How come I never get hit on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you sensual? Do you have "open" body language?

What's that?

[Anonymous]

If you are of normal looking attractiveness, men are frequently checking you out and you are not noticing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you sensual? Do you have "open" body language?

What's that?

What's open body language? Turning towards someone, not crossing your arms over your chest, relaxed posture. Slightly open mouth, even when not smiling.

[Anonymous]

If a woman is attractive to a man, he will check her out no matter what type of vibe she is giving off. She may not notice if she's not looking out for it, but it absolutely happens.
In order for a man to approach, the woman often does have to be a little more "open", but not always unfortunately.
If a man isn't even giving you a sidelong glance it is not because you seem unobtainable, but because that particular man isn't attracred to you.
OP, any chance you are just not tuned in to the sly glances?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a woman is attractive to a man, he will check her out no matter what type of vibe she is giving off. She may not notice if she's not looking out for it, but it absolutely happens.
In order for a man to approach, the woman often does have to be a little more "open", but not always unfortunately.
If a man isn't even giving you a sidelong glance it is not because you seem unobtainable, but because that particular man isn't attracred to you.
OP, any chance you are just not tuned in to the sly glances?

I don't know! I'm just kinda confused because according to my guy friends I'm a solid 6-7ish. I clean up nice and can be an 8.

[Anonymous]

Wear a silk purple blouse and too short skirt.

[Anonymous]

It helps if you are obviously checking them out. They will generally return the complement.

[Anonymous]

Get out of your smartphone and actually look up for more than 10 seconds at a time you might catch someone eyeing you.

[Anonymous]

You probably just give off an "i'm taken vibe" Guys are still likely checking you out, you just don't come off as approachable.

For someone who has a boyfriend, you seem to care a lot about guys still hitting on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a normal looking 28 year old woman. I'm not fat and do my hair and makeup most days. How come I never get checked out?
My friend however has guys flocking to her all the time.

Why?

You're getting checked out. Gaurenteed. I'm a ninja with this stuff. I'll have your cup size in under 15 seconds and you'll never know.

Do you really want guys flocking to you? Quality over quantity, dear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People here seem to be saying low self confidence but I think it's the opposite. Guys have a radar for girls with low self esteem and daddy issues, so if they aren't biting, it's a good thing. It means they know they can't get anything past you. We call it the "F OFF" vibe.

LOL! I think I had this in my early/mid 20's. But, I also was clueless when men were interested in me, unless they were very direct about it, like asking me out. Friends would have to tell me that some guy was interested in me. I had no clue.

I'm not sure of the PP and his psychoanalysis, but someone has to hit me over the head for me to realize they are hitting on me or find me attractive. I'm also very friendly and end up suprised whrn a guy takes it the wrong way. I'm just not good at reading those ques.

[Anonymous]

The ultimate "Guys can't win" posting.

If we provide too much attention or hit on the wrong women, we are ass****s who objectify women. If we treat them with respect and intelligence and do not hit on them, we get this.

How about you try turning the tables and you open conversation with the guys you find attractive and let them know that you find them so. Most of my single friends no longer hit on women. They will talk to a lot of people at events that they attend, and only "hit" on women after they've talked to them and know them and invite them for a drink. Or they look for matching sites to meet women. It's too dangerous now to play the game anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The ultimate "Guys can't win" posting.

If we provide too much attention or hit on the wrong women, we are ass****s who objectify women. If we treat them with respect and intelligence and do not hit on them, we get this.

How about you try turning the tables and you open conversation with the guys you find attractive and let them know that you find them so. Most of my single friends no longer hit on women. They will talk to a lot of people at events that they attend, and only "hit" on women after they've talked to them and know them and invite them for a drink. Or they look for matching sites to meet women. It's too dangerous now to play the game anymore.

Women just shouldn't be unecessarily bitchy. I get hit on a lot and I'm still nice. No reason to act like an ass. It has served me well. Ran into a guy in business who had randomly engaged me in conversation at a bar. We had a nice talk, but I was not into him. Turned out I ended up needing his help down the line. So glad that when we met in a conference room he did not associate me with a negative experience.

[Anonymous]

I think guys take their own style of "hitting on" girls and project it onto the whole universe of men when women complain about getting hit on.

Truth is that there are more than a few world-class assholes who ruin it for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The ultimate "Guys can't win" posting.

If we provide too much attention or hit on the wrong women, we are ass****s who objectify women. If we treat them with respect and intelligence and do not hit on them, we get this.

How about you try turning the tables and you open conversation with the guys you find attractive and let them know that you find them so. Most of my single friends no longer hit on women. They will talk to a lot of people at events that they attend, and only "hit" on women after they've talked to them and know them and invite them for a drink. Or they look for matching sites to meet women. It's too dangerous now to play the game anymore.

Oh my goodness, stop whining!