How come I never get hit on?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty but I think I just give off this vibe of not being interested. Also I'm married and so my rings and my children tagging along behind me probably decrease my likelihoods of getting hit on. It happens very rarely though I can usually tell when a guy checks me out. However, a few years ago, I was in line at Giant and a guy in the next line over kept looking over at me. It was very obvious and made me a bit uncomfortable. I walked out to my car when I was done and his happened to be on the way to mine. I passed him loading his groceries in and he said "I just want to say, you are one of the most stunningly beautiful women I have ever seen in real life. I'm sure you noticed I couldn't stop staring, but it was distracting really. Anyway, I noticed you're married, so don't tell your husband I said this, or maybe do, but I just wanted to tell you." I wouldn't say he was hitting on me since he knew nothing was coming out of it but it was very nice and really flattering. I think if men are going to hit on a woman, they should do it like that. He was very kind and sincere and not at all sleezy.

OMG. I had a guy say exactly the same thing to me outside of a Giant in Annandale - back in '88 (I'm not kidding). I was walking along the sidewalk at the front of the store and he came rushing up to me out of nowhere with that line - "You're so beautiful!" I was a little taken aback and laughed and told him thanks but that I was engaged. We both went into Giant. I found what I needed and went to pay for it. Next thing I knew he was standing behind me "That's a beautiful engagement ring you have. Your fiance is a lucky man". Well, o.k.!

I half expected him to follow me to my car but he didn't. Is this a LINE that some group of guys use to pick up women?

My Giant guy was much more earnest and I don't think he did it a lot. He was kind of a nerdy looking guy and was buying cat litter. He almost seemed embarrassed to say it to me and wasn't at all obtrusive. I don't think he does or did that a lot. Not saying I am special, just that this clearly wasn't a guy who trolls stores looking for women he can cast his lure upon. That is part of what made it so flattering. I got the impression it took him a lot of nerve to say it to me.

My Giant guy seemed pretty awestruck by my beauty in a "love at first sight" sort of way which is why I remember it so vividly 20 some years after the fact. Maybe there is something overwhelming to them about seeing an attractive woman in a grocery store? I just thought it was funny that someone else had experienced a Giant guy, lol. Who knows, maybe it would have worked if I hadn't been engaged at the time.

A couple of years later I experienced something similar from a Safeway guy. I got out of my car, went into the store, came out and there was a note on my car "I couldn't help but notice you gettting out of your car and I would love to take the time to get to know you". I looked around and a doofy looking guy came wandering up. I guess he could see from the look on my face that I was not too interested. He said "Oh, that note wasn't for you. Wrong car." Uh, o.k. Lol.

[MaxwellSmart]

Most, but not ALL, guys are checking out gals all.the.time!
It can be their children's teachers, a bank teller, a girl that works at KFC or even the Pastor's wife (she is hot BTW!)

YOU are being checked out and you just don't notice it.

whether or not men are approaching you is a different story. I think that's where appearances, confidence and pheromones seem to come into play more.

[Anonymous]

Usually it's a RBF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually it's a RBF.

What's that?

[Cogiteur]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually it's a RBF.

What's that?

I'm thinking this:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=RBF

Not very nice, but I do think some people (not just women) are hard to approach because their "resting" face makes them look angry, or at the very least, uninterested in human contact.

[Anonymous]

In all honesty OP, not one of us respondents can adequately give you a solid answer without knowing what you look like.

My best advice for you would be to ask someone who is blunt and tells it like it is. I think everyone has that ONE person in their lives that would have no qualms telling someone the truth.

Figure out who that person is to you and ask them to be extremely candid with you. Tell them to not hold back and not holds barred either.

But be prepared to hear the truth. It may not be pretty, no pun intended here. Unless you can get some genuine feedback, you will go though life never knowing.