 she sounds a lot like the mom who posted recently looking for a clinic to do gender selection. She got burned there and this topic unfortunetly resurfaced.

[Anonymous]

So you guys are uncomfortable with the selection based on gender, but selection based on other parameters is OK? Just trying to see where people draw the line in the sand. I don't have any embryos yet, still stimming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you guys are uncomfortable with the selection based on gender, but selection based on other parameters is OK? Just trying to see where people draw the line in the sand. I don't have any embryos yet, still stimming.

I am opposed to any "designer baby"ing. Medical reasons only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you guys are uncomfortable with the selection based on gender, but selection based on other parameters is OK? Just trying to see where people draw the line in the sand. I don't have any embryos yet, still stimming.

I am opposed to any "designer baby"ing. Medical reasons only.

PGS IS for medical reasons.

[Anonymous]

I posted on the other thread but in case OP doesn't find it.

I did gender selection at GW. I had medically-indicated PGS performed on day 5 embryos and already had one child. At the time, I didn't even realize the gender selection was terribly controversial. I was given the information and I made the choice.

I have zero guilt about this decision. If it was possible to have less than zero guilt, that's how much non-guilt I would have. The designer baby comments are just kind of dopey. In these circumstances, it's not a designer baby (whatever the hell that catchphrase of the moment actually means to those using it). I needed PGS to have a baby and as a result I got to pick the gender that was the opposite of my existing kid. Big fucking deal. Really. I just wanted a healthy baby desperately at that point and would have been happy with anything. Anything. But because of the invasive, horrible, massively expensive, and emotionally devastating process I had to go through to have kids, I got to pick gender for my second kid. Yay for me. See zero guilt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you guys are uncomfortable with the selection based on gender, but selection based on other parameters is OK? Just trying to see where people draw the line in the sand. I don't have any embryos yet, still stimming.

I am opposed to any "designer baby"ing. Medical reasons only.

PGS IS for medical reasons.

You misunderstand, probably intentionally. Choices about the type of baby for medical reasons only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted on the other thread but in case OP doesn't find it.

I did gender selection at GW. I had medically-indicated PGS performed on day 5 embryos and already had one child. At the time, I didn't even realize the gender selection was terribly controversial. I was given the information and I made the choice.

I have zero guilt about this decision. If it was possible to have less than zero guilt, that's how much non-guilt I would have. The designer baby comments are just kind of dopey. In these circumstances, it's not a designer baby (whatever the hell that catchphrase of the moment actually means to those using it). I needed PGS to have a baby and as a result I got to pick the gender that was the opposite of my existing kid. Big fucking deal. Really. I just wanted a healthy baby desperately at that point and would have been happy with anything. Anything. But because of the invasive, horrible, massively expensive, and emotionally devastating process I had to go through to have kids, I got to pick gender for my second kid. Yay for me. See zero guilt.

So basically woe is me, I had it the hardest ever ever ever, let me pretend I don't know what terms mean because I'm offended. Also, explain explain explain about something I claim not to care about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I posted on the other thread but in case OP doesn't find it.

I did gender selection at GW. I had medically-indicated PGS performed on day 5 embryos and already had one child. At the time, I didn't even realize the gender selection was terribly controversial. I was given the information and I made the choice.

I have zero guilt about this decision. If it was possible to have less than zero guilt, that's how much non-guilt I would have. The designer baby comments are just kind of dopey. In these circumstances, it's not a designer baby (whatever the hell that catchphrase of the moment actually means to those using it). I needed PGS to have a baby and as a result I got to pick the gender that was the opposite of my existing kid. Big fucking deal. Really. I just wanted a healthy baby desperately at that point and would have been happy with anything. Anything. But because of the invasive, horrible, massively expensive, and emotionally devastating process I had to go through to have kids, I got to pick gender for my second kid. Yay for me. See zero guilt.

So basically woe is me, I had it the hardest ever ever ever, let me pretend I don't know what terms mean because I'm offended. Also, explain explain explain about something I claim not to care about.

NP here. What term does the PP not know? I will also be doing PGS testing on my embryos (also medically indicated). I'm at SG so they won't be telling me anything about the sex, which is perfectly fine with me. After my last pregnancy ended horribly, I just want a healthy baby in my arms. If the information was presented to me without me asking for it, though, I would probably go ahead and pick and also not feel guilty about it. I guess the difference is that I tend to only get 1-2 blasts and would eventually transfer whatever made it to freeze.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I posted on the other thread but in case OP doesn't find it.

I did gender selection at GW. I had medically-indicated PGS performed on day 5 embryos and already had one child. At the time, I didn't even realize the gender selection was terribly controversial. I was given the information and I made the choice.

I have zero guilt about this decision. If it was possible to have less than zero guilt, that's how much non-guilt I would have. The designer baby comments are just kind of dopey. In these circumstances, it's not a designer baby (whatever the hell that catchphrase of the moment actually means to those using it). I needed PGS to have a baby and as a result I got to pick the gender that was the opposite of my existing kid. Big fucking deal. Really. I just wanted a healthy baby desperately at that point and would have been happy with anything. Anything. But because of the invasive, horrible, massively expensive, and emotionally devastating process I had to go through to have kids, I got to pick gender for my second kid. Yay for me. See zero guilt.

So basically woe is me, I had it the hardest ever ever ever, let me pretend I don't know what terms mean because I'm offended. Also, explain explain explain about something I claim not to care about.

I'm posting for the OP because it might help her. This forum is - usually- helpful. I don't care about you or your agenda in the least.