Parents of ASD kids - can I relax once pointing starts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can a child meet all the milestones and have ASD? That's impossible.

OP, I'd wait till he's two before I would relax. There is a regressive autism.

Because it is a spectrum. The avg age for being diagnosed with ASD/Level 1/Asperger's type is ~10 yrs old. And a significant number are never diagnosed or diagnosed as an adult.

[Anonymous]

I think you do need to take a deep breath and just enjoy your child. 10 months is very early. That said, on reflection I had signs that my son was autistic at a very young age, like six months or so. He pumped his legs like crazy when he held him up, trying to jump before he could walk or even stand. We just thought he was an active baby, but the jumping basically hasn't stopped in the four years since then. He had sensory needs that while not obviously pointing toward autism did end up signifying something.

For me, it wasn't until he was about 15 months old that I really could tell there were problems. His were not responding to his name and complete avoidance of eye contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can a child meet all the milestones and have ASD? That's impossible.

OP, I'd wait till he's two before I would relax. There is a regressive autism.

Because it is a spectrum. The avg age for being diagnosed with ASD/Level 1/Asperger's type is ~10 yrs old. And a significant number are never diagnosed or diagnosed as an adult.

"Spectrum" doesn't mean what you think it means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, wait... you have posted on this board multiple times seeking reassurance from people that your child doesn't have autism?

Please stop. Jesus.

Wow, for some reason this thread brought out the meanies and those with reading comprehension issues. I posted about being concerned once before, while I was pregnant with DS2, because any informed parent knows about risk factors.

I can't believe all these awful posters are parents of ASD kids. I just don't. Those I met in real life , and even on this board, shared the same worry about having another child with ASD. It doesn't mean that I'm worried 24/7 and I don't enjoy my kids, quite the contrary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can a child meet all the milestones and have ASD? That's impossible.

OP, I'd wait till he's two before I would relax. There is a regressive autism.

Because it is a spectrum. The avg age for being diagnosed with ASD/Level 1/Asperger's type is ~10 yrs old. And a significant number are never diagnosed or diagnosed as an adult.

"Spectrum" doesn't mean what you think it means.

NP here. Spectrum means that there is a broad definition of autism -- some people will more more severely affected and won't meet certain milestones as babies/toddlers and others will be less severely affected, will meet/appear to meet milestones, and then will flounder as social expectations increase (this could be in preschool or middle school).

What do you think spectrum means?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can a child meet all the milestones and have ASD? That's impossible.

OP, I'd wait till he's two before I would relax. There is a regressive autism.

Because it is a spectrum. The avg age for being diagnosed with ASD/Level 1/Asperger's type is ~10 yrs old. And a significant number are never diagnosed or diagnosed as an adult.

Thanks, that's in the back of my mind, too. FWIW, an expert told me that those people would have been diagnosed as toddlers today. Parents didn't know to look for signs like pointing, etc.. Ten years ago even they weren't doing M-CHAT at checkups, so it's no wonder that people with mild ASD weren't diagnosed until later, or never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you "relax"? Because your child can point?

OP, I just don't know WTF you're talking about. Sorry. Please get the hell out of Special Needs. And get yourself some Xanax.

Can you read? She has a kid with HFA. She is worried about his younger brother. That's pretty normal.

You are the problem in this forum, not her. Show some compassion or GTFO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can a child meet all the milestones and have ASD? That's impossible.

OP, I'd wait till he's two before I would relax. There is a regressive autism.

Because it is a spectrum. The avg age for being diagnosed with ASD/Level 1/Asperger's type is ~10 yrs old. And a significant number are never diagnosed or diagnosed as an adult.

Thanks, that's in the back of my mind, too. FWIW, an expert told me that those people would have been diagnosed as toddlers today. Parents didn't know to look for signs like pointing, etc.. Ten years ago even they weren't doing M-CHAT at checkups, so it's no wonder that people with mild ASD weren't diagnosed until later, or never.

