Divorced mother of 2 is there hope for a new relationship?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you use the women's room? If yes you will have no problem owning lots of cats. The ex-DH will be the one with the issues.

There, fixed it for you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you use the women's room? If yes you will have no problem owning lots of cats. The ex-DH will be the one with the issues.

There, fixed it for you.

Ha, you wish. Get back to your video game.

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Anonymous wrote:At least you aren't 43 with little kids. You are 37 with a 5&10yr old.

What difference do those six years make?

As a man, a woman 37 is much more attractive to me than a woman 47 with the same aged kids. If I'm 45, I'm probably dating a 37yr old. if I'm looking for a life partner I don't want one who is still dragging around young children in her 50s. The 37 yr old will have much more flexibility in her later years.

Dude, you're enough to make me think twice about heterosexuality. what an asshole you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with being single? Focus on the children. This may be a hard transition for them.
Take it slow and make new friends. Let a new love interest happen in its own time. You are young and plenty of time for a second marriage or dating.

+1

Why should the children have to adjust to someone new? They are little. Give them stability.

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Anonymous wrote:I am planning on separating from my husband. By he time the divorce is final I will be 37 with a 10 year old and a 5 year old. What are my prospects for finding a new relationship? Assume I fairly average looking, financially stable, Pleasant to be around. Give it to me straight please . Right now he choice is between being single and being in a very uNhappy marriage.

You're in a fortunate position as a woman in her mid-to-late 30s. Two school aged kids. No bio clock ticking. So you can take it slow. You can remarry. Stay in shape and keep up your appearance.

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Anonymous wrote:At least you aren't 43 with little kids. You are 37 with a 5&10yr old.

What difference do those six years make?

As a man, a woman 37 is much more attractive to me than a woman 47 with the same aged kids. If I'm 45, I'm probably dating a 37yr old. if I'm looking for a life partner I don't want one who is still dragging around young children in her 50s. The 37 yr old will have much more flexibility in her later years.

Dude, you're enough to make me think twice about heterosexuality. what an asshole you are.

Why? Because I don't want to be saddled down at 55 going to little league games? I'm all for attending graduations though.

A 47yr old woman is going to have a pool of 50+men. Find me a 50yr old man who wants to play candyland.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude, you're enough to make me think twice about heterosexuality. what an asshole you are.

Save your wrath for the OP's soon-to-be ex-hubby, who will be dating a girl who is 27 with no kids. Sure will suck to be him.

[Anonymous]

I am 44, divorced and with a6 yr old. I need to losea good 30 lb but am otherwise decent looking. It is very hard to meet anyone interested in dating me. They are either objectively fugly, much fatter than I am or simply not interested. Having s young kid at this age is huge issue, even friends of friends af not interested in evening meeting me bc they can have their pick of younger women without kids.

Is am pretty much done.

[Anonymous]

You will be done with that attitude, PP. I wouldn't be interested in someone with your attitude either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 44, divorced and with a6 yr old. I need to losea good 30 lb but am otherwise decent looking. It is very hard to meet anyone interested in dating me. They are either objectively fugly, much fatter than I am or simply not interested. Having s young kid at this age is huge issue, even friends of friends af not interested in evening meeting me bc they can have their pick of younger women without kids.

Is am pretty much done.

I'm 40, not yet divorced, mother of two under 5 and pretty ok looking and I find that this isn't true. However, I have to say the pool is very small unless one wants to jump to the 50yr old man range. I would prefer to stick to someone who is 40-45z

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Anonymous wrote:I am 44, divorced and with a6 yr old. I need to losea good 30 lb but am otherwise decent looking. It is very hard to meet anyone interested in dating me. They are either objectively fugly, much fatter than I am or simply not interested. Having s young kid at this age is huge issue, even friends of friends af not interested in evening meeting me bc they can have their pick of younger women without kids.

Is am pretty much done.

I'm 40, not yet divorced, mother of two under 5 and pretty ok looking and I find that this isn't true. However, I have to say the pool is very small unless one wants to jump to the 50yr old man range. I would prefer to stick to someone who is 40-45z

It's not true. I have 5 friends who divorced in their mid 30's with young kids. All remaried within 3 years of their divorce. But their kids have all suffered in the process - learning to deal with living in two homes, having holidays split up between houses or not even seeing their one parent on a holiday, step siblings, etc. One friend is actually headed for her 2nd divorce.

[Anonymous]

Calm your hormones and focus on the kids.

[Anonymous]

Work on your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 44, divorced and with a6 yr old. I need to losea good 30 lb but am otherwise decent looking. It is very hard to meet anyone interested in dating me. They are either objectively fugly, much fatter than I am or simply not interested. Having s young kid at this age is huge issue, even friends of friends af not interested in evening meeting me bc they can have their pick of younger women without kids.

Is am pretty much done.

Yeah, but you really lose the weight just for yourself and the kids. Your health and well being depend on it.
Don't wait any longer time is not your friend.

Do it NOW.

[Anonymous]

Our next door neighbor got divorced at 37, kids were around 10 and 6, for 3 solid years she focused on the kids , herself and her business. Around 2 yrs back she started dating, met a gorgeous, successful, wonderful man who is now her husband. I feel so happy for her, her new husband is truly a gem. I hope you find peace and happiness in whatever decision you make. Hugs!