Pediatricians are doing M-CHAT at checkups? That's a great idea!

/s/mother of a ten year old and a twelve year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can a child meet all the milestones and have ASD? That's impossible.

OP, I'd wait till he's two before I would relax. There is a regressive autism.

My child met all of his milestones, but has HFA. He hit all of the language milestones on time, but he didn't use language for...anything. He could use 2-3 words sentences, but didn't He knew the names of animals and their sounds, but he didn't produce language spontaneous to talk about them. He could ask for orange juice, but only did it a couple of times. He could point at something, but only did it a couple of times. He could engage in pretend play, but rarely did so. (Maybe once or twice). My pediatrician did a Denver Development checklist with him at every appointment, and he passed, but he still has HFA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You ARE a parent of an ASD kid.

I know that, thanks. And if you are one, too, you know that "if you've seen an ASD kid, you've seen an ASD kid." Hence my question to other parents. I just wanted to see if any of them had an ASD kid who pointed and didn't have the typical red flags as a baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can a child meet all the milestones and have ASD? That's impossible.

OP, I'd wait till he's two before I would relax. There is a regressive autism.

My child met all of his milestones, but has HFA. He hit all of the language milestones on time, but he didn't use language for...anything. He could use 2-3 words sentences, but didn't He knew the names of animals and their sounds, but he didn't produce language spontaneous to talk about them. He could ask for orange juice, but only did it a couple of times. He could point at something, but only did it a couple of times. He could engage in pretend play, but rarely did so. (Maybe once or twice). My pediatrician did a Denver Development checklist with him at every appointment, and he passed, but he still has HFA.

OP here, thanks for sharing. At what age was your DS diagnosed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can a child meet all the milestones and have ASD? That's impossible.

OP, I'd wait till he's two before I would relax. There is a regressive autism.

Because it is a spectrum. The avg age for being diagnosed with ASD/Level 1/Asperger's type is ~10 yrs old. And a significant number are never diagnosed or diagnosed as an adult.

Thanks, that's in the back of my mind, too. FWIW, an expert told me that those people would have been diagnosed as toddlers today. Parents didn't know to look for signs like pointing, etc.. Ten years ago even they weren't doing M-CHAT at checkups, so it's no wonder that people with mild ASD weren't diagnosed until later, or never.

Pediatricians are doing M-CHAT at checkups? That's a great idea!

/s/mother of a ten year old and a twelve year old

Yes, I believe it's become standard practice to do M-CHAT at the 18 month checkup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You ARE a parent of an ASD kid.

I know that, thanks. And if you are one, too, you know that "if you've seen an ASD kid, you've seen an ASD kid." Hence my question to other parents. I just wanted to see if any of them had an ASD kid who pointed and didn't have the typical red flags as a baby.

Yes, I did. But I wasn't paying particularly close attention. I think that if my ASD kid had been my second kid -- particularly if my first already had ASD -- I probably would have noticed subtle signs earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You ARE a parent of an ASD kid.

I know that, thanks. And if you are one, too, you know that "if you've seen an ASD kid, you've seen an ASD kid." Hence my question to other parents. I just wanted to see if any of them had an ASD kid who pointed and didn't have the typical red flags as a baby.

Then ASK that, OP. Don't present yourself as if you are stirring the shit pot and don't have a clue. Asking "can I relax once pointing starts" is Just. Plain. Weird. And offensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You ARE a parent of an ASD kid.

I know that, thanks. And if you are one, too, you know that "if you've seen an ASD kid, you've seen an ASD kid." Hence my question to other parents. I just wanted to see if any of them had an ASD kid who pointed and didn't have the typical red flags as a baby.

Then ASK that, OP. Don't present yourself as if you are stirring the shit pot and don't have a clue. Asking "can I relax once pointing starts" is Just. Plain. Weird. And offensive.

From the OP: "Is it possible for a baby to be pointing this early and still have ASD? "